how do you get over your husband of 26 yrs telling you hes leaving you for a younger woman


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Phyllis - posted on 01/01/2010




I was the other woman unbeknown to me.My partner of 30 years told me that he and he's partner then had split up. I never found out the truth until after his son to his former partner was born a year earlier than ours was.

Dana - posted on 12/31/2009




A good kick to the balls. Seriously, I'm sorry you are going through this. My father left my mother for a younger woman after 23 yrs of marriage, he even got the little hot red sports car. Pathetic. After a few years of hell with that women he divorced her. The whole while he regretted what he had done to my mother and still does. Mid-life crisis is real and it's a real bitch. I've seen many men go through this. It's almost as if they're a different person than the one you've known and that's because they are. Try not to take it personal, I know that sounds ridiculous. I swear it seems like they are out of their mind and they aren't making it personal. Again, I'm truly sorry you're going through this. You will be happy again and that's what counts at times like these.

Natasha - posted on 12/31/2009




Both my Mother & Sisters have been married multiple times and had problems husbands for various things. They are of the mentality that, your life is your own and don't let another be a foundation for you. You come into this world alone and you go onward alone. You just surround yourself with people that you love and experiences that you want to have. At the end of the day your life is about YOU.

Veronica - posted on 12/31/2009




Well not sure if this really helps, but the father of my son (we did not marry) is now with and has another child with a much younger women she is just now 20 and he is 39. I have to admit it kinda grossed me out at first, but then I was thinking well if he is happy and she treats my son well then I am very happy for them. You cannot change things so you kinda have to find the bright side of all of it. It is very hard and sometimes it might drive you nuts, but good things will come your way also. Just keep your head up and be proud of who you are and what you can offer someone else. You might not believe this but when the right time comes your soon to be X will be jealous of the one that you are with.

Carolyn - posted on 12/31/2009




Do not know been happily married for 28yrs. Hoping it last the rest of my life. I can not even imagine having to start dating all over again at my age, (47). I think I would just rather be alone if anything were to happen. If he is looking else where after all this time, then maybe he's not worth it? I would have to count this as his lose. I wish you the best of luck.

Sharon - posted on 12/31/2009




By burning all his clothes and then burning his fav football team mascot in effigy. OK I take that back, they might say its a violent thing, take it all to good will and use the donation as a tax write off.

THEN! You get a private detective to get proof he's having an affair to use against him in the divorce.

THEN! You find out if your state has a law against extramarital affairs or a homewrecker law and sue the friggen hell out of her!

Then by taking all the cash and getting one hell of a make over and taking a SWEET vacation.

THEN!!! you look forward to all the positive things... those movies he wouldn't watch? Yep - its your turn.

Those curtains he didn't want? uh huh - time to redecorate.

My mind is spinning with the fun spin you can put on this.

HEY? whether you find it fun at all - DO IT. You gotta keep moving forward.

Renee - posted on 12/31/2009




Tely, I feel for you I really do, my husband left for the idea of another woman. There wasn't another woman although I think he thought he was just going to walk out there and find some great woman. Well he didn't and now he lives alone in a small apartment. I know this isn't the same and you may love your husband still, I however was no longer in love with mine. I do wish you the best of luck. I wouldn't rush out and try to date right away take some time to figure out what you want and how you want to live. You didn't say if you have children or not, they are the focus of my life. I am dating someone now, but I am very cautious of marriage. I don't think I'll be ready for that for years. Tely, he might be leaving for her but studies show that most men who leave their wives for another woman don't marry them or if they do the marriage doesn't last very long. You can find support here and even join a local womens group where you live. I do wish you all the best for the new year. Take care.

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