how many mothers have miscarried and when did they start trying again?

Nicole - posted on 05/05/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

26

19

0

We were 6 weeks into our second pregnancy when i started spotting, I had a internal u\s and babied heart rate was only 96BPM and irregular, I started really bleeding later that day and miscarried. My Question is how long do we need to wait to start trying again?

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Abbie - posted on 05/05/2010

1,140

42

203

It varies from doctor to doctor, I have had 1 tell me 3 cycles and another said to wait 1. But I have found ( hav miscarried 4) that your body will probably hold off at least 6 on its own. Just something it does as a protective measure. I think also at such a young pregnancy you don't really need to wait much as the pregnancy hasn't taken a lot from the mom- not physically anyway. Also I am sorry for you loss! Never easy at any stage!!

This conversation has been closed to further comments

23 Comments

View replies by

Christina - posted on 11/24/2010

1

23

0

hi there i had a miscarrage just over 2 weeks ago but i just want that feeling bk so me and my hubby are trying aain also it cus my daughter wants a sister or brother so mutch and they do say after a miscarage u can get pregnant right away

Jessica - posted on 05/08/2010

223

1

34

I miscarried May 2007. I am sooo sorry you're having to go through this. I lost twins and it was a knife to my chest. There is a great book out there called Mommy Please Don't Cry, There Are No Tears In Heaven. It's Heaven through the eyes of a child. It helped me a lot.
My doc did not do a d&c on me so I got a uterine infection. it was debilitating and really sucked. We started trying again after about 2 mos. Unfortunately it still took almost a yr and a half, but now we have a beautiful 11 mo old girl. I'm sad about my babies, but Avery was well worth the wait! I wish you the best!

Despina - posted on 05/08/2010

2

0

0

I had 2 miscarriages the most recent one being in February. Both time my doctor told me to wait for 3 periods before starting again. It gives the body time to recuperate. Of course ask your doctor for verification. I know how it feels to miscarry, so my condolences and good luck with your next pregnancy.

Karna - posted on 05/08/2010

47

20

8

I also lost a baby 2 and half months into the pregnancy, though the baby also did not develop further than6 weeks. I had a D&C. It was my 4th pregnancy. The gynea said I must wait for one normal cycle, and then from the second cycle I can try to get pregnant again. I fell pregnant though after the first cycle. It was a difficult pregnancy, with lots of severe bleeding the first 3 months, but delivered a healthy baby boy! Had another healthy pregnancy 3 years later.
So my point - if you miscarried in the first trimester, you only need to give your uterus a rest for two months, then start again if you're emotionally up to it. If the miscarriage was later in the pregnancy though, you have to give the uterus time to return to normal size, and heal properly - 3-6 months at least.
And I agree with Lynette - you have lost a baby, who's waiting for you in God's arms. And each one of us will meet our unborn baby(babies) one day. This helped me a lot to cope with the loss of my little one.

Bobbie - posted on 05/07/2010

29

35

2

I am so sorry for your loss. It is a hard thing to go through. I have had one stillborn son and two miscarriages. Never is easy but with time things do get better. You can start for another one after 6 weeks. You can even earlier but most doctors recomended the 6 weeks.

[deleted account]

Hi Nicole, sorry about your loss.
I have had two miscarriages. After my last one, 4 years ago, my ob/gyn suggested 2-3 months of waiting before trying again. Which we did and conceived our 3rd child straight away.
Good luck hun and take it easy.

Nicole - posted on 05/06/2010

26

19

0

Thanks everyone for your feedback and support, it has helped a lot to hear from all of you.

Jenny - posted on 05/06/2010

3

11

0

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage!!! I've had a miscarriage in between each of my 4 kids, with my last mc being at 9wks (the others were miscarried within the first month). I've been told to wait 3 months/cycles before trying to get pregnant again to let my body heal. I never got pregnant right after a miscarriage. My last miscarriage did a real number on my body and it took me awhile (about 6 months) to get my cycle regulated, but once it did I was pregnant with my 4th in about 2 months. Good luck! :O)

Heather - posted on 05/06/2010

71

11

0

hi Nicole sorry for your loss I had 2 miscarriages. I had a d&c after my second the doctor told me to wait one normal cycle before tryinng again so we did and we got pregnant and it was succesful. The 2 miscarriages were in between my 1st and 2nd don't give up I now have 3 healthy wonderful children.

[deleted account]

I'm so sorry, it is such a difficult thing to go through!

I had 5 miscarriages, all around 10-12 weeks, before becoming pregnant with my son (and that pregnancy was supported with a variety of medications). I had a D&C after the first miscarriage and was told to wait at least 3 cycles after my period returned. It took me nearly a year to get pregnant again. After the other miscarriages, which I allowed to happen naturally, I was told that I could try right away if I wanted to.

Susan - posted on 05/06/2010

4

20

1

Hi Nicole

I suffered a miscarriage between my first born and my second born children when I was approximately 16 weeks along. After having the necessary procedures I was instructed by my doctor not to try to fall pregnant again for a month until I had had my next period. Once that month was over with, both my husband and I started trying straight away. We didn't get pregnant again until 4 months later. I believe that you can try once that month is over, however your body will only get pregnant when you are truly over the effects of the miscarriage. Sometimes we try straight away after and all we are really doing is trying to replace the baby that we lost and once we have come to terms with that lose then we are able to move forward. Good luck whatever you decide.

Cheers

Susan

Lynette - posted on 05/06/2010

0

0

1

I must add, that it is really a horrible thing to go through, and alot of people that have not had miscarriage's before dont really realise how devistating it is for a mom. I know some people believe that the baby isnt human until whatever time but i believe that it is, from the moment it was concieved so for me it was really like loosing a child. Its heart renching and so sad but i believe that my baby and all those who have not made it, are in God's arms this very moment and in the most wonderful place imaginable, and that they are waiting for us to come and meet them there. I will see my little angel one day again. God bless to all of you. xx

Janice - posted on 05/05/2010

3

3

0

Hey. First off, I am so sorry and pray that you have the support of family and friends to help get you through this emotional time. We had one miscarriage, with our second attempt, at 5 weeks after trying to conceive. My OB told us to wait for at least 2 regular cycles, for physical health. However, I did not want to try and was going to get back on birth control because it was too much emotionally. However, we were pregnant after just one regular cycle (when not trying). We had a healthy full term birth in July 2008. She will be 2 soon. You have to go by what you can take both physically and emotionally! May God bless you in your future attempts.

Rachael - posted on 05/05/2010

1

0

0

So sorry for your loss. I have had two miscarriages, one at 11 weeks, one at 6 weeks. My doctor told me to wait at least 1 cycle before I tried again after the first miscarriage to make sure I was ok physically, but that I would wait as long as I needed to make sure I was ok emotionally. for the second miscarriage - I ended up getting pregnant again before i had another cycle and everything ended up being fine.

Ashley - posted on 05/05/2010

286

72

38

i'm sorry as well. i've miscarried twice they both were very close together. had one in may of 2008 and then got pregnant again miscarried again in october of 2008. we didn't try again until around june and july of 2009 because we were afraid it would happen again but go by what you feel that you want to try again. make sure your ready. sorry about little one passing.

Louise - posted on 05/05/2010

5,429

69

2321

Sorry honey, you are not alone I had three miscarriages all induced as there was no heartbeat and nature had not kicked in. It is heartbreaking I know the last pregnancy was triplets and really broke my heart. The good news is that you can try again after about two normal periods this gives the uterus time to heal and prepare for the next baby. All I can say is time is a great healer, so good luck with the next pregnancy. xx

Karen - posted on 05/05/2010

1,577

26

374

hi there! first let me say i'm very sorry.... i miscarried twice (both around 7 weeks) my dr told me that i only needed to wait until i had at least one normal cycle before i started trying...fortunately for me, the next cycle i had was normal so two months later i was able to start again. good luck!

Katarina - posted on 05/05/2010

0

0

198

I've miscarried as well, similar to the way Lynette did. I went in for my 12 weeks checkup and there was no heartbeat. They sent me in for an u/s and the baby stopped growing at 5 weeks, I was induced as nature wouldn't take it's course. Anyways, I was told once you have normal periods again you can start trying(1-3 cycles). http://www.babyhopes.com/articles/afterm...

La - posted on 05/05/2010

0

0

63

I miscarried in March 2008 when I was 5 weeks pregnant. I got pregnant again in April 2008 which was my second period cycle after the m/c. I've heard that you should wait at least 3 normal period cycles before you actively try to get prego again though.

Kim - posted on 05/05/2010

83

36

20

I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and was told by the Doc to wait 3 months before we started trying again. 2 months later we got pregnant and had a healthy baby boy.

Sarah - posted on 05/05/2010

102

3

10

Hi Nicole

Firstly let me say how sorry I was to read about your miscarriage. It's devastating when it happens and I hope you have the support of your partner, family and friends around you to help through this difficult time - Bigs hugs for you.

Secondly I've only had one miscarriage, but I have had two ectopic pregnancies. I think I was told to wait for two periods before I tried again. The best person to ask is your doctor.

Take Care

Sarah

Lynette - posted on 05/05/2010

0

0

1

Hi Nicole. I dont have the answer for you, but just wanted to say that I also had a miscarriage about 2 weeks ago, i was 12 weeks pregnant but the baby stopped growing at 7 weeks. the nurses told me that I should not start trying for another child until 6 - 12 months after the Miscarriage. I havent found anything on the internet to support that and would also like to know the same thing as you. ;)

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms