Susan - posted on 12/31/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
Typically how often do single 25 year old men call, text or email their 59 year old mothers?
My boyfriend of 3 years is trying to get me to understand that men don't call their mothers other than mom's day, Christmas and her birthday. But he says women typically call their mom's daily or at least weekly. My boyfriend is 65, has a 34 year daughter in town, a 32 year daughter to NYC and a 30 son in LA; and he is 2nd of 4 girls and 2 other me. He only emails his son every 3 months or so; and his son calls every 4 months or so. They have a very good relationship. His 34 daughter in town - they call and or visit every 1 to 6 months depending on whats going on. This daughter says her friends call mom's daily but she only calls her mom weekly. The 32 daughter and he had a rough time 3 years and did not communicate at all by her choice. Now they email and she calls every 3 months or so.
I divorced 20 years ago after 20 yrs married. Should have divorced after 5. He was not very active with our son; and at age 10 Matt decided he would move out to a friends if he father did not move out - dad moved out.. There was no physical abuse to me or Matt.
Matt lived with me age 20-25. My boyfriend got me to admit that I wanted Matt living with me because I was lonely.
Boyfriend tells me I emulated my mom's extreme over mothering and unknowingly did the same to Matt. Says only way Matt has any control ... is by not calling, txt or emails .....and 75% of the time not return her communications. Even whether he will or will not come to her apt tonight for NY's Eve dinner .... which he stated emphatically when here on Christmas eve - he would most definately want to be with her on NY's. No many how many times my boyfriend tells me ... Guys Do NOT call their mom's .... while Girls do .... I just can't seem to accept this ? ! HELP !
Frustrated, sad and dissappointed .... tears tears