How many Kids is Enough =)
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Johnny - posted on 06/20/2011
Unless you want to contribute to the overpopulation of the earth and the resulting catastrophes that it causes, two biological children maximum. One for you and one for your partner. Replacement value only. If you want more, adopt.
Lora - posted on 06/20/2011
Elise, in my opinion 1 is to many for some parents. I think children need alot of attention. The more attention they have the better off they are. Some kids require more attention than others. I've seen parents (both Mom and Dad) they will have 3 children and there is always one child that needs more attention than the other two. If we as parents had 5 children and none of them required alot of attention do we have one more. I guess what I'm saying is I think alot depends on the needs of each child. I'm a single Mom now. My husband passed a couple of years ago. Christopher was 8 when he passed. Christopher was not a child that required alot of attention up untill then. After that he did. Both my boys have always been pretty independent when it comes to play, homework, outside fun. But alot of children are not like that. Depends on the child. I don't think that anyone should have more than what we as parents can provide as far as our undivided attension can give. We all need to spend as much time with our kids as we can. No more than one child per parent.
Elise, people like to tell other people what they "should" do. Its human nature. Try to just let it roll off your back.
The thing is, your 2 are perfect for you right now and that's all you can go by. As a woman, I reserve the right to change my mind at any time. You have that right too. Not that you will, but you can. I think perhaps people are just assuming you will.
I personally think it is beyond silly to ask a mother of a newborn if they plan on having more children. Do they not look busy (read overwhelmed) enough right now?! Anyway, the answer I gave people when they asked me if I was planning to have more was, "Not right now." It kind of pointed out without saying that this was really NOT the thing to be asking at that time.
Don't expect people will stop though. Again, its human nature to try to tell others how they should be doing things. Just remember for every person telling you that you will or should have more, there are at least two more who will question your sanity if you do. Just as any mother of 3+.
Elise - posted on 01/22/2010
lol Jane "great comment " just Reminded me of that show on foxtell 17 and counting =)
just asking as i have just givin birth to my second child 4 weeks ago and most of the doctors and midwifes were telling me "you'll be back" your only 20 and have many years ahead, you'll have another one for sure !,
but nope I'm happy with my little girl 18months and my little boy 4 weeks =) but yet everyone i speak to it trying to tell me that i will have more =)
but i think 2 is just Perfect !!! =)
Just as each person is unique, each marriage and family is unique. The right amount of kids for one family is completely different from the right amount for another.
The challenge is not judging other families when their "right" amount is different from yours.
Ashley - posted on 01/22/2010
Hi we have 2 girls 26 months and 8 months old ..as of now we only want these two .. my husband has been fixed.. we have talked about adopting one day maybe and if so it will be a boy so we can have a son,,, but as of now i think 2 is more then enough ..
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