Rachel - posted on 04/18/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
My biological father and I have been estranged on and off, since my patents divorce. My mom remarried to a wonderful man, and I married a wonderful man, whose father is also a great influence for my kids. The estrangement with my father was his doing in the beginning. He would cycle between needing me, to disowning me (he's very depressed). Finally seven years ago, I tried to cut all ties. I feel it was a kindness, as his relationship with me could only be classified as an obsession. Periodically, he'll try to make contact again. I dont wish to see him, but I feel guilty. He wants to come see me when he is in town next month. He has gifts for the kids. I don't want or need him in my life. Which is less cruel-letting him come, and leading him on? Or maintaining my estrangement to curb his obsession with me? Obsession sounds like a callous word, but he truly is too mentally ill to call his affections love. They have more in common witj the rantings of a stalker. What do I do?