Jennie - posted on 03/26/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
My family and I recently moved to a new state about 18 months ago. My son, who was going into 5th grade, had a really hard time with the move. He was a straight A student, classified as a Gifted student and started to fail. We turned things around with the grades by the end of the year and we haven't had a problem with that since. But he had trouble getting along with the kids and making friends because the kids had been together since Kindergarten and weren't very willing to accepting him. He had a wonderful warm group of friends in our old town and they were great kids and completely inseperable (as you can imagine my son's disappointment when we told him that we were moving).
When he was accepted to the local Charter school in our new hometown for Middle School we thought that this would be a great "fresh start" for him to meet new people since all the kids being accepted would all be "new". We are approaching the end of his 6th grade year now and he doesn't really even have one buddy that he calls his good friend. He says that he tries to invite kids over and invite them to do things but they either can't, or have plans, etc. He never gets invited by others to do things. He used to be so busy with his old friends that it was hard to keep track of everything.
Recently, he started hanging out with a friend, whom we thought was the start of something good for our son to finally find that good friend but boy were we wrong. The kid was really mean to my son in the way that he spoke to him and would come to our house and stay the entire weekend but then post horrible message on my son's Instagram and texting him that he is a "Loser" and "Has no friends".
My son is polite, friendly, kind and genuinely likes to just be around people. He is not depressed or unhappy about anything. I can't believe that people haven't flocked to him like they did in the past. I don't know what to do. To see him so alone and without friends just breaks my heart.
How can I help him? How do I help without seeming desperate or strange to other kids or parents?