how many of you chose to bottle feed instead of breastfeed, and why?

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Liz - posted on 08/01/2009

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Hi, My first son completly refused to go on the breast and went onto thebottle at a week old, My second was on the breast for 5 months then went onto bottle as I found myself pregnant with No3 and I lost my milk. My Daughter lasted 7 months before I put her on formula. After the boys I found it easier, especially as at that stage they were still on formula anyway. I would have loved to been able to breast feed my kids for longer, I remeber hating they idea before having the kids but after they were born it made me feel complete that I could still feed them myself. I have noticed a difference in temperment in my children though, my oldest, who was formula fed from a week old, is more hyperactive.

In the end it is your choice, but give breast feeding ago, if anything just so you could say you tried.

Candy - posted on 08/23/2009

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i think i have become more apprehensive about the lactation consultants and the "peer pressure" than the decision itself. I chose to breast feed my first, but with my second (who is not here yet) i have chosen not to for many reasons, but people have very strong opinions on breast feeding and they sure want you to agree. I was at my hubs family reunion and a cousin who i really don't know tells me she is a consultant and begins giving me her opinion and i have been told by friends who chose not to that the pressure at the hospital was so bad one of them had her husband stand at the door and refuse to let the pushy consultant in. Holy cow! I don't want to deal with that stress, i want this to be a happy time with my family and our newest member. I am amazed! I think breast milk and feeding is great, but at this time for me it is not the best choice i wish they would respect that every mother considers what is best for her child.

Nikia - posted on 08/13/2009

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I did both. I breastfed for the first 4 months but it was too the point where i was getting to tired because she was up all the time, so i put her on bottle at night and then i had to finish breastfeeding completely, because my daughter Jayden was 10.5lbs at birth and was very hungry and very strong and really strong sucking relfloex, to the point where my nipples were so sore and constantly bleeding, i couln't even pump it hurt so much so i switch to bottle

Jane - posted on 08/17/2009

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It is a shame to read about so many people who have struggled with breastfeeding. I was one of the lucky ones. I was determined to give it a good go and gathered loads of info before giving birth. Then I had support in hospital and for the first few days at home from midwives when my son was quite sleepy and not very interested in feeding. However we persevered and once he got the hang of it was fine. I exclusively breast fed until he was 6 months, then continued to breastfeed while introducing solids until I returned to work at 11 months. I expressed at work but this wasn't very successful only getting 2-4 ounces so at that point introduced some formula. I stopped expressing at work at 15 months and then continued to breastfeed when I was with him and giving formula and later dairy when I wasn't. From around 18 months he didn't feed much in the daytime only at nap time and when upset about something or poorly. Now aged 2, he feeds first thing and last thing and I will continue until he self weans. He rarely asks in the daytime and if he does, I do try to distract him with an alternative.



If I am lucky enough to have another baby, I will hope to breastfeed him or her for as long as they want. Yes, you have to devote a lot of time to it and I spent a lot of time sitting around but there are loads of benefits such as not having to buy milk, sterilize bottles, find somewhere to warm them when out etc in addition to the well publicized health benefits for both mum and baby. I wasn't particularly pro-breastfeeding before having my son but now I tend to get angry or upset when the help and support isn't available for people who want it.



All this aside, if you choose not to breastfeed for whatever reason be it work, not liking the idea of it etc, that really is up to you and noone should put you under any pressure. Do accept any information on offer and make sure you are making the right choice for you though and try not to feel like people are telling you what to do. They may tell you breast milk is best and this is a medical fact. Formula is good enough for those who choose to use it or indeed need to do so. I would hope that if you choose to formula feed from the outset that you get support with this in hospital. When I was in, one mum was really struggling with the idea of breastfeeding though she did give it a go and the midwife said that she would rather help her to bottle feed in hospital than have her go home pretending she will continue to please them and then swopping! They were very pro-breastfeeding but not at all nazi like about it.



One thing you might consider is just expressing the colostrum (first milk) for a day or two as this is very valuable and there is only a small amount (I hand expressed in hospital as my son wouldn't latch on very much). Just a thought. Good luck with whatever you do x

I hope you have a good experience.

Christy - posted on 08/13/2009

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Definitely do what you are comfortable with, and not what people tell you to! I am still nursing my 3 month old, but that was my decision and it works for us. The only thing I would recommend for you is to try it in the hospital. This way your baby gets colostrum, which has been described as "gold" because it has so many nutrients. It only comes in for a couple days, and your baby gets some of your immunity. You can also start using formula at the same time if you choose so the baby gets used to the bottle right away as well. Best of luck!

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Candace - posted on 08/04/2011

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There is no reason baby needs to be exclusivly breast fed or exclusively bottle fed for any period of time.
My first born had an enormous appitite (nursing every 90 minutes or so for the first 6 moonths) so we actually used both the bottle and breast. After nursing was welll established (which fortunately only took a few weeks). My husband would give him a bottle of (gasp) formula for his 4:30 am feeding since he was getting up for work soon anyway and then I got to sleep through that feeding. Sometimes my son would get a bottle for the last feeding before bed too if I was just too sleepy.
This was also great for when I was ready to run-errands by myself. Since my son was use to the taste of formula there were no worries about making usre there was pumped milk in the freezer.
We both were able to enjoy all the physical and emotional benefits of breast feeding for the first year, but we (I) was not held captive by the demands 24/7 and my husband also got some special bonding time with our son.

Teresa - posted on 08/04/2011

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I had a horrible rought time breastfeeding the last time and I am considering skipping breastfeeding altogether as a result. Nobody has any answers as to why it was so difficult the last time and I don't want the stress of it.

Laura - posted on 08/01/2011

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My daughter is 20 months old now, but when she was born, she had trouble latching on, so whilst i was in hospital i expressed milk, but once i was back home i started to bottle feed. I actually found that is was also great for the father, everyone always talks about breastfeeding as way of bonding with the mother, well bottle feeding gives the child to bond with both parents. Our daughter has an amazing relationship with both of us, and she's a bright and clever child. So i always like to make a point of telling anyone who states that breast is best, to mind their own business and keep their opinions to themselves, because becoming a parent is daunting enough without the help of know it alls sticking their noses in.

Melissa - posted on 01/19/2011

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I bottle fed my first after 2 weeks I coudlnt wait to get her on bottles she was tongue tied and coudnt feed. It was such a relief. I breast fed my second but for the first 2 weeks wanst sure....hard learninghow to latch and i went home from hospital after 4 hours formula feeding it seemed all too hard but I got there. Shes been solely breast fed from 2 weeks old

Lorraine - posted on 01/19/2011

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I have started off bottle feeding my baby but now feel id like to have ago at breat feeding how hard is it to swap over he is 5days old

Jane - posted on 08/17/2009

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Hiya

It is a shame to read about so many people who have struggled with breastfeeding. I was one of the lucky ones. I was determined to give it a good go and gathered loads of info before giving birth. Then I had support in hospital and for the first few days at home from midwives when my son was quite sleepy and not very interested in feeding. However we persevered and once he got the hang of it was fine. I exclusively breast fed until he was 6 months, then continued to breastfeed while introducing solids until I returned to work at 11 months. I expressed at work but this wasn't very successful only getting 2-4 ounces so at that point introduced some formula. I stopped expressing at work at 15 months and then continued to breastfeed when I was with him and giving formula and later dairy when I wasn't. From around 18 months he didn't feed much in the daytime only at nap time and when upset about something or poorly. Now aged 2, he feeds first thing and last thing and I will continue until he self weans. He rarely asks in the daytime and if he does, I do try to distract him with an alternative.



If I am lucky enough to have another baby, I will hope to breastfeed him or her for as long as they want. Yes, you have to devote a lot of time to it and I spent a lot of time sitting around but there are loads of benefits such as not having to buy milk, sterilize bottles, find somewhere to warm them when out etc in addition to the well publicized health benefits for both mum and baby. I wasn't particularly pro-breastfeeding before having my son but now I tend to get angry or upset when the help and support isn't available for people who want it.



All this aside, if you choose not to breastfeed for whatever reason be it work, not liking the idea of it etc, that really is up to you and noone should put you under any pressure. Do accept any information on offer and make sure you are making the right choice for you though and try not to feel like people are telling you what to do. They may tell you breast milk is best and this is a medical fact. Formula is good enough for those who choose to use it or indeed need to do so. I would hope that if you choose to formula feed from the outset that you get support with this in hospital. When I was in, one mum was really struggling with the idea of breastfeeding though she did give it a go and the midwife said that she would rather help her to bottle feed in hospital than have her go home pretending she will continue to please them and then swopping! They were very pro-breastfeeding but not at all nazi like about it.



One thing you might consider is just expressing the colostrum (first milk) for a day or two as this is very valuable and there is only a small amount (I hand expressed in hospital as my son wouldn't latch on very much). Just a thought. Good luck with whatever you do x

I hope you have a good experience.

Tisha - posted on 08/14/2009

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For my 1st daughter about 4 yrs ago it took me a few days to get her to breastfeed and then she was always on me, eating every 2 hours. This time around totally different, my daughter is smaller and I had some complications so it took a little longer for my milk to come in so she didnt want to suck. I had to do the fingertube feeding then after a few days I was so tired so I switched to a bottle and still tried to breastfeed. I was determind to breastfeed her its such a great bonding experience she finally got it about 6 weeks and its still a struggle since she doesnt eat much and wont take the bottle well. I pump most of the day and now just breastfeed her at nights and first thing in the morning. Im even excited that I am donating some of my breastmilk to some twins in need. Breastfeeding is harder on the mom but is better for baby and helps you lose your weight too. The first 2 months or so breastfeeding is the hardest but stick with it, it does get better. Im also learning that each child is different and take a day at a time. Good Luck! Congrads on being a new Mom. Tisha

Olga - posted on 08/13/2009

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It's my opinion not all of us are successful trying to breastfeed, I at least gave a try but failed, and without any regret took the bootle

Sherri - posted on 08/13/2009

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I chose to breast feed both of my sons. However my second son came early and for some reason i milk would not come in. SO he had to be bottle fed. I am actually happy that we bottle fed. Because it is less stressful on me, my husband can be a part of the feedings more, and has bonded better with our second in the beginning then our first, and he sleeps through the night, which is great for the whole family. I feel a little guilty not being able to nurse, but i know hes healthy and still happy either way. Do not let anyone make you think differently of your choice! Bottle feeders i just as well adjusted and healthy as those that breastfeed. If anything my son who was breastfed was sick more often than my second who is on the bottle. GO figure!

Mary - posted on 08/13/2009

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Breastfeeding have its perks, that is what the "experts" say. However, whether you breastfeed or bottle feed is your ultimate choice. I just had my baby last week and I had every intention to breastfeed. But since I had a C-section and was on Morphine, I was not quite coherent. The nurses started my baby on bottle formula, which was fine. However, the "nightmare" was a day after I delivered. I'm a conservative person and to have 2-3 nurses hands on me and showing me how to feed him while my baby would not latch on and crying hysterically; definitely raised my anxiety and disappointment level. I was bottle fed too and there's nothing wrong with me. Anyway, stick to your guns about bottle feeding. You are the mommy and your decision is counted first.

Kimber - posted on 08/12/2009

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Hillary, I could have been you 4 years ago. I was so against breastfeeding and just felt weird about it until I got pregant with my 1st and began to do the research on the benefits to breastfeeding. I wanted to best for my child so I tried it and I ended up nursing my son until he was 3. I've since had 2 other children that I have breastfed. Just wait until you hold your baby and then make that decision.

Lisa Marie - posted on 08/12/2009

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I'm a breastfeeder but, first and foremost, I'm a supported of freedom of choice and a mother untimately knows what's best for her and her baby.

I would like to say, though, that formula is widely available, not just because of need, but also b/c there is money to be made from it and as a nutritionist, I am still very unsatisfied with the quality of commercial formulas. They still lack essential BIOAVILABLE nutrients like essential fatty acids, probiotics, enzymes, etc. and many of the fortified nutrients are not very easy to digest and absorb (in plentiful levels)

And, yes, you may see some of the above listed nutrients on the labels now as manufactureres are finally starting to realise that many babies become very deficient in these nutrients over time even though they seem healthy overall. But the vast majority of formula makers (especially the big ones) do not fully understand the total needs of a baby when it comes to needed nutrients. Many formulas are 'dead' and have no vitality and therefore have limited nourishment. They may nourish for the short and even somewhat long-term but the very long term effects can be difficult (ie: ADHD, slower brain development, immunity, etc.)



I would recommend trying breastfeeding, if you feel inclined once the baby is born (wait and see first, do not make up your mind now - remain open:))

And then if you decide to bottle feed please choose wisely and carefully and don't be afraid to add things to the formula you choose. Consult a Holistic Nutritionist in your area that has experience in this for more details.

Best of luck!!

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I really can't understand why would perfectly healthy and able women do not want to breastfeed. Breasmilk is the perfect food for a baby, but breastfeeding is not only about giving food!!

reading most of the comments I prefer to stop here

Good luck to all of the babies and mums

Amy - posted on 08/11/2009

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Hillary, I choose to bottlefeed my son. He just turned 1, 2 weeks ago & he is beautiful, happy & healthy. Just do what is best for you & your family. As for the lactation nazi's, when I gave birth I made all the nurses aware that I was bottlefeeding & they just had everything ready for that afterwards. I never even saw the lactation nazi. I guess maybe if you make your plans clear ahead of time it will keep the nazi's away. Here's to a happy, healthy birth & Congratulations!!

Michelle - posted on 08/10/2009

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Hillary,

My baby is almost 4 months old and throughout my entire pregnancy I had stck in my mind that I was going to breastfeed and I did until she was about 2 months old, then I had to start supplementing with formula. All she wanted to do was eat and she would eat for about an hour to and hour and a half every 45 minutes, finally I just couldnt do it anymore, my milk was comming in enough she just always wanted to be latched on. I worked with lactation specialists and doctors and I just decided to give her formula and at around 7 weeks I started giving her cereal which is even better she sleeps throught the night and is ALWAYS happy as long as she is feed. It is a great bond that you do form when breastfeeding I wish I could have done it longer it is just a full time job in itself. Good luck with whatever you decide NO ONE can tell you what to do its your decision.

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I said throughout my whole pregnancy I was going to express breastmilk and bottle feed it, but as soon as I had her I changed my mind. I don't really know why, but when I got to thinking about it, it seemed like it would be such a challenge since I'm going back to school in August (this was in June) and I can't just go out to the car and pump!! I also didn't realize until they started telling me about it that breastfed babies have to eat every 1-2 hours, and as selfish as it sounds, I didn't want to do that. I didn't want my baby's eating to be miserable for the both of us. I was not only formula fed, but I was a premature baby born to a smoker and a former drug user, and I turned out incredibly well. That gave me the faith that formula-feeding would possibly make her just as strong and healthy as a breastfed baby.



She was 8 pounds 1 ounce when she was born, she came three days early. Just to brag, I had the greatest Labor & Delivery nurse in the state of Mississippi. We had a lot of trouble feeding her formula in the hospital. She would always fall asleep!! And we kept calling the nurses and (thank God) they kept coming to our room and helping us. Finally we started getting the hang of it... they gave us Enfamil Lipil Premium in the hospital, so that's what we bought when we came home, and I got Enfamil Lipil from WIC. After she was 4 weeks, she started passing blood in her bowel movements, at first just pink so I thought it was the Mylicon drops coming out cause the box says it's not absorbed into the baby's system. Then it started coming more, and she pushed out blood with mucus when I tried to take her temperature. We called the pediatrician and she wasn't there, so we called the other town's pediatrician and he said it could wait until morning unless she pooped more blood, if she did take her to the emergency room ASAP. We made an appointment the next day with our pediatrician and (luckily) we saved a diaper that had a little blood in it, and she tested it and yes it was blood. She told us it was possibly a milk protein allergy and switched her to the Alimentum formula... and man is it DISGUSTING!! It smells like fish food and sours easily. We had to switch the rest of her WIC to the Alimentum, and we got shorted ounces because the cans come in different sizes. We ended up buying two cans and three quarts of formula, the quarts being $9.28 and the cans around $25.



Since we've changed her formula she hasn't had any bellyaches, normal bowel movements, and she sleeps SO good. She just about sleeps through the night, and she's almost 2 months old. The formula seems to be thicker and it seems to satisfy her more and keep her full longer. Last night she slept from midnight to 6 a.m. She eats about 28 ounces of formula a day, which is what the reading material from WIC says is normal.



I got so personal to let you know what could possibly happen if you did formula feed, you may have to go through some formula changes. And the things that happen to lead to the formula change may freak you out a little bit. Thank God I still live with my parents and my boyfriend's mama was there to take care of my daughter, because I was inconsolable, I thought it was my fault or I stuck the thermometer in too far... I'm still a very "green" parent and I freak out easily, I'm only 19. But all in all it's truly a personal decision that you need to make for yourself, I got asked a lot why I changed my mind and I truly can't tell you! Do what you feel is best for you and your baby.

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Quoting Marni:



Quoting Sandy:

It took me six weeks to get nursing down but when we got it we got it. The soreness
was over and she has been so healthy, and SMART! She is 9 now. It was the best
thing I have ever done. We are so close and bonded. There are 100 ingredients that
are in breast milk that man cannot make. Formula is not nearly healthy for your baby as they would have you think. It is natural to breast feed and you will be able to do it
if you try until you get it. I had to wear a nipple shield because my nipples were inverted and the nipple shield was clear and I would keep misplacing it. I would cry sometimes in frustration. I even went to the hospital one night at 10:00pm to get another nipple shield because I had lost mine. But, one day she just did it and it was over, we were
home free and it was a breeze. I used Lansonol breast cream. I would put a paste of it on a Lansonol breast pad and wear them under my bra.. Lansonol was so wonderful. It stopped cracking and soreness on me over night. Nursing is proven to be healthier for your baby. People keep telling you to do what is most comfortable for you, but when you have that baby, you will realize how much of yourself you are willing to put aside for that child. Your life will never be the same.






Sandy.  I have a friend with inverted nipples who was told by her family practitioner that she will never be able to breastfeed (and she badly wants to).  I am going to share your post with her for inspiration.  And you are right about the fact that formula is not nearly as healthy for infants as we have been led to believe.  Formula has not been in use long enough for the long-term effects to have been accurately assessed (while breast milk has milennia behind it).  Cigarettes were initially marketed as a health restorative (an idea that's laughable today).  Yes, many babies who are exclusively formula-fed are perfectly healthy, and many babies who are exclusively breastfed are sickly - there are exceptions to every rule.  Many smokers never get lung cancer, but I don't consider that a reason to start smoking.  My children may well end up fighting illnessess of which brestfeeding promises to reduce the risk.  But, (God forbid) should that day come, I will know that it isn't because I didn't breastfeed them. 





 



 



I would just like to know what research you both have to make that assumption about infant formula. How long does "long" have to be to be considered "accurately assessed"? Did you know that the first infant formula was created by Henri Nestle in 1867?

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We bottle fed our child formula. We adopted, so my only choice for breastfeeding would have been adoptive breastfeeding, which usually requires some supplementing anyway. However, even that wasn't an option for us as our "paper pregnancy" was **very** abbreviated.

Sara - posted on 08/10/2009

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I'm breastfeeding my daughter, now 10 months, and there are times I wish I could formula feed. It's just something each mother has to decide for herself. Yeah, they say breastmilk is the best for the baby, but you have to weigh everything when it comes to that decision. It's convenient in the middle of the night to breastfeed, rather than listen to your baby cry as you fumble around with powder formula and getting the water temp just right. But out it public it's the other way around. I enjoyed nursing at the beginning because I could use it as an excuse to get away from visitors and just bond with my daughter by myself. I've continued to breastfeed since it saved tremendously on money. I was only breastfed for a month or two, and I think I turned out okay too. Don't think for one second that you'll be a bad mommy if you formula feed - they wouldn't make the stuff if it wasn't good enough for your baby! Good luck!

Ginger - posted on 08/10/2009

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Hello,, I really had no choice in the matter,, I tried to breast feed both of my children but i jus would not produce the milk for it,, But i found that i really made no difference... I was always told that breast was the best... But in some cases that just is not true,, both we\re bottle fed and my oldest has had more problems with ear infections and colds and alergies than my little girl... She on the other hand had no problems with anything,,, I don't think there is anything wrong with bottle feeding.. It is a moms right to choose what she wants.. after all, she is the one who gave birth...

Melissa-anne - posted on 08/10/2009

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HI Hillary,





well as you are leaning more towards bottle feeding due to personal choice, you need to feel comfortable with this, talk to your partner about this. About what is bothering you and the benefits of bottle as opsoed to breast...

i myself now have a daughter who is 1, i breast fed the whole way until she was almost 12 months. .... i had a difficult time at the beginning. what they dont tell you is that you would be best to "prepare" your nipples... as in rubbing them, just as a baby would... from my personal experiece, it was very painful for the first week... if you do not have the will power or even the want as you seem, you may be best to bottle fed right from the start.

just quickly what i have learnt...

1. determination to breast feed is a must.

2. the saying no pain, no gain fits in here.

3. its necessary to put the baby straight on the breast soon after birth, my daughter was like a hungy monster and sucked so strong, i was fortunate. couldnt wait for the 3 days to pass so my milk would come through, they actually attach to the breast every 2 hours (bottle fed do not as the milk is more filling)

4.its conveinient when out and about, again confidence to do so also plays important.

5.a network of other breast feeding mums helps to gain this confidence.

6.breast fed babies are hungrier than bottle fed babies

7. bottle fed babies are more than likely to sleep through the night earlier than BF

8.Bottle fed allows for your partner to help you feed and give you extra sleep when needed, and trust me you will need it.

9. if you think expressing is easier, its not, its more time consuming, you still ahve to get up in the middle of the night to express to keep the milk flowing.... its just easier to breast feed in this instance... unless its for work purposes.

10. breast feeding is a really nice bonding time that you have together.

11. breast feeding encourages you to interact more with your baby

12. breast feeding whilst laying in bed also helps to rest yourself. they attach and thats it

13. breast feeding elimates cleaning of bottles, steralizing time. no preperation needed when out and about with baby.

14. breast feeding reduces the chances of colic

as you can see there are alot of differences bw the both. The important thing is to make the decesion that best suits you and your lifestyle.

if you are happy, baby will be too, this is ultra important!

When the time comes do what feels natural to your instinct!

wishing you the best of luck in any of your decsions!

Lauren - posted on 08/10/2009

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My son is 8 months old and has been bottle fed all the way through. Luckily the midwives at the hospital didnt try to get me to breastfeed. Like a couple of other mums of here I didnt like the idea of breastfeeding public and using breast pumps, I wanted my partner to get up during the night to help with the baby. Bottle feeding was more convenient for us...and my son is as healthy as a breastfed baby :)

Patrice - posted on 08/10/2009

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I never breast fed, i did not want to nor did i even want to try to. I am hapy with my choice my wee boy is perfectly healthy and i had no issues with him when first born. The hospital asked if i was breastfeeding and i said not i was bottle feeding and they brought me the milk. Bottle feeding never and has not affected my relationship with my wee boy any other children iahve will be bottle fed!!

Jessica - posted on 08/09/2009

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I nursed my son for the first year... Whatever my husband isn't allergic to I am and my husband has really bad asthma so due to that I wanted to nurse him so that I knew that I did all I could to help him maybe prevent or lessen these issue if he were to get them. I was sure I was going to struggle with the concept, and I did, but with the use of a shield it helped me cope with some of my issues - I am not a touchy person in general, I can give hugs and kisses to my son all day but nursing him definitely threw me for a loop. I personally did not feel that it created any stronger of a bond between me and my son, it was more of a dependance in my mind than a bond. I think that you need to do whatever works best for you and if you can nurse and find a way to make it successful and comfortable for you then go for it but if you are uncomfortable and struggling than don't, you are not doing either of you any favors if you really do not want to nurse. The bottle gives you some freedom that nursing does not as well as the ability to eat whatever you choose, and not have to ensure you are getting enough calories for your body to make the milk which definitely made it a bit more difficult to master the end stages of losing the baby weight. Just remember the nutrients the baby gets from the first few times... even if you just ask to pump it may be worth at least thinking of a way to get the cholostrum (not sure how to spell that) to the baby but other than that formula's now are so well balanced that either choice will be fine. Trust that what you choose is what is right for your family. Good luck and I wish you the best!

Kia - posted on 08/09/2009

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I chose to bottle feed because I didn't want to have to pump milk when I went back to work. Also I feared not being able to produce enough milk and then making the transition to bottle milk.

Jodi - posted on 08/09/2009

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Quoting Marcela:

Hi Hillary, the other moms are right when they say this is your baby and your decision, but I would like to tell you my own experience in relation to this matter. I breastfeeded my eldest son for almost 6 months, and the youngest one for only one month (since no one told me that at every pregnancy you need to get your breasts prepared, so this second time, my breast started bleeding every time I fed the baby, this was no good for the baby). As a result of this, my eldest son never needed to visit the dentist until he came back from his mission (this was his first time at the dentist in his whole life). My youngest son, had to visit the dentist, for the first time, when he was 5, and during his childhood and still being a teenager he had problems with his bones. Now, both of them are healthy young adults, and happily married. Hope my experience can help you!



Marcela, I think maybe your experience with the dental and bones is possibly bad luck. My mum struggled to breastfeed any of us for very long at all (myself and 4 siblings) and we were all mostly bottle fed.  I had my first cavity at age 23, and still only have 4 fillings in my mouth at age 40 (and yes, I have check ups regularly).  Only two of my brothers had problems early in life, one was because he didn't get flouride in the water when he was young, because we didn't have the availability and flouride tablets were not added, and the other because he used to take a glass of coke with him to bed when he was a teenager and mum didn't realise (and she freaked when she found out he was sneaking it in).



I also bottle fed my children from age 6 weeks and 8 weeks respectively.  My son, now 12, has never had to have any dental work done, other than a plate for a tooth which was growing the wrong direction (and this is just one of those things, nothing to do with how he was fed), and my daughter, now 4 1/2, has not problems at all yet.  They both have regular check ups.



Realistically dental problems are related to inappropriate feeding patterns (ie. allowing a child to take a bottle of milk to bed and not cleaning their teeth), as opposed to whether they are breast or bottle fed.  As long as they are introduced to healthy dental habits as soon as their teeth begin to come through, it should not be an issue.

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Quoting Jerica:

I never wanted to try it either and won't .. my son was bottle fed from day one and so will this one..i'm not comfortable with it either just something about it doesn't seem right to me.. yeah it might be best for your baby but they have some pretty great formula out there these days that make up for it.. just ignore those people they do drive you crazy.. just tell them your not interested and you've made up your mind and to respect your decision.. my son is perfectly healthy and i'm glad i made the choice to bottle feed .. !!





I completely agree! My daughter was bottle feed from day 1 (shes now 3) so was I, and so was my mother and we are all perfectly healthy! when I was in hospital just after I had her the nurses and midwives were NIGHTMARES! They were so pushy and always going on about how "breast is best" etc and they keeps saying things like we can hand express it or trying to push me into doing it for a few days. In the end I packed my bags up (less than 24 hours after giving birth) and told them all to get knotted and left! I still stand by what I did its your choice there is nothing wrong with the formulas we have these days and most kids are put onto normal milk by the time their 1year old any way!



p.s the job share is great!!!!

Marcela - posted on 08/09/2009

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Hi Hillary, the other moms are right when they say this is your baby and your decision, but I would like to tell you my own experience in relation to this matter. I breastfeeded my eldest son for almost 6 months, and the youngest one for only one month (since no one told me that at every pregnancy you need to get your breasts prepared, so this second time, my breast started bleeding every time I fed the baby, this was no good for the baby). As a result of this, my eldest son never needed to visit the dentist until he came back from his mission (this was his first time at the dentist in his whole life). My youngest son, had to visit the dentist, for the first time, when he was 5, and during his childhood and still being a teenager he had problems with his bones. Now, both of them are healthy young adults, and happily married. Hope my experience can help you!

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With my first daughter I tried breast feeding for a week and a half. She wouldn't latch and was starving and crying all the time and I was starting to not want to be around her. We switched to bottles and it made everyone much happier people (my husband included). With the second baby I went straight to bottle feeding.

Jodi - posted on 08/09/2009

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Jennifer, if God wanted everyone to breastfeed, he wouldn't make it so difficult for some, or reduce the milk production for some, or give us babies who can't feed beause of whatever reason :)

Jennifer - posted on 08/09/2009

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All right ladies. Let's be serious. If God didn't want us to breast feed he would not have given us breasts and would not have given us the ability to produce milk. Plain and simple. But it is a choice. So choose what you think is best for you and your baby. Breast feeding is not for everyone!

Lorri - posted on 08/09/2009

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i had 3 children all breast fed. it is not easy and takes dedication. i understand all woman are different and some cannot. i would like to encourage you to breast feed your baby,there is nothing in a can that can come close to breast milk and it is a very rewarding experiance. good luck to you with what ever u decide .

Iesha - posted on 08/09/2009

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By the way, I nursed for over a year. I used to be a party girl and indulge in different things. However, when I learned I was pregnant, I knew it was not about me anymore. My MaDukes was the same way and nursed me for almost two years. I was 155lbs b4 I got pregnant about 200lbs by the end of my pregnancy. I had a 8lb 13oz baby and was 187lbs. In the hospital, I got so frustrated because I couldnt sleep and because my big mouth said I was nursing anytime my lil mama was up they brought her to me no matter the time to nurse. I just send her back one time and said just give her something because she keep coming back because the colostrum was like one drip every 10min because milk takes time to build. I was discouraged but my man was so proud that i decided to nurse that I wound up keeping it up and once she turned 6mths I decided since I have to go to work and I pumped at work, at home, everywhere that it should be my time and i wanted to start back getting in shape so I can feel like a sexy woman again. Nursing within one month I lost 10lbs. I worked out a little and I took a week off nursing so I could do 3 colonics back to back. It was good. I started to go back to the bathroom regularly which helped toward loosing more weight and even worked out a little bit too. But once my sessions were over and I was even pumping and throwing the milk out to keep my flowing going, a week later my milk was coming out 3ounces within a half an hour when I used to get 7ounces. It was so discouraging to have to start building back milk like I used to b4 I took a week off of lil mama sucking. It took about 2 to 3 weeks for me to start back getting my usual 7 and 8 ounces w/in a half and I nursed for 6more months totalling 1yr and 2weeks. I felt good that I hung in there. No earaches, colics or severe colds for a year. Now we have a special bond because of me doing what I was supposed to do, put my child 1st, and nurse because that is why women have breast. She is such a quick learner and a happy baby. I am so blessed.

Nicole - posted on 08/09/2009

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i started to breastfeed my daughter didnt latch on right away it takes awhile when we got home i breastfed for like a month then had problems with gull bladder so i stopped.But i wish i would of done it longer its soo good for the kids immune system and other thibgs even if you only do it for a month that still helps.

good luck stay determined if thats what you want to do

Sandy - posted on 08/09/2009

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I tried breast feeding with my daughter but I wasn't taught properly so I had to switch to bottle feeding due to the pain. Tried again with my son and was taught the correct way and breast fed him for about three months but he was ALWAYS hungry so I changed him to the bottle with cereal. I think it's up to each person if they want to or not and how long. The first few weeks are the best to breast feed either way.

Iesha - posted on 08/09/2009

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It is your choice whether you decide to breadfeed or not and I am not the type to judge because I feel like to each its own. However if someone has possible info, feedback, or knowledge that God bless them with it wouldn't be right for them not to share it with others. It should be their duty, or at least that is the way some people feel. There is a lot of people who aren't aware of their options and why they have them. It could be annoying to hear if you are already aware of it and the benefits its has but the next person may think they could make that difference  to persuade another to provide the what they feel is best for their child. People are quick to dish out negative thoughts and horror stories, who would have thought positive encouragement was coming from everywhere. Until you experience it for yourself you can't take anothers word for it. What make you happy will make alot of people sad and so on. Everyone is different and are affected in different ways.



 



Sincerely Ms. Openminded



Quoting Hillary:
I'm not exactly a mommy yet, still pregnant, but that's why I wanted to know. I know that breast feeding is always encouraged and is best, but I'm just not comfortable with it. I've never been fond of the idea and my sister in law is breast feeding and after seeing everything she's going through now I really don't want to. I'm just so tired of all the breast feeding nazis that criticize bottle feeding moms, and I feel like the more I hear people tell me "oh just try it", the less I want to. My mom, my sister, and myself were all bottle fed and have always been perfectly healthy. I just wanted to know that I'm not the only one that feels this way. I don't even want to try in the hospital and everyone tells me they make you at least try it once, and that the lactation consultants are crazy and will make you, so I don't want them anywhere near my room! I just don't think it's right that they should tell me what's best for MY child, it should be my choice.





 

Kylie - posted on 08/08/2009

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Oh by the way just in case anyone decides to bottle because they want to save thier youthful boobies, too late, gravity is gunna get them in the end so just go with the flow lol!!!!!

Kylie - posted on 08/08/2009

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Hi Hillary,

I BF my son from the start. was always going to, so I am glad it worked out that I could. It almost didn't though!!

I have read all of the posts here and people are right it is your choice to BF or bottle, There are two things that I didn't see mentioned though. The first is, and most new mothers don't know, that breast milk can take up to 72 hours to come in AFTER your baby is born, longer if the baby is prem. The second is that a new born babies stomach holds less than a teaspoon so they don't need to be fed oz's!!!

If you do try to BF you will end up with sore nipples, you will have more sleepless nights, you will also have much more pleasant smelling nappies and chucks, your baby will even smell sweeter.

Formula fed babies can be just as healthy as BF babies but if they are overfed the fat that they put on with formula is a much harder fat than BF babies and these children can suffer weight issues as a result, If formula feeding is done correctly though it can be fine.



One of the main reasons for formula fed babies sleeping through the night is because the formula is digested much slower than breast milk, this slows their whole digestive process down, some Formula fed babies only poo once or twice a week, while this may sound like heave, how would you feel if you only went once or twice a week???



I have noticed a few people say if formula was so bad they wouldn't let you feed it to your babies, well it isn't that bad but it is certainly not the best for your child.



I have to say that I had a lactation consultant who was an absolute nightmare, anything that she could have done to upset me she did. I had a prem baby and very flat nipples and he just couldn't attatch, in the end I sent my husband to buy me a nipple shield, this worked, much to the disgust of the lactation consultand and the maternal and child health nurse!!!



I guess what I am trying to say is that although breastfeeding is a natural process it does not come naturally to most people, I would encourage anyone who is physically able to at least try breast feeding for a week before going to a bottle. Even if it is painful and you don't think your baby is getting enough. Remember their tummies are only tiny and they don't need to suckle for long to fill, They are meant to feed every three to four hours for the first few weeks if not months. If you chose to be a mummy you chose to have sleepless nights and the possability of cracked nipples and all the other fun stuff that goes with it!!!!!



In the end though it is all your choice. I see everyone say make the choice that is best for you and your baby!! I say make the choice that is best for your baby. either way!!!

regards Kylie

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I chose to bottle feed. I felt uncomfortable with breast feeding with both my children. I dont know if it's becuase I'm a younger mom, or becuase my mom never breastfed me. But I just said no to it right away.

Yvonne - posted on 08/08/2009

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Do what makes you happy...I am a nurse so when I had my twin girls...I felt so guilty about not breastfeeding. So I tried and it was very tough but we eventually got the hang of it to some degree. But in order to keep the girls from losing weight, I had to supplement with formula. Breastfeeding and pumping became this huge hassle that I didn't really enjoy most of the time. The idea of continuing that laborious process at work was NOT an option. But because I felt so guilty, knowing it was "the best thing" I pumped until 8 weeks when i had to return to work. The girls eventually got much better at latching on after a few weeks, so at times I didn't mind. But pumping every 3-4 hours and waking up at 5am with huge leaky boobs was too much for me:) I hated that! LOL..in retrospect and in the future, I would definetly try breastfeeding again, maybe it would work out the second time. But if it doesn't, I won't hesitate to stop and formula feed. Formula allowed the entire family to bond with the babies and gave me much needed freedom. But formula is expensive, at almost $25 a container that lasts a day or two (until one year), you owe it to your pocket book to at least give breastfeeding a try. But best wishes and do what makes you happy and stand strong!

Yvonne - posted on 08/08/2009

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Hello Hillary, I started solely breastfeeding for 2 months but had to stop because I was in so much pain on my left side that every time my son would latch on I would be in tears due to the pain. I didn't want to stop but had no choice. I even went to a Lactation specialists and there was no improvement! I was pumping and breastfeeding and interjecting the bottle at times I couldn't produce or due to too much pain! When I solely switched to bottle feeding, my son took well to it as I was relieved of the pain and depressed that I didn't feel the closeness anymore with breastfeeding! So after 2 months I was bottle feeding! Hey Hillary, do what is comfortable to you. don't worry about what everyone else says. Every woman is different!

Annick - posted on 08/08/2009

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Hello Hillary i did both, i wanted to know hoe it felt to breast feed but i also wanted a life and a bottle does make it easier, besides that my milk was not enough my boys were piggys i gave breast and bottle, breast one month then introduced bottle.

Janelle - posted on 08/08/2009

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Hi Hillary!

I had my daughter 6 weeks early. She was in the NICU for 2 full weeks. The nurses fed her with bottles to help her develop the sucking reflex. I pumped to get as much breast milk to put in her bottles as possible. However, I never really produced that much. Toward the end of her stay at the hospital, the nurses and lactation consultant were all encouraging me to breast feed her. It didn't feel that comfortable for me either, but I did try it. My girl didn't want anything to do with it! So, I continued to bottle feed her and they kept gently pushing me toward breast feeding. I, not as gently, told them that I was comfotable with the bottle ( I was a bottle fed baby and have always been healthy, happy as a child and pretty smart!!--I think:)). After making my position known, they backed off. I was feeling guilty that I wasn't doing the right thing for my baby, who is my first. Once I believed for myself that I was doing the right thing for me and her, it has been smooth, except finding the right bottle for her (some allow too much air in her tummy and make her gassy--I ended up with Playtex drop-ins-- you can squeeze out practically all the air~! How exciting!!) If it's something that doesn't feel natural to you, it won't feel natural to your little one. The less stress the better!

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Hi there. I definately only bottle fed my first and plan to do the same with my second. Jesse, he is 1 and 4 months and is healthy and always has a good report at the clinic. The idea of breastfeeding realy (not natural) just put me off. I know, i know sounds really strange. At the hospital all the staff shunned me and wrote in my file "refuses to breastfeed". Of course being a firery personality, that page was torn up by me personally and as nice as possible turned around and said to them, hey its a personal matter, back off. Im 33 this year and would never ever argue with anyone if they chose to do either. there is no need to be nasty but i would never opt to breastfeed. I had NO milk with Jesse before, during or after, and I have 2 months left till the next one arrives and still no milk. Yes, yes i inow there is tabs to take to help produce milk....but i still wouldnt. I hope this helps. Good luck with your decision.

Bobbie - posted on 08/08/2009

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Man there are a zillion post and what it all boils down to is YOU and what YOU want to do with YOUR baby is what counts. Imagine breastfeeding a 10pd. 11 oz girl. As you can well imagine my milk was not enough to satisfy my little one. She was eating like a bandit at night and during the day so I never got a good rest. The lactation nurse never visited me in the hospital so I didn't know she was cluster feeding and mainly at night and that there were options such as supplementing with formula and expressing. Although I couldn't express b/c I was constantly feeding her. I was exhausted and couldn't figure out why.



I had friends that breastfed and they kept telling me what a horrible mother I would be if didn't try and continue. Oh they offered herbal supplements and crappy advice that only made me feel like the worst mother on earth and miserable UNTIL we went to my daughters pediatrician. She took one look at me, went to her closet and gave us a case of milk. She said that I could not continue feeding the way I was. I looked horrible and exhausted. And I would be no good to my baby if I ended up in the hospital from exhaustion and/or dehydration.



She told my hubby to feed our daughter at least 3 nights that week and that I had to sleep no matter what. I never realized that I was so exhausted, I thought that I was going through normal newbie stuff. When I told her how much I was feeding she was like that's obviously not working for you. I literally passed out the first night I didn't even hear my daughter cry. I also spoke with a breastfeeding specialist who had four kids and she said two wanted to be breastfed and two didn't and she didn't stress over it.



I say all this to say, breastfeeding isn't easy. Don't let anyone influence what you feel is right for you. I was so worried that I was going to do my child some horrible injustice by not breastfeeding that I ran myself down, so badly that her dr. had to tell me I to consider other options. I continued to do both for about 6 months before we went full bottle.



My baby girl is super healthy, smart as a whip, happy, loving, lovable and caring. And heck I was bottle feed along with 10 trillion other kids in this world and guess what we are all doing just FINE!!!



Remember YOU have to be happy so that everyone else in your house is happy b/c you are the caregiver. Imagine how horrible I would have been if I continued on the road I was on - everyone in my house would have been miserable.



Good luck to you and remember you do what you have to do for YOU! and your baby and hubby will be wonderful!

Denise - posted on 08/08/2009

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I did not breast feed any of my three daughters. When I had my children everyone was doing it. I was not interested with my first and was uncomfortable with the whole idea. All of my children were very healthy. My daughter gave birth to our first grandson a year ago on my birthday. She tried for almost two weeks to breast feed. It was not working out and he just looked sickly even though he was being monitored by his doctor. She decided to use formula and boy did he thrive. He has had only one cold in his first year and no other illness'. I hope you will not be bombarded when you are in the hospital. Is there some way you can let the staff know ahead of time that you are firm in your decision and do not wish to be bothered by anyone? You should not be made to just try it either. The nurses should lookout for you and keep people away. Keep firm in your choice and enjoy every part of the experience without this cloud. Hope this helps

Denise - posted on 08/08/2009

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I did not breast feed any of my three daughters. When I had my children everyone was doing it. I was not interested with my first and was uncomfortable with the whole idea. All of my children were very healthy. My daughter gave birth to our first grandson a year ago on my birthday. She tried for almost two weeks to breast feed. It was not working out and he just looked sickly even though he was being monitored by his doctor. She decided to use formula and boy did he thrive. He has had only one cold in his first year and no other illness'. I hope you will not be bombarded when you are in the hospital. Is there some way you can let the staff know ahead of time that you are firm in your decision and do not wish to be bothered by anyone? You should not be made to just try it either. The nurses should lookout for you and keep people away. Keep firm in your choice and enjoy every part of the experience without this cloud. Hope this helps

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Hillary, I am the mother of 7...gave birth to 5 the other 2 are my step sons. For my first 3 it seemed as though the trend 20 years ago...everyone breastfed their babies...so I did because it really was/is the best thing for the baby. The nutrients in the breast milk, the mother-child bonding, the things that it does to your body as a mother to get your body back into its pre-pregnancy state...it really is best for all to breast feed. Well the only reason that I didn't breastfeed for the last 2 was that my husband really wanted to participate in the feeding process...and I know that i could have pumped my breasts and put it into bottles as i did before but then in the hospital when my husband was encouraging me to bottle feed and my nipples were killing me because that is what happens when you start the process i just said forget it and bottle fed the babies. Breast feed if you can tolerate the initial pain...nipple cracking and bleeding...because in the end it really is what is best!!!!!

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Hillary...don't let anyone try to talk you into something that you don't want to do. I ,like you, had really no desire to breastfeed. I knew when I was pregnant that I wasn't interested in even trying. Both my children were bottle fed right from the start and they both are doing well. Both my children are perfectly healthy and have no problems. It should be your decision with no pressure from anyone else.

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