How much should I pay ?

Romina - posted on 03/30/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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So I'm starting a new job soon and my husband works full time as well. We need a babysitter and turns out his mom is leaving her job to baby sit both of her grand-daughters. soo I was wondering how much I should pay her for taking care of my 21 months old child,for 8 hours a day 5 days a week?might even be less then 5 days. But she is my mother in law and I want to be fair, also my mom will be taking aime(my kid) once a week with no pay. My husband want to give her 150$ a week, but idk what I should do. Any help/ advice plz! What would u do?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/30/2012

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Ok, good!



Just, FYI, I'd have let my MIL watch my boys when they were younger, and been very thankful for the opportunity!



Just sit down with her and tell her you want to make sure that she feels adequately compensated. I mean, we all know our kids aren't angels...LOL...My MIL, when staying with my youngest while my oldest has medical procedures done, was pleasantly surprised to find we'd left her an emergency fund...she'd planned on dinners out with my son, and maybe some small grocery needs, and she'd brought funds to cover. But, I didn't figure she should have to drive for 2 hours and put up with my 14 YO (who, as a typical 14 YO is, can be slightly disrespectful at times...not often, and not twice to the same person, but still...) and foot the bill too!



The first time I gave her money, she gave it back when we got home...LOL...but I noticed the 2nd time, she used some for gas, and gave me the rest back...Sometimes it's more the thought than the action that counts.



Talk to her. :)

Romina - posted on 03/30/2012

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Thank you for the help.

Yeah I don't like the idea of family and stuff but it's what I got now, and I do trust shell take good care and all of my child. She only has 2 grand kids, thats including mine. And she offered herself without her son or me even asking. I wasn't even involved till last night, haha! I just want things To work out good.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/30/2012

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Well, look at it this way. Are you going to be able to find loving, quality care anywhere for less?



$150 a week for grandma to take care of the kids doesn't seem outrageous to me, especially considering that (10 years ago) I paid $250/week per kid to a licensed daycare.



And, have you considered asking her what SHE would consider fair compensation? After all, she's the one doing the work.



One other thing to consider is this: Did you ask her before assuming that she'd want to take on another grandkid, if she's already committed to the other 2? I mean, not knowing their ages, etc, and taking into consideration that our elders aren't necessarily spring chickens any more? (No disrespect intended, by the way) I'm sure you probably did, or you wouldn't be considering it now.



Oh, and while I'm thinking about it, I wouldn't recommend that you have a family member watch your child, unless you are fully comfortable with that person. I've seen instances where families are practically torn apart because grandma was watching the kids, and mom didn't like something she did, and approached her...hurt feelings, feelings of being taken advantage of, etc, those are all things to avoid.



I wish you the best in your decision.

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