How do you Stop by kids from being a tattletale?

Siobhan - posted on 01/18/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi..I have 2 kids, an 8yr old little girl and a 5yr old little boy. When they began having daily interactions with other kids, we told them that if something happened to let an adult know, mainly avoiding the repercussions of fighting at school. But It has got out of hand! We already knew she tattled too much, but now I am getting a note sent home because of it. Her whole life though, we told her to tell. How can I fix this problem??


Isobel - posted on 01/18/2012




The difference between telling and tattling is that telling keeps somebody from getting hurt. Tattling is intended TO hurt somebody. That's what I've always told my kids. They still do it of course but it's slowing down a little.

Maybe you could sit down with her and explain that, and that nobody wants to be friends with a tattletale.


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Emilie - posted on 01/18/2012




Tell her only to tell if someone is going to get hurt or if they are going to break something or mess up someones property. Tell them only to tell about the really really important stuff. And if they do tell something that is not very important let them know that they are being a tattle tale and that is the kind of stuff that they don't need to tell on and that they need to handle that stuff on their own. (I have a 9 year old and a 5 year old, I am going through the same things.)

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