How do you feel about coparenting with grandparents?

Joyvkaz - posted on 07/24/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )




My daughter currently lives with her grandparents and we don't always get along. We don't always agree on the same things. What are your thoughts?


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Sarah - posted on 07/28/2015




I guess it depends on the situation, my parents would not have been happy raising my kids with me. They loved being grandparents and all of the perks that come with the role. To ask them to step up and discipline, educate and help support my kids would have only been in very dire circumstances.

Raye - posted on 07/28/2015




Any time parenting responsibilities are split, you have to accept that what happens at the other house while it's their turn to "parent" the children is none of your business. If the basic needs of the children are being met and there's no actual danger to them, then butt out. Likewise, they need to butt out of what happens when you have the children.

That, of course, applies to persons who are legal guardians of the children. If you are your daughter's legal guardian, and you have not given them rights through written agreement or formal court orders, then you should be raising her... not her grandparents. If you don't like how they raise her, and you're the guardian, then take her back and raise her the way you see fit. If you can't, then be glad someone is willing to step in and do your job for you.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2015




Why is she living with her grandparents rather than her actual parents?

If the grandparents are raising her, then they are raising her. You do not co-parent with anyone but the actual parents.

Dove - posted on 07/24/2015




I wouldn't be able to do it, but that's one of the reasons my kids have always and will always live with me.

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