How do you foster self-esteem in your child?

Jennifer - posted on 03/14/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




I'm looking for ways to boost self-seteem in my 5 year girl. She is currently having to navigate some tough social waters with some "stuck up" girls at preschool. She has been excluded from play and snubbed. I have two older boys who didn't have these same issues. Is it a girl thing?


Shahnaz - posted on 03/15/2011




Hi. i have an 8 yr old daughter and when she was around 5 i found out she had a higher IQ but a rather low EQ.
So i did everything in my power to balance the scales and am happy to say it worked.

I sent her for a modelling course, kiddies self esteem building workshops, playdates, arts and crafts workshops where she got to mingle with kids that were not in her school etc.
I basically tried most kiddies workshops and and arts and crafts things cause its what she likes most and she got to associate with other kids of diff ages and areas.

Now i have an 8 yr old that is oozing confidence and a leader.
Sometimes i think i have over done it cause she is almost a dictator .........but i rather her be this way than someone being bullied.

Shana - posted on 03/14/2011




Girls definitely seem to have it tougher but boys also go through these social issues too. I have a 5 yr old daughter (6 next month) and we are dealing with a few social issues as well. She has just started in a new school and luckily seems to be adjusting well. If this is all happenign at school maybe you should go in for a sit down with her teacher. As a parent you can drop in and sit through a class whenever you like, maybe seeing how things play out will give you a better idea what is going on. Girls now are under so much pressure from every direction. Maybe you could invite the "stuck-up" girls over for a playdate (one at a time) and that would give your daughter and that girl a chance to know each other without other kids around. It might turn out that these girls all become best friends. I hope it works out, it hurts us when our kids hurt =)


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Tara - posted on 03/14/2011




If you find something like dance, ballet, or gymnastics, something she is good at can boost her self esteem and find new friends. I've worked with preschoolers for many years and its an age thing. Little girls can be mean. I hope this helps.

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