How does anyone feel about their new partner having his children every single weekend?
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Ez - posted on 11/24/2011
I feel like that is between him, his children and the children's mother. And absolutely nothing to do with you as a new partner. If anything, you should be glad that you are with a man who has an active role in his children's lives and takes his responsibilities as a father seriously. Those are good attributes to have.
Jodi - posted on 11/24/2011
Well, we are the other way around - I have my son every weekend. All the time actually. I wouldn't be with my husband if he couldn't have understood that. I would have kicked him to the kerb a LONG time ago. So for that reason, if my husband had his children every weekend when I was first going out with him, I would feel I have no right to interfere with that relationship.
How do you YOU feel about your partner having his children every single weekend? I suspect, given you asked this question, you may have a problem with it (but I could be wrong, I apologise if I am). I think you need to find a way to get past your feeling about this and find a way to embrace it. What a wonderful father he is to want to see so much of his children, and what lucky children they are to have the opportunity to have that relationship with their dad. Be proud of him.
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Jenni - posted on 11/25/2011
Well my partner isn't exactly *new*. But I'd think it was great to have my step daughter every weekend. My husband works every other weekend though, so it's not possible. He gets a few days off during the week and we use to have her then, but now she's in J/K. So we only get to see her every other weekend and holidays until the summer. :(
If you are *concerned* about it. I kinda get why. It can get pretty overwhelming if you have kids of your own too and add more to the mix every weekend. But I still always look forward to my SD's visitations even though some weekends they run me ragged!
My SD's coming for her weekend today. I get super stoked now that we don't get to see her quite as often... I always plan a bunch of fun activities for the kids on her visits.
Tara - posted on 11/25/2011
Are you dating my ex?? LOL
Seriously though, my ex and I have joint custody of our three girls. This means he and I chose to split our responsibilities. He works 3 part time jobs, forgoes a full time position with benefits so he can spend as much time with his kids as possible. He picks them up every Saturday at about 5 and returns them home every Tuesday at about 1 pm.
I think he's an amazing father, shitty husband but amazing father.
I don't see why some people think when a couple splits up, the mom is the one who should have the kids more than the dad or even worse I hate when someone suggests that norm is every other weekend.
It's so unfortunate that people devalue a dad's role this way...
Either suck it up and love his kids and love him more for being so dedicated to them. Or leave and find a shallow selfish father who would rather do the horizontal boogie than spend time with his offspring.
Sorry but I have little patience for any women who plans to undermine the relationship a man has with his children.
I wouldn't date someone who had children but had nothing to do with them out of choice, so I'd happily welcome his children into our life. Really it's only a weekend you still have the week to do alone things. Children are part of this mans package you either accept them or move on!
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