How many due dates can you get? -**PLEASE HELP**-

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Hi Guys,
I'm recently only 12-13 weeks k pregnant and I've been given my first due date which was Aug 26th on my first scan at 6 weeks.
I then went to another last week and he was saying I was due on Aug 18th but I can't see that possible because the begging of my last period was on the 15 nov.
All this stuff is just so confusing to me I've asked my doctor do we go by the first day of your last period or go by the end of it when I was sexually active...
And the worst thing is I'm trying to figure out who the father is I'm pretty certain of who it is but because they give me all these different dates it's just confusing me and stressing me more.

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Jodi - posted on 02/15/2014

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Well, yes, you had your LMP and then you were fertile the following week. That's the way it works. You were also fertile the week after that and the week after that. I think you are failing to understand that it could be either sexual partner who is the father, and only a DNA test will tell you the answer to your question.

Jodi - posted on 02/15/2014

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You can get many different due dates during your pregnancy. Why? Because it is called an ESTIMATED due date. There is no such thing as an accurate due date. They start by calculating from the first day of your last period (LMP), but this can be inaccurate because every woman ovulates at a different time in their cycle, and we all have different cycles. So basically, it can be out by a couple of weeks.

When you start having ultrasounds, the earlier the ultrasound, the more accurate, because earlier ultrasounds are estimating based on certain developmental milestones that have very small windows. Later ultrasounds are based on measurements and can be extremely inaccurate - my daughter was born full term according to my LMP, but when I was 32 weeks, they estimated her as much, much earlier (about a month), which was not even possible, simply based on her measurements. She was just a super small baby.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you seriously have to suck it up on who is the father. YOU made the choice to sleep with different men this casually, you now need to accept the consequences. There is no way you are going to know who the father is unless you now do a DNA test. From what I gather, there IS a non-intrusive test you can do while you are still pregnant (I think it is a blood test) but I also believe it is expensive.

If I had a penny for every time someone needed advice because they jump from sexual partner to sexual partner, I'd be a rich woman. It's not just about pregnancy. Make sure you get tested for STI's too, as these could affect your baby. I'm sorry, but promiscuity has consequences. I'm concerned that there are so many people who don't understand this. Even my 16 year old can understand this.

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