How do you explain that the grandfather is actually the stepgrandfather?

Emilie - posted on 11/28/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )




Yesterday my son started asking questions about my "real dad". I have never talked to my kids about him before. He left us when I was just a baby and if I saw him out in public I probably wouldn't even recognize him (because it has been that long since I have seen him). Yesterday we was having thanksgiving (late I know) but my 9 year old son was asking when my dad was going to come and why I don't ever see him. I haven't even talked to my 5 year old daughter about it before, she thinks that my stepdad is my dad and she calls him paw paw. I just don't want to confuse them. I am divorced and they still can't understand how there dad is still there dad even though me and him arn't married any more and they don't understand when I tell them that their step mom isn't there mom, that I am there "real mom". I guess I am just not good at explaining things.


Kari - posted on 11/28/2011




If your kids are anything like mine, they will understand if you just tell them the truth as it is. He left when you were little, and the man you call Dad has been there for you the way their Daddy is for them. As far as the Mom and stepmom issue, I would just explain it as, you carried them in your belly and she didnt.

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