How does my BF get ANY type of rights even though he is NOT the biological father but he has been there from birth? 10 years now.

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My boyfriend was in a relationship with a gal for 8 years. They met on a blind date and fell in love. She was already pregnant by someone else and the "biological" father wanted nothing to do with her or the child. My bf stepped up and was there for her through the entire thing and their relationship lasted for 8 years. Nobody is on the little girls birth certificate as the father. The relationship went south and they've been split for going on 3 years now. She has some major medical issues and is not a very good mother in my eyes. She's bi-polar....smokes marijauana ( sorry...I don't know how to spell it...never have done drugs so I really am not interested in its spelling lol) on a daily basis....can't keep a job (my bf and his family members says she's gone through more than 20 jobs while they were together)...and is on welfare. I don't like to judge however...well....nevermind. I feel so sorry for this little girl. It makes my bf cry when the ex uses the daughter as a pawn if my bf doesn't do what she wants him to do. Now mind you we live almost 7 hours away from them. So my question is how can we as a stable, fit couple, get my bf some rights even thought he is not the biological father?? Please help....There aren't many men out there that I know of that would step up to the plate like he did. He's an amazing man and we both have GREAT wonderful families with great morals and upbringing. We both attend church, have GREAT stable jobs and live in a great community. We don't live together however we will after we're married. :) Thank you for any help. God Bless

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yeah...we're thinking that but no we are in no way getting our hopes up. We're both just very sad about the whole situation. but thank you so very much Jodi. :)

Jodi - posted on 01/18/2013

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Jeanette, I am not the authority on the issue. All I can suggest is that he *could* discuss it with a lawyer, but don't get your hopes up.

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No...he asked her while they were together but denied him of that...which was actually a blessing I suppose because she would come after him for everthing. She's that type of female. I thank you for your response. This is my first stop and I'm trying...trying for him and trying for us....and this sweet little girl. I feel so sorry for her. Thank you again for your response.

Jodi - posted on 01/18/2013

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Your boyfriend doesn't have any rights unless he adopted her, which it doesn't sound like he has.

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