How Long Should I Let This Go On?

Lisa - posted on 08/02/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a 2.5 year old boy who is super picky about food. Ever since he started on solids, he rarely eats fruits or vegetables that are not pureed. And even when he does one day does not mean he will the next. He is at the age right now where we are able to reason with him somewhat, so I am making an attempt to cut out the purees entirely. His sister who is 10 months old regularly eats things he has never even tried. If she can gum eat she will eat it. In an effort to stop having to make special meals, I have started giving them both the fruit or vegetables I want them to eat at the start of the meal, and once a good amount has been eaten I give them the things they both will eat with no problem at all, like cereal or sandwiches or pasta. My son has now skipped his third meal in a row because of his refusal to eat what is put before him. I know that I cannot give in and go backwards to what we were doing, but how long do I let him go without eating? He is still drinking his normal amounts of water throughout the day and his milk at mealtimes, so he is hydrated. He is just not eating. Please help!!

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Susan - posted on 08/02/2011

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Hi Rachael; One Thanksgiving when I was 4 we were at my Uncle Johns house. We had a very large family, so us 'little ones' ate in the kitchen. My Aunt came in to see how we were doing and I asked to be excused. She wouldn't let me because I hadn't eaten my green beans. All the other kids left and I sat there gagging on a green bean.My mother came looking for me after what I thought was hours, probably 15 minutes. She was furious that my Aunt would do that, and I told her she was sitting by me and she'd push me, pinch me or hit the back of my head, and twice she smacked my leg. Well to make a long story short....to this day I will not eat a green bean. I serve them to my grandchildren and other family members. But generally they are not in my house. Every one knows that if they want beans bring enough for everyone. When my kids were young I didn't even cook anything they disliked, that way we could all sit down together and there wouldn't be any yelling by their dad. Worked good

Susan - posted on 08/02/2011

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My daughter refused to eat when she was about 18 mos old. Not entirely stopped, because she would eat fruit and sometimes some meat, and she took her milk. When she was born I couldn't get her to nurse. She wanted to sleep!! She might take a couple of mouths full then she'd sleep for 7-8 hrs.None of my other children (3) had done that, they seemed hungry all the time. But this little girl slept while her mother was up all the time trying to feed her.Of coarse I called her doctor who told me to stop worrying, when she got hungry she'd eat, and she did, about 4 days later. Same little one ate baby food but she turned her noise up at the family fare.Again a trip to the doctor who told me, if I could keep her eating fruit and meat she'd be ok. She remained a picky eater all through school Some where along the line she ate salad and now there is nothing she won't eat. Just a suggestion. If he eats finger food start giving him everything that way. No plate or bowl. I even boiled carrots,potatoes, even squash, so they could be handled by a two yr old. Every child is different, if he seems to be healthy he probably is. Add some vitamins to his diet, he'll be fine....Relax Mom, he looks like such a happy baby, just let he be a 2 1/2 yr old. Read some articles to find out about babies diets. Good Luck.....Relax

Susan Dunn

Rachel - posted on 08/02/2011

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I agree with Erin I have a 4 year old who will occasionally tell me that something that he previously ate he no longer likes and I guess I am kind of old school will either sit till the food is gone or that is also his next meal if I know it is something he eats not something new. Stick with what you are doing I know all kids are different and as long as he doesnt have weight issues that i wouldnt worry he will eventually eat. I couldnt do that with my 1 and a half year old because she is 18 months and 18lbs so we give in and will feed her anything she will eat just so she eats we try what is for dinner first and then give her other stuff that I know for sure she will eat she also snacks through out the day to try to maintain her weight. Good luck

Erin - posted on 08/02/2011

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Personally, and I'm sure others may disagree. I would hold your ground for at least 2 or 3 days. He's not going to starve (unless he has weight gain issues to begin with), make sure he has water and is not substituting milk for the meals (don't give him more than you normally would i.e. 3 cups a day) and never at meal time. If he manages to hold out for 2 or 3 days (which I doubt) then don't just give in but provide a tiny amount of what he will eat along with the others. Be sure to be fair though, maybe he doesn't like carrots and peas but he might like broccoli or cucumber. So try a variety not the same old thing. Good luck!

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