How long does it take to get a 2 yr old off a pacifier?

Danielle - posted on 01/05/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I took my daughter's pacifier away 5 days ago and she's still pretty heartbroken when it comes to going to bed without it. She only got them at bed time so she's been pretty difficult to get to bed. When does the heartbreaking crys stop??? I don't know what to do to comfort her. If I try to comfort her, she doesn't let me leave her room. If I try being a bit more firm she still crys when I leave the room. Daddy gets her to bed easier but I don't want it to turn into her dad being the only on that get put her to bed.

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Theresa - posted on 01/06/2011

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3 of my kids used pacifiers and all 3 were confined to bed only wth it after 1 year. Around 2 I started telling them it was yucky and they should throw it away. I just kept teasing them about it like that eacj day. One day each of them threw it away. When night time came I just said remeber you threw it away. I can't go pull it out of the garbage, that'd be gross. They were sad for a few nights, but got over it. I personally wouldn't give it back at this point. i think you;d only be teaching her that if she cries enough she'll get it back. Maybe you could talk to her about being a big girl. See if there's a big girl thing sh'ed like to sleep with instead. For instance my daughter LOVES Tinkerbell. So a Tinkerbell doll to sleep with would be something she'd love. Go to the store and find something she loves that she can take to bed with her. Only give it to her when sh'es in bed. Then when badtime comes if sh'e sad about the pacifier remind her that she picked out "whatever toy" and that she's a big girl now and she gets to sleep with that. Hope that helps. She'll get over it. And CIO isn't detrimental or tramatic. No child has had to have therapy because their parent let them CIO. As long as you're a loving parent the child will be just fine.

Katherine - posted on 01/05/2011

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I have always been told NOT to do it cold turkey.

Here are some ways that may have worked:



Cut it and say it broke

Tell her the pacifier fairy took it

Have a party to stop using it

Bury it

Make a big deal out of all of these things, never let them CIO, that is sooooo detrimental and traumatic to them.

The last thing is that you could have let her self-wean.





I would honestly give it back. Give her a week and then try again using those ideas, just MO.

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GMomma - posted on 11/16/2014

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My baby was never given a pacifier and he falls asleep own his own. Works great for baby and parent(s). Baby doesn't know about it and doesn't depend on it. Best of all there's no dealing with the suffering when trying to take away away permanently.

Leah - posted on 01/10/2011

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My daughter was 26 months when we stopped letting her have her paci during nap/bedtime. She mentioned "lala" a few times but never cried for it so we just rolled along like we had no idea what she was talking about. Sounds like we were very lucky this time!! I have heard of parents taking 4 pacis with the child to build a bear and placing one paci in each hand/foot. It still allows the child to have the paci just not in his/her mouth. Sometimes it's just the attachment to the object that the child is craving. Best wishes for peaceful days (and nights!) ahead in your home!! :)

Jennifer - posted on 01/10/2011

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My Dr. told me to not take it away that early so I waited until he was 3 and then we took all of them to toys r us and traded them in for a toy. I wispered to the clerk what we were doing. My Dr. said they don't worry about it that young, the trauma is more damaging than letting him have it a t night.

Kisha - posted on 01/09/2011

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oh I had to get rid if my sons pacifier because he had too many ear infections. He cried for about a week. My feeling is if you took the bottle away already then take the pacifier too. Does the child REALLY need it to sleep or is it making bedtime easier for you? How long does it take for sleep to come without it? 30min -1hr it really isn't needed.

Lori - posted on 01/09/2011

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Just curious..why the rush? I just feel at that age..why not let them have the security?They will give it up..but i don't think it's healthy to rush it..going to bed sad every night can't be a good thing. Best of luck

Candygirl_523 - posted on 01/08/2011

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buy her a tiny box *at the dollar store* get her to putt it in,tell her it is her memory box for when she is older,and she doesn't want her favorite pacifier all gross in it.Or you could buy her a teddy,and explain to her,that ".Teddy told mommy that *insert your daughters name* is getting to be a big girl,and that its time for her pacifier to go bye bye"

Did that with my step son for bottles,now he brings his little sister bottles without trying to drink from them,I found this method works because it take their mind off of the main issue

Kate CP - posted on 01/06/2011

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I don't think she's sobbing to make you feel bad. I think she's crying and throwing a fit because she's not emotionally mature enough to express her feelings any other way.

Danielle - posted on 01/06/2011

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I really appreciate all of the support and advise. I know that it would make it easier to just give it back to her but my daughter is pretty stubborn and will only make it 10x worse if I give it back and try to take it away later on! I don't know if I could take that.
The reason why I'm concerned and am trying to take it away is because I have a 4 year old that never had a pacifier, he found his fingers and soothed himself that way. We broke the habbit of him sucking his fingers outside of bed, but he's still sucking at bed time and we have only suggested that he give it a try not to and he had a complete melt down!!! I can't take his fingers away so I figured with the pacifier it would be hard but at least I could break the habbit earlier.
Last night she slept thru the night without waking for it and a tantrum so that's a step in the right direction...unless it was just a fluke!! LOL I'm keeping my fingers crossed. Maybe because she's stubborn and knows how to get me emotionally she's making this hard to see if I'm going to break! I've been close...but I keep thinking it's going to be WAY worse the next time around!
I guess until she gets used to it Dad has to be around to be the magic touch after my attempts to get her into to bed and to stay there fail.

Bek - posted on 01/06/2011

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I just let my children have it until they lost it or didn't want it anymore. I've never seen a child have "issues" because they had a binki until they were three.. by then, usually peer pressure takes care of it and if the kid has the binki longer at bedtime, what's the harm? The only "bad" thing I've ever heard about a child and a binki is dental issues, but it's worse if the kid sucks his thumb, and you can't take a thumb away. I think it's more opinion than anything.

Bonnie - posted on 01/06/2011

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I never had that problem as my first child was done with it at 4 months and my second at 8 months. I would think it is just like any other item children become attached to though. Breast feeding, bottle, a favourite blanket, stuffed animal or toy, you usually can't just take it away and they will forget about it just like in most cases.

Monica - posted on 01/06/2011

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the way I took the bottle from my son was telling him that it was lost and we had everybody looking for it for a couple days. When he asked for it I kept telling him that we will find it until he completely forgot. Maybe you can try this with the pacifier If you decide to give it back to her and try again when she is 2 1/2. I hope you can find a solution.

Melissa - posted on 01/06/2011

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stay strong. I hear its hard. I think they should be able to have it (at night only) til age 3 then take it off them cold turkey. If its only at night its not too big of a deal. But if you definately want her to stop using it then just stay strong and persist if you give in and always comfort her it will take longer for her to settle without it

Kate CP - posted on 01/05/2011

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She obviously wasn't ready to get rid of it yet. If she's only using it at night it's probably not that big of a deal. I'd give it back to her and try weaning her slowly off it again later.

Jane - posted on 01/05/2011

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I've heard this statement many times on COM. have you ever seen a teenager or adult with a pacifier? Give it back and don't feel the pressure you might possibly be getting from others to take it away. Give in 6 months and then try Katherine's ideas. We tied my daughters to a helium balloon and sent it to her grandpa in heaven for safe keeping. She LOVED that!

Tiffany - posted on 01/05/2011

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My doctor always recommended the cry it out method, I know its not for everyone, but it worked great for my daughter. She cried herself to sleep for 2 nights, and have not had a problem in 4.5 years. You just have to be strong. ( and have a pair of ear plugs...LOL)

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