Amy - posted on 01/27/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
My husband and I have been married for over 3yrs now he has a 12 almost 13yr old daughter and we have a 2yr old son. my step duaghter only comes to stay with us every other weekend sometimes less. but she thinks we have to sit around and do nothing until she is with us. My sons bday is right near christmas so i did his party the week before but she couldnt come because she went to disneyland with her mom and her sisters. last weekend my sister took me and my son to disneyland and she paid for everything but now that my step daughter found out shes mad and thinks i dont like her (which is not true i love her very much). How do we explain to her that we cant stop our lives just because shes not here all the time and that its not fair to my son that she gets to go do everything because she has 2 families and he only has 1 so he doesnt get to do as much. My husband and I do very little without her most of the time the stuff we do is maybe go on a date night or go to vegas which thats not for kids anyways we always plan big trips around when she is with us and here lately we have even had to beg to come visit. This was the first time i took my son anywhere big with out her and my husband didnt even go becuase he felt guilty going without her. so he misses out on both of his childrens life due to one getting jealous. anyways how can we make her see that we love her but we cant sit around for 2weeks or longer to wait to do somehting not saying we want to do something all the time but evry 6mths or so if something comes up.