How do you deal with playing both roles...Mom & Dad


Rachel - posted on 02/09/2010




That is definitely a challenge. Although I am not a single parent, I know many who are. Most recently my husband's cousin got married after being a single parent for a little over 4 years. It really is one day at a time and doing the best you can with the resources you have. It is hard but it is worth it. There are lots of special resources for single parents that may help you. A lot of times different church groups will offer classes or support groups for single parents. You may want to look into something like that. Good luck.


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Lindsey - posted on 09/13/2013




I am a single mother and have been for a few years yet even before that while with his father as he wasn't often around. I love being a single mom I have lots of help and support from my parents. My sons father is recently in a new relationship with a women who has children from a previous relationship and I am finding it a constant battle to try and get my ex to spend time with my son. He is constantly cancelling his weekends yet I find he's taking his gf and family to the lake. He tells a judge he wants 50/50 yet when he does have him all he does is throw him in front of a tv while him and his gf go out and run errands (my son is 8) NOT COOL. All I want is for my son to have a relationship with his father and his new family, I want him to feel included and just as important. ITS TEARING ME UP INSIDE!!

Vicki - posted on 02/10/2010




Most days seems i have to do this 5 min at a time..i question myself a lot about if i am doing the right thing, saying or teaching the right son's father has never been in his life, he is almost 10 now..i allow my son to know how i am feeling and how hard it can be sometimes..i do my best not to shelter him from the world and he has responsibilities around the house..he gets himself up and off to school and he even helps out and does the laundry..YAY!! lol...i am here to guide him, teach him, love him..and it is his job to annoy the crap out of!!! he does his job well..i learn the most about life from him..i love being a single parent..most of the time..ty for ur post!!

Alana - posted on 02/10/2010




One day at a time. Talk to friends.
I also lost my mom 6 months before I got pregnant so I am doing it without her help too. You feel it though: your first trip to emerg with baby, all his firsts. But you have to keep telling yourself that you're a strong woman, you can do this.. and your baby loves you very much.

Jessica - posted on 02/10/2010




i am a single mum and have my momments some days i hate it and get down about it but i look at my daughter and relise that her dad is missing out and i look at all the positves i get to raise her and teach her things and she will always come to me... where abouts do u live i live in brisbane australia maybe we could catch up and hang out or something and just get out there and meet new ppl :)

Danielle - posted on 02/10/2010



26 day at a time! i have been a single mum to my 20 month daughter for over 17months...
We live on our own, i work to provide for us both and it is a constant struggle!...But at the same time i LOVE every second of it! i can appreciate all the hard times we have gone through because it has made me a much stronger person. With my daughter by my side i can face anything :)

Its hard to b a single parent and being the only one who ur child relies on and looks upto. But it helps to have a support network. My family are mine. They have helped me soo much and are always there for me and my daughter.

Just take each day as it does get easier..although it takes a long time.

Sarah - posted on 02/10/2010




I am recently single and have four kids, so i just keep breathing and take it one day at a time. I still find it hard to accept help, but i'm sure things will settle down and get easier.

User - posted on 02/09/2010




I also am a single parent and I know it can be EXTREMLY frustrating. Just do the best that you can. There are no rules and take all the help that you can. Do not think you have to do it all yourself. Good luck B

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