HOW DO YOU CONFRONT YOUR HUSBAND ABOUT POSSIBLE DRUG ABUSE?

Jennifer - posted on 10/18/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Let me start with....

My husband had a major surgury last year, it was very bad and he was in a lot of pan after. The doc gave him pain medication and he healed nicely but still had a lot of problems with the internal healing i guess....

this was his 3 time having this surgury, I noticed a while after his surgury he was still taking some pain meds.. when I asked him about it he told me that the doctor gave them to him because he was having a lot of pain in his side and back rom the surgury.,... then months and months went by I kept an eye on things and didnt seem to have any problems, I didnt think he was taking them all the time once ina while on a rough day... SO I THOUGHT.



about 4 months this topic came back up and there was a pretty big fight about it... I was told that it would stop. it was a rough 3 weeks because odviously his body was way to use to them being in his system... so after about 3 weeks he seemed to be really good, didnt hear anythinig about pain and he said that he felt really good. I was glad that maybe this bump in the road was over.



NOW to find that he stopped taking the pain medication that he was taking for something less strong im guessing....

But have keeping an eye on them I am finding that he is taking like 6 or 8 a day, now i could be wrong but counting the last 3 days and it seems to be that 6 -8 go missing each day



Normally my reaction would be to just fly off the handle have a huge fight and go from there becuase I gues syou can im a hot head with this kinda stuff...

I'm just looking for maybe a different way? Or maybe just someone to talk to becuase I cant talk to family and i wish to not speak to my friends about this.

what would some of you ladies do?

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Jennifer - posted on 10/18/2012

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@september.... yeah your right! I guess I'm just worried that like he is going to get difensive witch i already is probably going to happen, and im prepared for that, I just am so worried about the outcome.... I feel like an idiot becuase my last bf had issues with drugs and i tried over and over to help him and finally i just gave up and left him.... with my husband, he didnt do anything when we first got together... and its so different with him, honestly he is truly everyting to me other then my daughter of course.... but I love this kid so much, known him for year and years, and i guess deep down Im just really affraid to lose him. and that bugs me becuase at the same time I dont think that anyone is worth this amouth of stress and worry....sorry I'm like venting now... sorry girl, just feel like i dont have anyone to talk to....

Thanks about what you said I know i need to confront him... and we need to figure it out as a couple. i deffinliltly need to tell him im worried and also let him know im here for him.

maybe that will help him open up about and maybe he will get the help he needs..

thanks again girl.

September - posted on 10/18/2012

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Don't be terrified, he has a problem and he needs confronting. If you’re not up for confronting him maybe a friend or family member could? I've gone through this recently with a family member so I know exactly what you're deal with. If he does not get help now it's only going to get worse.

Jennifer - posted on 10/18/2012

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Hi September.

Well when he first had his surgury, for 2 weeks after his surgury he was taking dilladis then they gave him Oxy 10s or somthing Im not sure... didnt pay that much attention, I dont know a whole lot about them anyways... But whats hes taking now is percocets.

i dont think that there is any need for someone to take 6 or 8 a day, and im not 100 percent sure thats how many he is taking, but it sure seems that way.

I know he has a problem with them, becuase we went throught all this stuff with him stopping them a few months back,

I was under the impression he had stopped but he has not... hes been keeping it from me

and i know he is keeping it from me becuase its a problem that he doesnt want to deal with

so now I have to confront him on and i am terrified.

September - posted on 10/18/2012

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If he is taken 6-8 pain pills a day and has no pain then he defiantly has a problem. Rather than getting into a huge fight over it I would just calmly let him know you're worried about him being addicted to pain medication. What is he taking?

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