How do you share your time with 2 kids that need different attention?

Stephanie - posted on 12/14/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a very spoiled 3yr old that interfers with my time spent with my 5yr old. He is doping poor in Kindergarten and I am wondering if that has any affect with it. I have tried everything and starting to get frustrated about it.

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Amy - posted on 12/15/2011

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I have a 5 year old and 21 month old, while I'm helping my son with his school work I set my daughter up with crayons or paper so she can color. If that doesn't keep her entertained I put something on tv for her to watch. Typically my son only has 15-20 minutes of work he has to do at night so I don't need her to be occupied too long. If we're having a particularly bad day we'll do the work after I put her to bed.

I highly doubt the amount of individual time he gets with you has any effect on his school work. I would speak to his teachers, but without knowing specifically where he's struggling it's hard to offer advice on some fun activities to do together.

Felicia - posted on 12/15/2011

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Sit both down and tell them it is time to work. While 5yr old is doing work from school the 3yr old can be working on a work book. You can also find a common interest and have them work together. When putting them to bed could spend individual time starting with who ever goes to sleep first reading a book or asking about their day.

Kim - posted on 12/14/2011

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Sorry I did mean to say that it does go both ways. I obviously try and spend one on one time with my daughter as well. Give your 3 year old a colouring book and let him colour while you play a game or practise writing with your other child. I also agree talk with the teacher there has to be another reason he is not doing well in school.

Jodi - posted on 12/14/2011

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So, what is your 3 year old doing while you spend time with your 5 year old. And how long is it for? He might be bored, or not sufficiently entertained. I don't see it as uncommon that your 3 year old will interrupt your time if he is looking for something to do. He sounds like a normal 3 year old to me.

With respect to his performance at kindergarten, have you spoken to the teachers about it and discussed why he may be doing poorly?

Medic - posted on 12/14/2011

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My kids are 5 years and almost 23 months and I tell my daughter to go play while I do specific things with my son. She actually does. I have been doing this with her since she was big enough to play by herself for a bit. Now I can get about 20-30 min blocks of time. I also switch and make him go play and do something with her so she sees that it goes both ways.

Kim - posted on 12/14/2011

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My daughter is only 18 months and my son is the same age but I am finding it hard to spend time with him as well since when she is napping he is at school. I try and play a lot of games with them together during the week. Hide and seek or I will send him on a hunt for different things, something that starts with d, something smooth, something orange etc. He has fun and his sister just enjoys running around with him. I also will print a bunch of different letters on paper and get him to copy them while I am checking and playing with his sister at the same time. We read stories all together and practise spelling words and sounding letters while I am cooking etc. We don't always get a lot of sit down time together but I try and make the best of it. I'm not sure if your 3yr old naps but on the weekends during my daughters nap time I try and give my son at least one hour of my attention. We play a game, practise writing, read a story, have a cuddle and watch a movie. Sometimes I also let him stay up a bit later than her so we can have some time together.

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