How do you talk to someone about their child having autism?

Kala - posted on 08/02/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have a somewhat close relationship with the person whom i think their child has some form of autism. The child doesn't talk he screams when he wants somethings, he only eats certain foods and has no social skills. My son is 6 months younger than this little boy and my son does SO much more than he does. I have done a little research on autism and this child has quite a few of the Im going to say symptoms. So how do I bring it up to the mother? I think the mother is in somewhat of some kind of denial. I'm sure I would be as well but there comes a time when you have to wake up and realize something is wrong with your child. She isn't easy to talk to about things like this either. But what mother wants to hear from someone that has no background in medicine that you think their has autism.


Kate CP - posted on 08/02/2011




Well...I think you answered your own question: don't talk to her about it. You just stated she isn't easy to talk to about this kind of stuff, you think she's in denial about this, AND you have no medical background. She's NOT going to take this well and it will be highly insulting to her if you try to broach the subject. It never comes out right when a friend says "I think there's something wrong with your child" no matter how nicely you put it.

So, if you truly value this friendship and want to remain her confidant...I'd keep my mouth shut. Offer support and love and understanding, but don't mention her son's development. It's not your place.


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Katherine - posted on 08/02/2011




Exactly what Kate said. It's not your place. You can't make a diagnosis like that.

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