Sarah - posted on 05/11/2011 ( 34 moms have responded )
Hello Everyone, I am on my last nerves and don't know where to turn, so I figured I would ask you all!! :)
My husband and I have been married for a little over 5 years and I'm at the point now where its been 5 years too many. We have 3 small children together and they mean everything to me. But, my husband and I have grown apart and I don't want to be in this situation anymore. He recently got medically retired from the Army for PTSD and though I commend him for his service, he is using it to his advantage. He collects a pension from the VA every month of about 770$ and thinks that's okay to live on for 5 people. He wont go look for a job, and claims smoking pot is his cure for everything. We are 5 days late on rent and it doesn't bother him. My family lives in California, and we're in Kentucky where he is from. He has isolated me from friends/family and I have no one to turn to. I dont want to be in this situation anymore, and every time we get into an arguement he tells me to get out of "his" house. Um, okay?
My question to you all is how do you know when enough is enough? I know in my heart I dont want to be here anymore, but I also know that it will be an ugly battle if I go file for divorce. ALso, I would not want to stay here in Kentucky, I want to go back home to my support system. Are there any laws about that? I have police records of domestic violence from both the military and kentucky. Nothing has changed or gotten better. Its easy to say "just get out", but when there are children involved, I dont want to screw myself in the process and lose my kids. I'm not worried about losing them, I know I have nothing to hide, they can even drug test me. lol. I just dont know which way to turn. I'd rather get a divorce while my children are so small , versus waiting until they are older and continuing to stay here knowing its just for them. I think that will hurt them in the long run, right?