How do you teach a child not to be a follower?

Melissa - posted on 04/23/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I will try to keep this brief. Her teacher had a talk with me this morning. This is probably the 3rd time. The problem started about 6 months ago when a new little girl came to the school. My husband I noticed the change with our daughter right away. We have talked about it with her and told her to be herself not like anybody else because that’s not good, and it will get her in trouble. We have taken away privileges and given her time out. I feel her teacher has been reluctant (understandable) to make a correlation between my daughter’s behavior when this little girl is in school and when she is on vacation. Well this morning her teacher could not hold it anymore, she told me straight out, but not in a way to blame or talk badly about the other child. My daughter is following and exhibiting the disruptive and disrespectful behavior of this child. Her teacher is wonderful and has been with her since she started attending her faith based preschool at 2 1/2, she knows her very well and loves her. I don’t want this for her and I don’t know how to fix it. Does anyone know of a book I can read to her about being a follower? How do I get her to stop following? HELP!!

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/24/2013

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You've got her in a faith based school, right?

Was Jesus a follower? Or was He a leader? Does the other little girl's behaviour reflect what Jesus teaches?

Use the faith! Jesus was not a follower, He was a leader. He lead with compassion, with love, and with understanding, and that is what we (she) should also do.

Put it in terms she can understand. WWJD? Would He treat Suzy poorly? Would He be disruptive and disrespectful? She'll get it :-) Especially if it is her normal personality to NOT be disruptive and disrespectful.

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Melissa - posted on 04/24/2013

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@ Shawn Lively, Thats exactly what I did. :) I went y at lunch today and the little girl was acting up. I pointed out the behavior and asked my daughter what would Jesus do? :) I also pointed out how everybody was happy except that one girl. I told her this is a day the Lord has made and we MUST rejoice and be glad in it. I think she got it.

Her poor teacher was out done. this little girl was acting so so badly. I feel for her.

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