Jessica - posted on 12/11/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
My husband has custody of his 4 children, I have a teenage girl, and things have been wonderful for the last 4 years. The biomom left for another man and a "better" life, and felt my husband would never find love or anyone since he had 4 kids, let alone someone that her kids LOVED!! We have been a great family, despite the ex feeding the kids guilt, anger, and lies. She refuses to acknowledge me or my daughter or calling us by name, and she lives in this fantasy cyber world where she tells anyone that wants to listen on FB how she loves her kids and they have the best relationship in the world...although she left them, and stayed away for over year and now claims her throne. I haven't allowed that to bother me, because I have a beautiful daughter, a great relationship with my husband and his wonderful children. My issue is his 16yr old recently asked my daughter to betray me by lying to me and disobeying our house rules, she has also been bullying her younger sister, is very self centered and selfish. She seems to be changing, and I can't help but think that it's because she's been exposed to her mom and maybe she's conflicted, influenced, or just torn...Idk. She didn't have a relationship with her mom for over 1 1/2yrs and they have since reconciled, but now she seems to want to seek her mom for comfort and now seems to be defending her moms irrational behavior. I feel disappointed in her, and I keep telling myself to forgive her, and I say I am, but when I'm around her, I want her away from me, and it's totally obvious I can't shake it. I need help pulling myself back together before I end up pushing so hard I cause more damage. I know what to say, I'm just not doing it. I'm stressed, seeking guidance because I feel betrayed. Why can't I shake this feeling of betrayal?