How much should I tell my adopted son about RAD? He is 14

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Chris - posted on 04/25/2012

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There is not a medical reason for it, but a result of disconnection in the first two years of life. It is an emotional disorder, that has specific therapeutic treatment. It is difficult to find a good therapist who is experienced with RAD. Much of the treatment relies on keeping these kids on their toes so that they can't outfox what is being done.

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Dove - posted on 04/25/2012

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In that case, take out the 'medical reason' part of my response. ;) I still think he needs to know about it though.

Dove - posted on 04/25/2012

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I don't know what RAD is, but if it is a medical reason for the way he is... I would tell him about it

Alison - posted on 04/25/2012

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what does the therapist think? I agree that it may be helpful for him to know about the diagnosis. It can be a huge relief to have a label that can explain why you are how you are. And a starting point to change the things that can be changed.

Medic - posted on 04/25/2012

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I think that children have a right to know what is going on with them medically. I would tell him all about it and the different reasons, and how to help. He cannot possibly want to continue to do the things he is doing.

Medic - posted on 04/25/2012

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I think that children have a right to know what is going on with them medically. I would tell him all about it and the different reasons, and how to help. He cannot possibly want to continue to do the things he is doing.

Chris - posted on 04/25/2012

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He knows he is adopted, he has RAD, he has contact with biological mom several times a year, is in counseling with someone with 25 years experience. His RAD issues have only become a big problem in the last year, when he began "finding" money, and threatening suicide. He has always been manipulative, and the lying is continual. We don't trust anything he says. He is very cute, and VERY charming. He has finally started working with the therapist, but feels that no one is helping him. He wants to know why we keep talking about RAD, and how it relates to him. Will giving him information about it give him too much control about what we are trying to do with him? We just started reading Nancy Thomas's books /DVD's/audio books, and have read several others as well.

What other information would be helpful?

Medic - posted on 04/25/2012

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What exactly do you mean? Does he have RAD? Does he know he is adopted? We need a little more info than that to be able to give you any advice

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