How do you have a sex talk with a 7 year old?

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/10/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 7- nearly 8 year old daughter is getting more and more curious about sex. My husband and I have had a few conversations with her and she does know the proper anatomy for boys and girls. She's also walked in on my husband and I having sex and knows that's how babies are made because she has a 1 year old sister.

What I'm really having a hard time with is explaining about touching herself because she has been exploring her perineal area for a while. I just don't know how to explain that and sex properly.

I wouldn't mind assistance.

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Dove - posted on 06/10/2012

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She wants to know how to have sex? Or she wants to know how to masturbate?

For sex: Buy the book 'Where Did I Come From?' It has way too much detail than I like, but it's what I gave my oldest at 8.

For masturbation: Just tell her she does what feels good and don't do what doesn't feel good. If she's THAT curious I think I'd caution her to only use her hands/fingers. When I was a teenager, my cousin knew a girl that had to go to the hospital to have a hot dog removed because it broke off!

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♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/10/2012

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She's asking how to mastrubate. I've told her to just be very gentle when she rubs herself.

Honestly the former Catholic part of me wants to shudder and tell her not to do it. But I don't want her to think that it's wrong and dirty like I was taught because then She'd feel bad about herself and I don't want that either.

The biggest problem DH and I have been having is she's doing it in our bed while watching TV. We tell her she has to do it in her own room because it's private

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/10/2012

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She wants to know how to do it. I'm serious! And honestly I don't know how to explain that. Dh and I have explained hand washing and that she should tell us if someone has touched her there.

She's asked how a few times- especially after she saw my belly getting bigger from being pregnant. But other than that we haven't had too much explaination.

Dove - posted on 06/10/2012

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Why does she need an explanation about touching herself? The only explanation I would think is needed is that it's private, only she is allowed to touch herself there, and to wash her hands before and after to prevent spreading germs or getting an infection.



As for more details on sex at this age... I'd just be giving simple answers to whatever questions she has and if she doesn't ask a lot of details I'd be waiting for the 'full disclosure' talk until she's about to start middle school.

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