how do you stop a undesirable behavior in a 8 month old

Linnied - posted on 11/05/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )

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my granddaughter is 8 months old and loves to hear the sound of her own voice. The problem is she will scream as loud as she can and after a while it is not only annoying it is very difficult for anyone else to have a conversation around her screaming. We have tried ignoring it, paying attention to her when she starts her babbling but she just loves to hear herself and to be the loudest in the room. Its hard to make a 8 month old understand "inside voice" or we dont scream like that. But we do not know how to make her stop. She does this all day long. Any suggestions???

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Dove - posted on 11/06/2014

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I did offer advice initially. If her parents are going to yell at her and think that will work.. there really isn't anything YOU can do about it. If they had asked for advice and said they are yelling at an 8 month old... I would have said the same thing.

It is OK to not be a smart first time parent, but if they aren't willing to educate themselves on what is NORMAL behavior... and the fact that you don't yell at a baby... they are quite worthy of the insult.

Ev - posted on 11/05/2014

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It is like the other ladies have said. Maybe she loves the sound of her own voice and I would think since you are a grandmother yourself and have raised kids you would expect that to happen at some stage during infancy. My daughter did that at 3 months once she figured out her voice worked! Try riding in a truck with a 3 month old who screams just because it sounds good and its ear piercing and shrill to go with it. If there is nothing wrong with her hearing or no known ear infections its going to take time for her to understand. It might just be a phase and will stop in short order. Maybe she just made the connection that she can do this and is pleased with herself and her accomplishment. She is still growing and learning. I also have another piece of news...this screaming thing is not only done by 8 month olds....two year olds do it too.

Linnied - posted on 11/05/2014

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That was not necessary. All first time parents are learning along with baby. They dont scream at the child. They just holler as I stated with a quick "hey" "stop that no screaming, soft voice" its not a matter of smart or not, its a matter of advise of what works and what doesnt so if anyone who cant offer advise without criticism or insults - thanks but no thanks

Linnied - posted on 11/05/2014

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she has never had any ear infections and she can hear the front door open from 2 or 3 rooms away or the cat meow from another room. There is defenately nothing wrong with her hearing. Thank you for your other suggestion though, I will try those and suggest them to her mom and dad

Sarah - posted on 11/05/2014

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Baby at 8 months does like to hear her own voice. The fact she is screaming louder than anyone else makes me wonder if she is hearing properly? You can get her hearing checked through Early Intervention. If she had numerous ear infections, she may be shouting, so she CAN hear herself. Once that is ruled out, much patience is needed, to teach her. Show her your ears hurt by making a sad face and covering your ears. Also, telling her shhh like Dove suggests, and no screaming. Talk to her softly as well. Will she get it right away? No, but how do we learn anything? By repetition.

Dove - posted on 11/05/2014

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Actually by yelling at her for yelling they are reinforcing that her behavior is OK... which means it's going to take a lot longer for her to stop.

You can't expect an infant to stop doing something that her parents are doing... Poor baby needs smarter parents. :(

Linnied - posted on 11/05/2014

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that is what we have been doing, and she just laughs at us. Her parents lose patients after a while and holler at her which makes me feel bad. She stops, may cry for a moment but will start right back up again. I try to tell mom and dad she doesnt understand but they figure she does and will eventually put 2 & 2 together - scream, mom or dad hollers - if you dont like the hollering then dont scream.
I was just wondering if there was a better way. It does get on your nerves and although they live with me I only hear it from a distance all day and up close half of the day but poor mom hears it from sun up to sun down.

Dove - posted on 11/05/2014

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Time... and a lot of patience. You can gently place your fingers on her lips when she screams and say 'shh... no screaming', but don't expect her to get it for quite a while yet.

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