How do you teach an 8 year old boy self esteem?


Dove - posted on 08/31/2012




Document the things he says about what his mother is saying. Perhaps have him start seeing a counselor who can document as well. She is emotionally abusing him and maybe with enough evidence your son can have his son's visits with the mother supervised to prevent the abuse.

A good child counselor would be able to help him open up and talk about his feelings without him even realizing it. I think this situation definitely calls for some outside assistance.


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Rebecca - posted on 08/31/2012




call child protective services and report verbal abuse asap!

verbal abuse can lead to physical abuse... this child is in danger if his mother cannot control her anger..

why wait until something tragic happens??

react and call Child Protective Services...

Go to Family Court and have Supervised Visitations only... (no more than 2 hours every other week)

Mother needs to go for help and take medications if she is bipolar..

Good Luck!

Beverly - posted on 08/31/2012




Thank you for your responses. This child has been through too much. His mother is bipolar and calls him names and constantly puts him down. My son won custody of him a little more than a year ago but he still has every other weekend with mom. When he comes home and says "Mom called me stupid and a M_____ F_____" what in the world can you do? Of course we all tell him how important and special and loved he is, but he doesn't know how to express his feelings and that's something we are trying to learn to teach him. I could talk all day about everything he's been through but we want "him to talk". So I guess my question is, How to get him to talk about his feelings?

Elfrieda - posted on 08/30/2012




Develop a talent in him. What's he interested in? Sign him up for a class to learn more about it, or apprentice him to an older man in your family to learn how to shingle a roof or harvest a garden or do something else. If he knows that he can contribute and he's a valuable member of the family/society, his self esteem will be healthy.

Michelle - posted on 08/30/2012




self esteem is something you start building from the time they are little it is not something you teach, find an activity he is good at and then praise him when he does well children develop self esteem when they know their parents and the adults around them are proud of them.

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