how do you start a baby boy potty training with no male influence he is two in half turning 3 in march?

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Catherine - posted on 12/02/2008

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I potty trained my son without my dh cause he works away alot. You DEFINATELY NEED TO START SITTING DOWN, we all know even men are crap aims never mind little boys lol !!! - my boy just started standing up about 6 months later cause he had seen "big boys" when we were out and in Nursery.

You need to make sure you have at least a week to dediacte to potty training cause for that time - especially the first few days it is intensive.

I followed a book which worked brilliantly where we had two pottys( both the same) one upstairs - - one downstairs, and i put my ds on it every 30 minutes on the first day - we went straight to pants (no training nappys or pull ups) and he must have weed 30 odd times that day!!! - just little bits and about half on the potty half not, the next day we did the same - and the number of wees went down and about 3/4 on the potty , 1/4 on the floor, by the 3rd day we only had two accidents and only about 10 wees. It continued like this for a few days until by the end of the week he was only haveing about 5 wees a day - all on the potty. We then moved the potty from the play room (where we have wooden floor - so easy to clean) to the toilet - had the odd accident during this process but not too bad , and done in the day!! - Would suggest if you go out in the car you buy a protection pad - called WEETEC - Just a cover for car seats but saves alot of work if any accidents do happen out and about.

I left night time until a bit later but you will know your own Son. Do not feel under pressure to do it now. My lad was dry in the day at 22 months, but not at night till he was 34 months. My sisters boy is nearly four and wtill not dry at night and he was 3 and a half before he was dry in the day - they are all different and only you will know if he is ready. Hope that helps xx

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Bridgie - posted on 02/12/2011

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Thank you Catherine that is a great help the advice you have given as I still at it with my boy but in between I started minding 2 other kids baby crys a lot and he went back a bit.But we will get their after what you said about your sis boy.
Thanks Bridget.

User - posted on 12/03/2008

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Find him a little stool to stand on and toss a few cheerios in the toilet. He's a boy, He'll pee on anything if you let him!!

Tashe - posted on 12/03/2008

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Reply to Barbara Moger: Yes he stays dry after his naps, he even stays dry all night long if I take him to the bathroom right before bed. I have even stopped all liquids 30mins to an hour before bed. He does a great job at school with the other kids that are potty training as well, but at home he has several accidents. I have to work 5 days a week so I don't have anytime to "let him run free" except the weekends but I plan to get him fully potty trained during our Christmas break. Thanks for the advice and I'll keep my fingers crossed!

Amber - posted on 12/03/2008

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my oldest son was in the same situation and i had to take him to my dads and he had him pee on trees for a day then he showed him how to pee in the potty. to be honest i spent alot time and money and nothing worked but that. he was 2 1/2 when i took him to my dads.

Amelia - posted on 12/03/2008

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I am a single mum, and I am currently in the process of potty training my son. He comes to the toilet with me all the time, and also when he asks to pee. He is quite content to sit on the potty, ask for paper, then wipes, then throws the paper in the toilet and flushes. He is so pleased with himself. I believe there is no need to worry about doing it this way. At least when he's older, hopefully I won't have to worry about him missing or dripping on the floor! LOL Good luck!

Barbara - posted on 12/02/2008

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I have 2 boys. I had both of them fully trained in less than one week. Be sure they are ready. Is your son dry after naps? what about when he wakes up from all night? If one or both are yes, then ready.



1. start during a week that you don't need to go anywhere



2. stock up on a potty (one with a front splash guard that is NOT detachable and high) , lots of floor cleaner, paper towels and fluids.



3. keep them naked from waist down for a few days



4. fill them up with fluids



5. set a timer and have them sit every 15 min (also, easier to watch the penis, once it starts getting erect it is usally time to blow)



6. sit them down to pee every 15 min.



7. if they go, tons of praise! If they don't, no big deal. If they have an accident, no big deal. they feel bad enough about it



8. Be VERY patient!! there is alot of pee on the floor for the first day. but by day 3, maybe only one or 2 accidents. Within a week, 100% trained!



I kept a potty everywhere they played or watched TV. We had one in the playroom and living room. My oldest bribary worked...he got a thomas train for a 100% dry day. My 2nd didn't need any bribary.



I agree with alot of people...once you say good bye to diapers that is it! (Unless it is overnight, my oldest was 6yo before he stated dry all night). No pull ups. Just prepare for some accidents and plan on staying close to home for 2 weeks. And like when you were pregnant, you will know once again where the bathroom is in every store



Good luck! It isn't as stressfull as people make it out to be.

Jennifer - posted on 12/02/2008

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I put my child in underware and sweat pants and told him he was a bi boy and his diapers were gone. Everytime he went I said it was naughty and we need to go in the potty. I would leave him feel the wet for some time. After a few changes in clothes he discovered it was better to go in the potty!

Tashe - posted on 12/02/2008

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I am frustrated with this potty training business. I don't know what else to do. I have tried everything from leaving him in wet underwear to stopping the liquids to sitting him on the toilet until he goes. It's like he knows that it is frustrating me and he's playing with me. He has his days that he will tell me he has to go pee pee and others he just goes without telling me. The strange thing about it, he tells me when he has to go poo poo.He hasn't pooped in his underwear at all. I'm so confused! He evens stays dry at daycare but on the weekends he goes through so many pairs of underwear. I just don't know what else to do.

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I waited until my son stayed dry overnight then bribed him with stickers to use the potty first thing in the morning. Once he did that for a week we stopped using diapers and went "big boy underwear" shopping. We didn't use pull ups and when he peed on the potty he sat down facing the tank. It helped him feel like he wouldn't fall in. Once he knew he expectation he earned stickers to put on his "big boy" poster for everytime he used the potty. Pooping in the potty took the longer than peeing, but he eventually got it. The first couple of accidents we helped him clean up and change. After that he got to change his own clothes and clean up. We started potty training at 2 1/2 and he was totally trained in about 2 months. Good luck and keep it fun!

User - posted on 12/02/2008

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I am a mother of a 4 year old boy and also worked in a day care center in the two year old room. My main job was potty training. The thing that I think a lot of parents do wrong is us the pull ups. all they are is glorafied diaper. I firmly believe that the best way is to put them in underwear and not go back. I would take my son every 20 min or so if he did not go on the potty and streatch it out to 30 min and so on. Another great idea is to give them one m&m if they go on the potty.



I hope that helps a little!!

Kylie - posted on 12/02/2008

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Hi Louise. Sitting down first on the toilet and i used to get settled on the floor and sing nursery rhymes or play games, to get their mind off "weeing". Once they're standing, a ping pong ball works great and gives them something to aim for. Plus it doesn't flush away... Good luck. I've found boys are harder than girls, but its just about being following it through and knowing that the next week or even two may be a bit time consuming when it comes to toilet time!!!!!

Yvonne - posted on 12/02/2008

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i have a two year old boy also. it was hard at first to get him to go but it works to have them sit on the potty first to learn how to do it.. but the problem is that when he pees its going to come out the rim of the seat so make sure that you tuck and close his legs... or else you'll have a mess!!!! now my son can stand up and pee.... but mke sure he leans over the potty when he stands up

Tracie - posted on 12/02/2008

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I trained my two sons with, (gasp), bribery!! They both got to choose a candy they liked best - one was m&ms and the other skittles. I put a zippy full of the candy up on the wall in the bathroom with a thumb tack and let me tell ya! Those boys wanted to use the potty so they could have their candy. And I believe it only took one package of each to get the job done. May not please the dr.s but it sure worked for me!!

Robin - posted on 12/02/2008

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I had a a man around and still had a little problem getting my son (now 15) interested in getting out of diapers. I had trained two girls years before easy, but with dad gone to work and me the SAHM, I was the one he looked to for instruction and followed every where! We started by having a pooty chair in the restroom, since he always followed me in there anyways. He would sit as I used the big potty, Before long he would pee, too. Bebore long he just naturally went to poop in the potty, too. His aim was more of an issue in training than getting him out of diapoers.NOw dad taught him how to pee on tires and trees!! Best of luck and it will happen! ~rr~

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I'm a single mom of 2 boys....I just took them to the bathroom 10mins after they drank anything. They learned sitting down first, and then standing when they got older when they saw their peers do it standing up. Daycare also helped. Always stop the drinkiing of anything 2hrs before going to bed and before going to bed, take them to the bathroom. It worked great for our youngest and he's learned to get up on his own in the middle of the night to go. He used to walk past the bathroom to get me to help him, which was fine, it built up his confidence to go by himself. It also helps to put food coloring in the toilet, once they go, it changes colors and they learn their colors that way too! :-) Hope some of this helps and good luck!

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Put some goldfish crackers in the toilet and tell him to aim for the fish and they will "swim". Plus the crackers will dissolve so there is nothing to clean up.

Tiphanie - posted on 12/02/2008

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boys usually always start by sitting down. asking them if they have to go potty helps them know what it is they are trying to do and also the big thing is the positive reinforcement after they do. not like a treat but like a happy pee pee dance. my son loves that. and never try to keep them on the potty or they learn to think its almost like a punishment. also i just gavemy son a sippy cup on it for the first few times cause it usually makes them relaxed and he would pee in the potty and then he knew what it was and why he was gettin the appraisal and then he even started pooping right after that so he could dance.. :)

Kathy - posted on 12/02/2008

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All 3 of my kids potty trained at 3 yrs. old. NO problems, no work, no accidents. They were just ready for it. I believe in not forcing the issue. We're always trying to rush everything along. I see that most moms, after much trying, got their kids to use the potty at age 3. I do agree that sitting for boys is necessary at first.

Kerry - posted on 12/02/2008

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my best advice as a mum of three and 1 on the way is learn him to sit him on the toilet and kneel with him until pretend you are on the toilet hold your breath for a couple of seconds just so you got a bit red in the face and make some sounds just to make it fun for him he will usually copy you and dont forget to keep asking him once he has had a couple of hours without the nappy and you running to the toilet with him every minute (i didnt say it was easy) he will start to understand wee and poo then he should stay clean but for the first few days keep a night nappy on until he starts showing signs that he doesn't need it once you established a routine with him and he fully understands wee you can buy a little step for him i had mine from ikea £1:90 he will then think it fun to stand up and have a wee

Kerry - posted on 12/02/2008

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I just left my son to do it when he was ready, I let him run around with no nappy on with a potty in the room and one day he just decided that he wanted to try it, we have never looked back!! It was a month after his 3rd birthday, there is only me and my son in the house and I don't think that there should be so much social pressure that children should be dry by a certain age, it all comes with time!!!

Shara - posted on 12/01/2008

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I had the same prob with my daughter - wouldn't even touch the potty until after she was 3 years old. I have a couple of friends who have boys and apparently teaching them to go like you is easier on them. half the time they arent even tall enough to reach the potty and if you go anywhere other than your home you're less likely to have a stool and they can't even reach. and making a mess all over the floor and everywhere else is more embarrassing to them than sitting down to pee. What I did with my daughter, (which I know is a night and day difference between girls and boys) was to completely stop inforcing it at all. If he's going to pee in his pants he can sit in his pants. we dealt with a diaper rash for a week but she decided that was it and we've never had an accident since!!! good luck to you!!

User - posted on 12/01/2008

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Exactly as Heather says. Its is cleaner if they learn to sit and wee and it does not matter if they spend the rest of their lives weeing that way. There is no rule in life to say they have too stand and wee. Do what makes you happy.

Heather - posted on 12/01/2008

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I haven't experienced potty training just yet but I have heard that you can teach them to sit and pee first and then once they get the hang of it you can tackle standing up. Cheerios in the toilet is supposed to help... it gives them a target to shoot for.

Kady - posted on 12/01/2008

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My dh worked a lot when I was doing the training and I started off with a doll. It did not have a penis but they could see that the water (pee) was coming out. Once upon a potty for him is very detailed...you can also get it on netflix (if you have that) or order it from amazon. Also the movie "potty Power" was really well liked in my house lol



Does he go to daycare? Maybe he could watch someone there? Good luck!!

Anita - posted on 12/01/2008

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most people say to just leave them in their wet undies n they oon wont like it but wen my son was 2 i would just ask him all day if he needed to go toilet n just sat him on the toilet when he did. it didnt take him long to get used to it and about a week later he was sleeping without a nappy. i dont think its as hard as people make out but maybe i was just lucky.

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