How do YOU get your toddler to stay in bed?

Katherine - posted on 04/18/2012 ( 64 moms have responded )

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So many questions on this. We need your tips moms!

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Yvonne - posted on 04/20/2012

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Hi Katherine, I have 3 children this worked with all of them, I took them to the store let them pick out a favorite toy, plush and soft ofcourse, I would let them keep that (my youngest Zale has a spiderman stuffed toy he is 4 and still uses lol) toy in bed with them only if they stayed in bed if they got up I would say you are waking spidey so I have to take him to bed with me, and I did until they were ready to stay in bed to put spidey to sleep, everytime he got up I took it to bed with me, when he stayed I gave it to him, hope this helps and good luck!!!

Valerie - posted on 04/20/2012

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My daughter is 4 and loves having stuffed animals in bed with her. I took one away each time she got out of bed. She did not get them back that night. She quickly learned that to keep her animals with her she had to stay in bed.

Faye - posted on 04/23/2012

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I had finally had it with my 3 year old. I bought a calender for that year and she chose a sticker (which I already had) each morning that she woke up in her bed.



After the first 5, she was able to choose a small (less than $5) toy when we went to the store next. After 10, she was rewarded an ice cream cone from McDonald's. After 20, she was rewarded with a longer trip to the park. Our big prize (which we never got to) was a trip to Chuck E Cheese, she kept slipping out of bed and laying in the hallway or the couch (if we had already went to bed). Oh man when she realized how close she came to that prize she was mad at herself.



I think we had chosen 50 stickers for that large prize, (it has been way too long). All of these prizes can be adjusted to fit your budget. The idea behind moving the prize line was so the large prize can be worked into the budget. And being 3 she was also learning to count. Another idea that could also work, would be to use complete weeks.

Suzie - posted on 07/23/2012

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I don't think this is a "to sleep in bed or not to sleep in bed with mom and dad debate". Everybody does what works for them. I let my daughter sleep in bed with me until she was 18 months old and then for us... it was right to move her to her own bed and now she sleeps through the night in her own bed without getting up unless she has a bad dream or a thunderstorm wakes her up.

I think the question begin asked is from somone who is ready for their child to sleep and stay in their own bed. I dont' know why it has to turn in to a disagreement about child saftey, security, future dependency issues...

Thats the one thing that frustrates me about parenting.... so many are judgemental and feels whatever they do is right for everone. At some point you just have to do whats right for you and move on. Along the way pick up "tricks" from other people... if it works, great, if it doesn't, then move on and find something that does.

Kathryn - posted on 05/22/2012

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Hello - when our children were younger we would start a night time routine and try to stick to it!!
dinner, soothing relaxing bath and then a bed time story/ies - then it's bedtime, we would check
our children at regular intervals and extend the time slowly.

Good luck

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I am currently struggling with this. I am trying to get my almost 2 year old to sleep through the night in her own bed, but I just don't have the patience when she's screaming for me in the middle of the night.

Nicky - posted on 09/03/2012

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Katie please dont be to hard on yourself..I think that how you are managing each different situation is geniuo...you just have to do what works at the time and for each child..

I have 2 kids a 10 year old and a 2 year old..I get asked 'why the big gap'? and my answer is that my first one was a AAA rated Ballbreaker . She tantrummed in the night for 1-2 hours trying to get into our bed and I paid many experts for their advice and was told to keep telling her in calm voice to go back to her room. She had over heard me explaining to my husband what to do (we were in another room and she was listening) and in the night she would scream.."I am NOT going to do what that lady told you to tell me to do!" I am going to keep waking you up for the rest of your life!".

Well now she has a little brother who is scared of storms and rain and she gets so mad..and I just chuckle.

Monique - posted on 08/29/2012

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Honestly! I was always the mom to keep the babies in bed with me (i know...i know.. bad mommy lol) but its true! I always had to remember to wake up and put my children in there cribs. As they began to get grow into toddlers, they would still try and stay the whole entire night with me in bed but when they'd fall asleep I'd put them in there own beds. No matter what time of the night it was or how frequently I had too ( they'd never stay put for the first few months) but it became a cycle and I guess it just grew on them to be in there own beds at night....There's nothing magical about this process with children its just setting the routine for them :)

Amanda - posted on 08/24/2012

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We dealt with this once we got custody of my husbands 2 children. Our youngest boy would go to sleep in his bed but in the middle of the night he would get up and go crawl in bed with his sister. She would get so annoyed with him cause it would wake her up and then they both wouldnt get a good nights rest. He has some conditions..hes ADHD, ODD, and mentally delayed. He doesnt quite understand you when you are trying to teach him something. We were trying everything everyone was telling us to try and nothing worked. One day at his play therapy appointment his counselor suggesting some type of an alarm for when he steps out of bed so we would know when he was getting up. We couldnt find anything for him to step off loud enough for us to hear. We than went to the dollar store and bought one of those cheap alarms that go off if a door or windows open. That night he opened the door and we got up with him and put him right back in bed. After 6 nights of constant alarms and putting him right back to bed he finally realized that he had to sleep in his bed. That broke the habbit. We only left the alarm on for 2 weeks. We than took it off after the 2 weeks and ever since then he stays in his bed all night! :) Now he loves being in his bed and doesnt want his sister sleeping with him! ha! Just try all alternatives until you can break the habbit. It will take TIME and PATIENCE. But in the end it will all work out!

Rozy - posted on 08/17/2012

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This helps a lot. My daughter is 10 years and she want me to be with her so i put her on her bed and i sit with my computer just nearby until she fall sleep i am just training her to be independent. is this a good way
Rozy

Navy - posted on 08/17/2012

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With our daughter, whose almost three, we've maintained a pretty good bedtime routine since she was about five to six months old. My husband had to leave for basic training in the Navy three weeks after she was born, so I helped my daughter grow accustomed to going to bed at a certain time. Regardless of if she pitched a fit. I knew that she was well taken care of and was just fussy so I would let her cry. It payed off for us really well.

She began sleeping through the night, and now we have a bedtime routine of her going to bed around 7PM-8PM. She picks out a book, we help her brushes her teeth, get her pajamas on, and then she crawls in bed and we read said book. Afterward, we say our good-nights, give hugs/kisses, and shut the door. She has a favorite blanket that she sleeps on and then two others she snuggles under. Along with her assortment of "guards" or stuffed animals. Lol.

We also haven't implemented a night light in her room, so she has no reason to be afraid of the dark. I don't know if she'll grow more accustomed to this idea, or if she will develop a fear later, but it's working so far.

Cassondra - posted on 08/11/2012

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lol nothing really i can do unless i lay on her lol JUST KIDDING THERE! i usually assume she sleeps in her bed but sometimes i come in and she's asleep on the floor with all her stuffed animals pillows and blankets or she snuck into her sisters bed. now with the issue of her staying in her room was bigger with us. we actually had to lock her door from the outside because she was running in the kitchen at night and id rather have her stay in her room than find a knife or something she shouldn't eat you know? Id say keep the kid in a crib for a while tho untill you feel they can handle being in a toddler bed. for me my oldest and middle child were 2 1/2.

Joanna - posted on 08/11/2012

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I have had the same routine for my son since he was 4 months old. He's now 21 months old and is still a good sleeper at night. He goes to bed at 7 every night and is up at 7 every morning. We do bath at 6pm, then wind down time and bottle in his bed for 7pm. He feeds himself his bottle, and since he has been in his big boy bed (about 6 weeks) all I have to do is show him his bottle and he jumps up in his bed and pulls his covers over himself. I wanted to be able to have some time to myself in the evening, especially important as I worked full time and my husband works nights. I am now a SAHM after moving to Canada from the uk, so I need some time at night to get my sanity back haha!

Mom - posted on 07/27/2012

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Night lights that move or have a glowing theme on the ceiling. Also glow in the dark paint making stars, planets on their ceilings. They love going to bed cause it's a show on the ceiling that lulls them off to sleep while watching. I found a fish tank worked well too.

Krista - posted on 07/25/2012

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A nightly routine helps, and part of it is also delaying the transition for as long as you can get away with it.

We recently switched our son over, and made a big deal about how exciting it was that he was getting a big-boy bed. So the bed is a happy, exciting, cool place for him. We also have our regular routine : bath, teeth, jammies, 3 stories, kisses and hugs, and night-night. He knows that he's allowed to get out of his bed if he wants another stuffed toy or if he wants to get a book to look at (he has a nightlight near his bed), but he's not allowed to leave his room.

So far, it's working really well.

Julie - posted on 07/23/2012

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What works for one doesn't always work for another. I agree with Sarah that it's too bad that this has turned into a debate about co-sleeping, especially since the question was about how to help a child stay in their own bed.
What worked for my older daughter was a tip I got from a book. I created a "Get Out Of Bed Free" card which I made out of construction paper. I made it really pretty and wrote on it what it was for, then explained it to my daughter. She took it to bed with her every night and she could use it ONCE per night to get out of bed for any of the following reasons:
drink
bathroom
rocking with mom for 5 minutes
I think there were a few more but I don't remember them now.
Once she got up, she explained what she was using her pass for and then had to surrender it for the rest of the night, which meant she was not allowed to get out of bed for any reason. Many kids will hang onto that pass for dear life and not get out of bed because they want to save it should they need it later. My daughter figured out the system quickly and used it once every night. She would go to bed, then after about 5 or 10 minutes would get up, hand me the pass and ask for rocking. I would sit and rock her for 5 minutes and she would go back to bed for the night. I didn't mind it because I know that it was once a night and would only last for as long as I wanted to rock her. She felt some control over the situation and so felt content to stay in bed after using her pass.
For my younger daughter this didn't work so we put a baby gate up in her doorway. She was told that if she got out of bed after using her pass she would have to have the gate up so she would stay in her room. We only put up the gate after she had been put down and already used the pass once. She hated having that gate up and fought it but it did help to keep her in her room. That is until she learned how to climb over it. Yes, some kids are just difficult in some ways. She never really learned how to stay in her own bed and would get up in the middle of the night every night to climb in with someone else. We used to call her our ghost because she did this every night. She's a very social, loving snuggly child, even now as a teen, she'll snuggle with me and has no qualms about hugging or kissing me in public. It's just her personality to want to be around other people. We just learned to live with it as she started climbing in with us after we were asleep and usually didn't interrupt us too much. She was like a little cat, climbing in and patting the bed to find a spot where she would fit. To us it was endearing.
She's 14 now and loves to sleep in her own bed. In fact I sometimes have a hard time getting her out of it now.
So try some things out. Figure out what works for you and go with it, knowing that "this too shall pass", and there will come a day when you won't be able to get that child out of bed.

Suzie - posted on 07/23/2012

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I think this best thing you can do is create a nightly routine that works for you.

My daughter is 3 and has been in a full size bed since she was 18 months old and sleeps through the night. Its a rare occassion that she comes into my room in the wee hours of the morning... and maybe once a month gets out of bed after about 20 min. stating she's not tired or she needs a drink.

Here's our routine:
Dinner
Playtime
Bath
30 minutes of tv
Bedtime- She gets in bed with 50 million stuffed animals, her security blankets, etc.We say prayers, I remind her she is not to get out of her bed unless she needs to go potty. I think this is crucial.

If she says she is not tired, I tell her that's fine. You do not have to go to sleep but you do need to stay in your bed. I think this really helps too. It takes away the I'm not tired excuse. Sometimes when she is genuinely not ready to fall asleep, I can hear her in there interacting with her babies and stuffed animals... Every once in a while I have to tell her no more talking. But on a daily basis... there really isn't an issue.

Oh and if they cry or whine... give it 5 min. or stand by the door and listen if its a legitament concern... like I need to go potty. But if they are whining for the sake of it.... they'll stop in a few minutes time.

Jana - posted on 07/20/2012

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OMG I hear ya! Unless I stay with him until he falls asleep, he's out of bed the second I'm out of sight.

Chaya - posted on 07/18/2012

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Bed sharing is fine if you only have one kid. I'm one of 25 ish, that would never have worked, even if we all decided to stop at age five or six.

Esther - posted on 07/18/2012

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I have found out recently my kids will usually pass out when I stretch their legs, then massage their legs, back, shoulders, neck, arms... By the time I finish down to the hands, they are OUT like a light.

Yeaok872004 - posted on 07/18/2012

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My son sleeps in his room but then he gets up every nite n climbs into our bed... I really should put him back into his bed but I don't.. I figure he won't sleep with us forever.. My daughter did the same thing until we got her a big girl bed now she's in hers 24-7! I guess it's time 2 upgrade my sons bed:)!

Chaya - posted on 07/02/2012

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When my daugher refused to stay in bed, we put her in the crib until she realized she had a choice. The crib stayed up for three years, but other children used it, so it was available.

Krista - posted on 06/15/2012

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We're transitioning our son to a big-boy bed in the next few weeks, so we'll see how it goes! I'm noting down these tips, though.

(And no bedsharing for us. We've let him sleep with us on occasion if he's sick, but it's like sharing a bed with a live, caffeinated trout.)

Lydia - posted on 06/15/2012

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our daughter slept with us since birth and we have recently moved her out of our bedroom because baby no 2 is on the way...and i couldn't cope with having her in our bed and the discomfort of the bump. but for now she is not falling asleep in her bed, so I'll take her to our bed and wait until she is asleep and carry her over to her room. usually she sleeps through and comes to our bed in the morning for some cuddles. for me this is enough for now, I feel to pregnant to push any other routine at the moment, since I am also most evenings alone (my husband often works in the evening hours). from what i tried in the past, most things actually will keep her up longer (reading books, movies, having a doll or plush toy just makes her play, music...) the fastest way for her to go to sleep is just for me to be next to her and all lights off.

Brandie - posted on 06/12/2012

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My daughter would join me in bed every night for about 2 years and I wouldn't know she was there until morning. I finally bribed her with candy (something I knew she's actually work for). I kept reminding her before bed that if she woke up in her own bed that she'd get a (small) piece for breakfast. It took her about 3 nights of waking up in my bed before she picked up on the fact that she actually had to stay in her bed if she wanted candy for breakfast. Every since the first morning of candy, she has stayed in her own bed EVERY night!

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/11/2012

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Katherine, you know how much fun I've had with my baby staying asleep.

I really want to try super glue. But that doesn't work. I'm trying to let my 15 month old start falling asleep by herself on the couch after nursing then DH puts her to bed. It kinda works for a few hours.

Diamond And Rubies - posted on 06/08/2012

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Laura,
I'm with you. I feel better, and know mine is safe,csecure and happy in the bed with us.
When she is sick, I can hear her breathing, which helped us take her to ERvwhen she had been diagnosised with pneumonia. So, frankly I don't carecwhatcanyone says about co sleeping . It's perfect for me, the only difference is, Americans haven't realize they have different sleep surfaces, and bedding that other countries do whom also have lower infant mortality rates.
I wrote a research paper on this for my degree. I spent weeks doing literature reviews.

Diamond And Rubies - posted on 06/08/2012

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Laura,
I'm with you. I feel better, and know mine is safe,csecure and happy in the bed with us.
When she is sick, I can hear her breathing, which helped us take her to ERvwhen she had been diagnosised with pneumonia. So, frankly I don't carecwhatcanyone says about co sleeping . It's perfect for me, the only difference is, Americans haven't realize they have different sleep surfaces, and bedding that other countries do whom also have lower infant mortality rates.
I wrote a research paper on this for my degree. I spent weeks doing literature reviews.

Diamond And Rubies - posted on 06/08/2012

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Like Karen,
I took my stepdaughter to build-a-bear, and she picked one to make. I told her it was magical and would help her stay in her bed all night. If it didn't work, than it must be broken and would have to returned without an exchange because it couldn't go to someone else than.. 2x after that she went to the couch and that was it!!

Karen - posted on 06/03/2012

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Well with my daughter we went to walmart and I let her pick out a comfort bear for her to sleep with and I bought night lights. That worked perfectly with her . My eon was a little more difficult. I had to pull the trick with the babies of using the shirt I wore in the day and I slid it over his pillow and then I would read him his favorite story until he fell asleep. The scent of me comforted him so he stayed there all night.

Kaylene - posted on 05/30/2012

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I sing "You are my sunshine" Lay him down with his soothing seahorse cover him up say good night and shut his bedroom door. If I dont he climbs out.

Katherine - posted on 05/17/2012

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Keep them coming! There is a wealth of information here, I want to hear more!

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Sorry as gramma raising her 4y/o grand daughter I found this amusing. I too am having the same trouble with her, but its basically a patience testing issue. I am more patient then she is awake. I am up for the task at hand..however I do start it an hour earlier because I know its going to be an issue. By doing this I know I will have her in bed and asleep by the time it really is bedtime. We do slow down and shut down, quiet play time no tv only music, she picks out her bedtime stories usually 2 short 1 long. Potty many times, tuck ins and hugs and kisses many many times, but she does get to bed by the time I have anticipated. However we did have to start over because mom came back and messed it all up. Consistency never change the process, it should always be the same. Always and if you have to make adjustments due to an outing be prepared for a battle that night but go right back to the usual.

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My 2 year old doesn't, or at least not really. She has a light that she can turn on and off herself, some books that she can quietly read, as well as a few stuffed animals to play with. As long as she doesn't make a lot of noise, get into things she isn't supposed to, and stays in her room, she's fine. I can't force her to sleep at exactly 7pm every day. So she has things to do that are calming. Her door remains open until she falls asleep, it makes her feel more secure.

On the extremely rare occasion that she is still awake when both my husband and myself are ready to go to bed. One of us stays out in the living room to monitor the cat and make sure that she doesn't bother our daughter.

Her basic night routine goes like this: teeth, books (at least 1 but more depending on how tired and late it is), cuddle time (in her bed). Because of my son I can't give her extremely long cuddle times, so she often gets a longer book time. When my husband is home for bedtime, she is able to get that longer cuddle time.

Lady Heather - posted on 04/28/2012

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Umm...we read a story, kiss goodnight and close the door? She has a night light and sometimes she looks at some books before she falls asleep. I guess we are just lucky.

Merry - posted on 04/26/2012

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Ok wise old mom, bed sharing doesn't mean you have to go to bed at the same time as the kids.

My son goes to bed at 7, my daughter at 8, and I go to bed around 9-10.

Bed sharing just means all using the same bed or bed area. Not that you sleep the exact same times :)

WiseOldMom - posted on 04/26/2012

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I had this same problem many years ago. The answer for our son was being consistant. When he got out of bed, we immediately took him back to bed & explained to him why. It took about a week, but he soon learned to stay in his bed. I never considered bed share. My kids went to bed at 8pm. I had way too many adult things to complete, bed at 8pm was never an option for this Mom.

Esther - posted on 04/24/2012

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One great way for the kids to comply with staying in bed is to of course stick with the same schedule. If my kids decide that bedtime is not an option, when they are doing their over-tired meltdown, especially when the schedule is off-kilter, the main thing is to first get them to calm down with a hug, time-out coupled with explanation and apology, or what have you. My kids cannot go to bed without the comfort of what is expected (story time, hugs and kisses, lullabies), despite getting off-track with the schedule. It's okay to sacrifice 10-15 minutes for winding down so that they stay in bed, rather than have them wound up and upset so they stay up another hour or two.

Merry - posted on 04/23/2012

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Well tabitha,you do what works for you but please know that hose who share a bed with their children aren't making their kids dependent. In fact, allowing kids security and comfort and closeness when theyre young only makes them even more stable and independent and strong as adults"

No one needs an independent four year old. :)



Mom and dad can get plenty of closeness and together time even while sharing a bed. You can have a bigger bed, two beds together, or many smaller beds in one room. You can have sex in the living room, kitchen' stairs, bathroom, spare rooms, wherever!



I share a bed with my husband and our two kids and I get way more sleep then I need! I could go to bed with the kids and get 11 hours a night if I wanted! But I choose to let them go to bed first and my husband and I spend "adult time" including eating sweets watching grown up tv and sometimes sex :) then we go to bed and sleep a good 8 hours and wake well rested and happy.



There's many ways that work, I'll respect yours, but you should respect mine too. I'm not doing anyone a disservice and for my family I feel this is the very best possible solution for right now.

Tabitha - posted on 04/23/2012

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There is no "mom & dad" time if you've got kids sprawled out in your bed in between you. I'm not against children sleeping with their parents, sometimes. But every night is excessive and doesn't allow them to learn to be independent. Also, if mom or dad has to get up and work the next morning, how are they getting a good night's sleep? I have 5 kids, my bed simply isn't big enough for all of them by themselves, let alone adding myself and hubby...lol. My kids all slept in their own beds most nights. There were exceptions...bad dreams, sick babies, or just a reward for doing so well in their own room. If hubby is going to be gone for the night, we turn it into movie night in mom's room. But other than that, they have their own beds and that's where they sleep. When they were put in "big kid" beds, it was a trying time at first. I always put a gate in their doorway because I was always worried that they would come out of their rooms and get into stuff or get hurt. We kept a monitor in their rooms so I always knew if someone was up or needed to go potty. It's important to make sure that mom & dad get their own space and time to be together without children.

Gwen - posted on 04/23/2012

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Most nights are fine, but at those times when all else fails...BRIBERY! The promise of a few stickers in the morning works wonders! :)

Esther - posted on 04/21/2012

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For those that lay in bed with their kids, I think it's awesome you are willing to keep that closeness.
The reason why I chose to have the kids sleep on their own is because I wanted to have my bed with my husband again. And, also simply, there is no room for two toddlers and a baby. This ensures that when baby cries, I'm there for her right away without waking the other two. My infant sleeps through the night, so I'm fortunate. I'm able to go out with my husband, too, since my parents can keep an ear out for them. I don't think it's too selfish to have a night or two away from the kids. I want a happy relationship with my husband, too.

Merry - posted on 04/21/2012

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Esther I don't think you did anything wrong, and I'm not trying to argue at al. but a different perspective that I have is that sleep is good for kids and parents and if all involved sleep fine with kids in bed with mom, then there's no real reason to make kids sleep in their own bed. For us, we have a double queen bed and there's plenty of room, periodically we try to get our three year old to sleep in his bed but he doesn't want to' he gets scared! So we let him stay with us and the baby in our bed. He won't be in there forever, and we have rules to keep everyone happy like if he wakes he must not wake the baby and he must just get up quietly and play with his toys.

But it's working well and there's no need to change it until he realizes he doesn't need to sleep with us anymore.

So while your tactic worked and I don't see much of anything wrong with it, to me it's a battle not worth fighting. We all sleep well, and that's what counts!

Esther - posted on 04/20/2012

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The key is to be stern, but do not raise your voice. I like to think of it as the "teacher voice," for not only are we nurturers, we've got to be teachers. Kids must not be allowed to walk all over the parent. Bedtime is bedtime, not story time (you already did it and said you'd read x amount of books). I lay my kids down and we have a ritualistic goodnight departure (silly, but it comforts them): hug, kiss, eskimo kiss side-to-side, then eskimo kiss up-and-down. I turn out the lights and keep the door open so both my kids can hear me sing them four lullabies, then quietly shut their doors. Sometimes, my oldest starts to whine when I turn out the lights, but the singing calms her because that is what she expects and falls asleep soon after.

Esther - posted on 04/20/2012

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When we moved, it was a difficult transition for my 2- and 3-year-old to sleep by themselves. One day, I decided to let them sleep in their own room since they kept each other up. My oldest eventually went to sleep after reading and singing a few songs. She fought her bedtime, but I kept telling her that she needs to sleep in her bed, and me in mine. First and second night, she did not go to bed until 11 pm on her own. After that, no later than 9 or ten, which was my goal. My 2-year-old son was more difficult because other people in the house laid down with him, nullifying any progress I've made. Even though I feel bad for using strong words to my parents, I'm not sorry that my son has made progress ever since I told my parents to back off. They had a hard time with those few nights, but they get better sleep now that there are no more fights about bedtime with the kids. He'd come to my bed at night, but I'd lead him back to bed, saying that he needs to sleep in his bed and I'll see him when the sun comes up. That way, he has a visual cue of knowing when to wake up or go back to bed, depending on the time. He's fine sleeping on his own now.

Kati - posted on 04/20/2012

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I am having issues with this! I have four children, 3 boys and a girl. B 7, B 5, G 3, B 2. The 3 and 2 share a room. We upgraded Cooper (the 2) to a twin bed in Feb when we moved and he was consistently climbing from his crib. My husband works second shift and is often held late so I am on my own at bedtime and anytime they are up at night. I have become dependant on TV at bedtime for the little two. My 'big boys' share a room and go to bed with the closet light on reading books. I just don't have the energy come 8pm to fight the 3 and 2 at bedtime. Kara (the 3 - will be 4 next month) will stay there and watch a show. Or I can give her one show in the LR and she'll complain but go to bed because she got her one show. Cooper on the other hand, I am so lost. And desperate. And spoiling them. (He turned 2 in Jan.) So, anyone have advice on how to break bad habits and not lose my cool?

Kati - posted on 04/20/2012

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I am having issues with this! I have four children, 3 boys and a girl. B 7, B 5, G 3, B 2. The 3 and 2 share a room. We upgraded Cooper (the 2) to a twin bed in Feb when we moved and he was consistently climbing from his crib. My husband works second shift and is often held late so I am on my own at bedtime and anytime they are up at night. I have become dependant on TV at bedtime for the little two. My 'big boys' share a room and go to bed with the closet light on reading books. I just don't have the energy come 8pm to fight the 3 and 2 at bedtime. Kara (the 3 - will be 4 next month) will stay there and watch a show. Or I can give her one show in the LR and she'll complain but go to bed because she got her one show. Cooper on the other hand, I am so lost. And desperate. And spoiling them. (He turned 2 in Jan.) So, anyone have advice on how to break bad habits and not lose my cool?

Liz - posted on 04/20/2012

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I have 4 children sleeping in 3 different rooms. (Thankfully, our current house is big enough to allow this, but when we move...we'll see I guess!) My 5 and 3 year olds share a room. They go to bed and we pray, then it's lights out. They will talk and quietly-ish play for awhile. Sometimes a couple of hours! As long as they are not disturbing anyone else, I leave them alone. I have noticed that the earlier I put them to bed, the less time it is before they fall asleep. Current bedtime for all children (except 10 month old baby) is 8:00. It can be kind of difficult to keep the 3 year old in bed, since we are trying to night-time potty train him, and he always comes down to use the bathroom. My 2 year old has his own room and I have to put a gate on his door or else he would be running around all over upstairs, bothering everyone (especially me haha!) My 10 month old has a bottle and then goes up to bed and puts herself to sleep, usually within 10 minutes. I have always had all of my children put themselves to sleep. They all sleep 11-12 hours at night.

Candice - posted on 04/19/2012

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My step-son is used to sleeping with Grandma, has since he was only 6 months old. Any time that he falls asleep in with his Daddy and I, he wakes up when Grandma comes in to check on him. We tried getting him used to his big boy bed by sleeping in it with him, that lasted one night. Grandma went in to check on him and he woke up, cried and she took him into her room. We have pretty much given up until we get our own house. We know that as long as we are living with Grandma he will not sleep alone.

Maggie - posted on 04/19/2012

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I do bath time at 8pm..the bath really helps my LO's relax. Then brush there teeth and give my 16 month old a cup of water if she wants it. Lay my 6 month old in her cradle in my bedroom with acouple of toys. Walk my 16 month old to her room and she will climb into bed and when I turn out the light the first thing you hear her say is, "stars." I have glow in the dark stars on the ceiling in her room. haha. I tuck her in and say goodnight, give her a kiss and walk out of the room. Sometimes she goes right to sleep, sometimes I hear her babbling in the dark and sometimes I peek in and see her hands up in the air and making shadows on the wall.

I then proceed to 6 month old. Sometimes I'll walk in and she will already be asleep other times I walk in and I will pick her up and rock her for 10-15 till she falls to sleep.

I have a set routine and try to stick with it. They are always in bed by 9pm.

I am very luck and blessed with good sleepers.. My 16 month old has been sleeping through the night since about 8 months old and my 6 month old since birth.

Katherine - posted on 04/19/2012

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I so wish mine would stay in their own beds and sleep through the night!

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