how do you talk about sex to an eight year old who is asking questions?

LucyGish - posted on 05/04/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My son has asked me what is sexual intercourse. i have evaded it for now, but i know it will be popping up again soon. please help, how do i explain this?

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Bettie - posted on 05/04/2012

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What the heck ! the teacher mentioned it, I'd be asking the teacher what the heck? also did she mention they can get Hiv/ Aids from needles, blood, So not to touch other people blood, and if finding needles don't touch. call a teacher for help. You just never know.
Tell him it's the an intimate moment between two people that is out of love, What does his father have to say about it.? ..

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Tina - posted on 05/06/2012

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I'd just keep it simple like others have said it's something adults do to show they love eachother and it's how babies are made. If he has more questions take them as they come maybe do a little more research if you have to about it and HIV/AIDS so it might make it easier when more compicated questions come. I'd be stressing the only adults do it.

Bettie - posted on 05/05/2012

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It's up to the Family on when they hear about the puberty and sex talk. I know in school my grandson is 5th grade class,and 12yrs. they sent home a note asking parents if it was ok to have him sit in the sex ed class. , Thats why I was thinking a little young, BUT now a day this crazy world the kids are hearing and learning about this so much faster then when i had young ones. but as most of the others have said stick to the basic and don't make a long conversation over it. If you decide how to explain it. He may just say ok and walk off ,,,, praying he does for a few more years....

Dove - posted on 05/04/2012

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There are several really good books about this topic. I like to start with books for the 'tough topics' and build our discussions from there.

You could simply start with saying that it is an act that two adults (preferably married adults) do together in order to show their love and to make a baby. Since it came up with an HIV/AIDS discussion you might get even more questions by starting with that. Just give simple, basic answers to all questions and let him ask for more details if he wants them.

My oldest was 8 when we started the sex talks.

Sarah - posted on 05/04/2012

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Where did he hear about it? If he's heard the term, it may be time to just tell him. I think 8-9 is old enough for the puberty and sex talk.

Sherri - posted on 05/04/2012

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Ya I would simply keep it brief and as simple as possible. It is what happens when two adults are married and love each other. If she continues to ask questions then add only as much as needed to satisfy her curiosity but keep it as simple as possible.

LucyGish - posted on 05/04/2012

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Thanks Bettie, we (i and the father) are totally lost. i think it will really help to ask for a teacher's intervention.

LucyGish - posted on 05/04/2012

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Thanks Tina, He heard it from school, they were learning about HIV/Aids transmission. it seems the teacher just mention this as one way of getting infected but did no elaborate what it is? more advice please?

Tina - posted on 05/04/2012

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I guess I'd start by asking her questions like where has she heard about sexual intercourse and what does she know about it and where has she heard about it and go from there.

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