how do you protect your 10y/o child from sex when it is everywhere?

Susan - posted on 11/06/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I found out that my 10y/o daughter was sexting a complete stranger thur her ipod. Not sure how i should proceed with this. I tried to talk to her right away but i was so filled with emotions that she just shut down and would only respond with "i don't know". Any good positive advice would be great.

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Becky - posted on 11/06/2012

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Susan, I have a 10 year old, and unfortunately, those feelings do come about for some. It doesn't help that she's developing more than I want her too. She came to me and asked if it was normal to have feelings for boys, and she didn't mean just liking them as a friend. That was my big clue to have the talk with her.

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You can't protect, but you can educate. Give her the facts, good and bad. Make sure she understands the possible consequences of what she is doing. If she doesn't believe you get the statistics and show her. Good luck with it. :-)

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Take the iPod away which seems you have done. Have a talk with her and if her hormones are changing introduce her to masturbation and tell her she can receive pleasure without sex. I have done this with my daughter she is 12.

Susan - posted on 11/06/2012

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I never thought that someone that age would even know about sex. I understand that things have changed since i was a child but i guess i didn't realize how much. I am taking everyone's advice and i'm going to implement these strategies. Wish me luck.

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Does your daughter really need the ipod that can connect to the internet? Why? Don't put her in temptation's way and take away the items that can cause trouble. Let her have an ipod but only if she can download music and that's it.



I would also explain to her that nothing on the internet is private. Anything she sends to this man can and will end up on a public site (maybe not but it can't hurt to put it out there.). Many young girls have found their naked photos on public sites. It can and will happen. Plus I would contact the internet service provide about the person who received her sexting. At 10, he would be considered a child molester.

S. - posted on 11/06/2012

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Maybe you will never know why! but what I do know is you need some big sex talks with her and lay it on real thick with the Internet stranger dangers and the laws on sex. I would not let her have Internet usage for a long long long time and when you do let her on Make unbreakable rules of the Internet which I'm sure you never imagined you needed before on the account of her being just 10. and easier said then done but try not to yell and show anger you, need her to know its wrong, stupid, and dangerous but you also need her to feel she can come to you in the future about sex and things. I feel really sorry for you, you must be shocked as hell to even learn you baby knows how to sext.

Susan - posted on 11/06/2012

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I did take the Ipod and i will try to talk to her again hopefully this time she is more open. I'm just trying to understand the "why". Thanks for your comment.

Jodi - posted on 11/06/2012

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Take the iPod from her. Sorry, but she is obviously not old enough to have it. Secondly, talk to her about it, and why it is wrong to do these things, and some of the consequences of these actions. Sorry, but at 10, she should never have had unsupervised access to be able to be sexting total strangers.

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