Ashton - posted on 04/09/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
When I was 17 I met this 18 year old guy who I was crazy over, he was equally crazy over me. I am now 24 and he will be 26. We ended up getting pregnant right away just to suffer a miscarriage. After that we decided that what we wanted was a baby. So we got pregnant again. October 2005 we were blessed with a healthy baby boy. When he turned 2 we decided to try for another so by that spring we were pregnant this time we had a baby girl December 2008. I like to think that everything was perfect when really it wasn't. The whole relationship my boyfriend suffered through addiction issues regarding several substances. Not only that but he was also a cheater. And to make matters worse he decided to join a gang when our daughter just turned two. That was the last straw for me, I packed up and moved myself and my two children 200 kms away to a bigger city. I have been in this new city for almost nine months. He has barely helped me at all since I left. But there are still the few occasions where he would call and I would allow him to come see us or we would go see him. My situation gets even more complicated because now he has a new girlfriend that he has moved into his mothers house. Even though she lives there I have gone and visited many times. I have also let my children go visit and she was there. After a couple times I decided that I don't want this 19 year old girl to be apart of my children's lives. This girl being only nineteen already has a criminal record, she's in the same gang as my ex, she has a 6 year old child that she doesn't take care of. There are many factors that have lead me to the conclusion that I don't want her near my children. I'm not sure if what i'm doing is the right thing? I have told my ex that as long as she's around my children won't be going to visit, Is this to much to ask for?