Mommabird - posted on 12/19/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )
Ive been seeing alot of talk on the subject of young girls and sex lately. Its making me extremely nervous. The Talk is getting closer and closer each year that goes by and now Im desperate to be as prepared as possible! Our daughter(technically my step daughter) is 10 1/2, will be 11 in June, and hearing people talk about 12, 13 yr olds having sex scares the hell out of me! I have two older boys from my first marraige, 10 1/2 yr old daughter is from his first marraige, and we have a 4 yr old son sooo...this is my first experience with preteen and teenage girls. Things were waaay different back when I was her age. I dont know if MY technique would work these days. Ill tell you a little bit about what Ive already been doing to try and prevent her from growing up faster than her years, I want her to experience things in due time not rush into things too early. She started liking boys last year and kept it from us. My MIL knew but we didnt, til this school year. We found out because she confided in me about a fight with a boy, long story short..he dumped her for someone else and she was hurt and mad. "9 yrs old?" I thought to myself, Nope, this isnt good. I told her this, "It is a known fact that girls mature faster than boys, wouldnt you agree that most boys in your class act immature to you? Well its because you're more mature than they are. How I see it, you dont NEED a boyfriend, boys can be friends all through school and its no different than being bf/gf. Only difference is you dont kiss your friends. Lol." I want to be proactive and talk to her about things BEFORE some kid at school talks to her about things she isnt ready for. Tell me your techniques and stories of success with your daughters.