how do you get a stubburn 2 year old to listen

Gabe - posted on 05/09/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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have tried pretty much everything am losing my mind and would appreciate any suggestons

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Amanda - posted on 05/09/2009

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My son is 4 now and he is a little tougher, because he was just diagnosed with adhd and we are trying to see what we can do without meds, but anyways he really enjoys that we now have a poster that works with dry erase markers and we write all of his main things he does throughout the day like naptime, lunchtime, bathtime, etc and he gets a smiley face if he does them well and things that have been really difficult for him in the past, for him nap time was awful, but now when he wakes up we praise him tons and he gets to pick a sticker and wear it for the rest of the day and then when people ask where he got the sticker he is so excited to tell them that he did something really great for it. It works really well for us and I hope this helped! Just stick with it and remember it won't be like this for long.

Cathyl1 - posted on 05/09/2009

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i have a 2 and a half year old and she is a good kid but there are days that she just does not listen and will do nothing she is told,smacking doesnt work so when she does not listen i put her in her room and take toys out and shut door,she screams the house down but after 5 mins in her room she opens door and says sorry mum.i tell her at her level that not listening is naughty and then tell her what i want her to do and believe it or not she does it straight away.you may not like my suggestion and that is fine but she listens alot more now,cz she hates bein sent to her room especially when all the toys and fun things are taken away.

Linda - posted on 05/09/2009

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Consistency is the key to all discipline!! When you tell your child to stop or no,mean it,it is ok to say no to children!They might not like it,but you are in charge!! I am a mom of teenagers and I am a nanny for twins and a girl,I been caring for them for 7 years,since twins were 5 months and I learned alot about disciplining kids,it isn't that hard.I stay consistent with them and they know what to expect from me,you can still love a child and give discipline!! Yelling and screaming doesn't do any good,kids don't respond to that,like others said get down to there level and look them in the eyes and talk to them,tell them what is it mommy wants and find out what they want too! Take time outs to,if you feel you are going to explode say mommy needs a time out and when your ready to behave I'll be back to listen,it sounds strange but it works,over time!!

Good luck and happy mothers day!!

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Chaya - posted on 02/09/2013

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You are bigger than him, you can use physical force. That is, remove him from the situation if he refuses to remove himself. The excuse that "He has a mind of his own" is apt to get the child into big trouble as an adult. Yes, he has a mind of his own, teach him to use it wisely.

Susan - posted on 02/09/2013

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ok I need help my ge=rand sons 2 and 3 are living with me for a while with my daughter , anyway they DON'T LISTEN no matter what they have tons of toys the 3 yr old will sit and play most of the time by himself or with his mom or me ,the 2 yr old he just wants to get into every thing he can and no matter how much you tell him no or stay out he turns around and does it again . he doesnt leave anything alone and you can call him till your blue in the face and he will smile at you and go about what he was doing anyway I am sorry I don't remember my 4 children acting this way I am 60 and I want to have fun with my grandsons but this is getting hard . please help. thanks

Tami - posted on 05/09/2009

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Patience and consistency! And I agree with Heather....get down to their level, look the child in the eyes and speak calmly but firmly. Not all discipline works for all children. Try to find the way that reaches your child. (Time out in the same room, time out in their room alone...etc.)

Heather - posted on 05/09/2009

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Try not to let yourself get frustrated with your child as this will make matters worse. Take both your child's arms and gently keep hold of them at the childs side, get down to their level and talk in a calm but firm way explaining in simple terms why you need them to listen to you. It does take time but remember they will be frustrated too.

Theresa - posted on 05/09/2009

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Sorry Gabe, I have no help- But I hear you, Matty is 19 months and you would think he was 19 years the way his independence is!!! I hope someone can help

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