how far should I push?

Julie - posted on 06/20/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




My son is 15 1/2 yrs old. He's a good boy but a little lazy or has a lack of responsibility. - have always had to really get on him to get him to help around our home. He is helpful if there is something for him to gain from it. He is smart and thinks ahead, he can plan things out and be a little manipulative to create work to his advantage. He was just given a job by our neighbor on his farm. He has been waiting 4 yrs to get big enough to do the hard farm work. He worked his first day (10 hrs) and came home exhausted. He called the man himself and told him he wouldn't be able to work much because of his sports schedule. We are making him go back and give it a second chance and work part time (4 hrs/day) do you think we are pushing too hard to make him work this young?.


Constance - posted on 06/20/2011




I would send him back for the 4 hours it will be good for him. I mean this isn't something you made him sign up for he wanted it. I agree though if after a couple of weeks he is still not settling in to the work then something new should be looked at.


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Louise - posted on 06/20/2011




Farm work is exhausting and he is only young not yet got the stamina of a grown man. 10 hours must of been knackering for him. Does he do a lot of sport for entrance into college or is it for fun? If it is for fun then he can cut back and work if it is for something more promising like easier access to college then this is more important than learning a work ethic. Push him to go back for a 4 hour shift and see how he feels. I think he will realise that this is more managable than a 10 hour shift and be grateful. If he feels he really can't cope with such physical work then find him something else. I completely understand you want him to work but maybe in this case the job is not suitable for him.

Stifler's - posted on 06/20/2011




He's 15. If he's doing school 10 hours is a bit much. 4 hours would be good for him.

Stuck-in-the-moment - posted on 06/20/2011




not at all..4 hours a day is definatley builds up a work ethic..but I also know that you only get to be a kid once..i'd tell him either he does more around the house or he keeps his job :)

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