How old do you all think is the right age for a 13 year old to start shaving? xxx

Jessica - posted on 04/26/2011 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I have a 13 year old daughter and she has recently started saying that she wants to shave because she thinks her legs are too hairy i don't know what is a good age so please HELP !! xxx

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Krista - posted on 04/26/2011

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I think 13 is a pretty standard age to start shaving. If she's self-conscious about the hair on her legs, then what is the point of forbidding her from removing it? It'll only make her miserable and even more self-conscious. Just teach her how to do it properly and how to take good care of her razors so that she doesn't cut herself or get an infection.

Heidi - posted on 04/26/2011

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I let my girls start to shave when the hair on their legs bothered them. It is a self esteem issue so I believe there is no "age" to start.

Cheyenne - posted on 04/26/2011

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i started shaving when i was 12. i have dark hair so i needed to shave them. my sister didnt really shave hers alot at that age because she had blonde hair so it didnt show. but if she wants to because she is embarrased them just show her how to use the razor properly or you can try nair

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Jenni - posted on 04/27/2011

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I started shaving my legs when I was 11 years old. My mom didn't want me to but I did it anyways. I was embarrassed because the other girls in my class shaved. I didn't want to be the hairy one out. ;)

User - posted on 04/27/2011

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I remember getting called "Man legs" in 6th grade (I was 11 almost 12). However my mom refused to let me shave because she had a set age like 13 or some thing so I wasn't allowed to. I was so embarrassed...I would do every thing that I could to hide my "man" legs. Finally one day at church my mom over heard a group of girls talking about how gross it was that you could see the hair on my legs through my tights. She immediately changed her mind and showed me how to use a razer.
I guess the point of my story is...if she feels it is time...let her:)

Maryann - posted on 04/27/2011

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Now is fine. I wasn't allowed....I was being made fun of at school. So I just did it. Used Dads razor! Cut myself up. I think it is much better to teach her. An electric razor might be even better to start with. Tell her it is not as fun as she thinks! She will have to keep it up!

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Now is fine. So long as she knows and understands it is something she'll have to keep up w/ for the rest of her life.

I was 11.5 when I started shaving cuz my 12 year old cousin convinced me I had to.... Yeah, I never talked to my mom about ANYTHING like this, so I 'dry shaved' my first time.... Definitely be open and honest w/ her and let her start if she feels ready.

Blackwood - posted on 04/26/2011

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When I was young, I had blonde hair and my mom didn't want me to start shaving, well after bugging and bugging, I did it at a friends house. I thought it was unfair that I couldn't when my freinds were and felt self consious about it. I couldn't understand why she wouldn't let me. I think once a girl starts feeling self consious about it, it's time to let them becuz that's an age when you start to worry about that kinda stuff. Funny thing, now I have alopecia and barely have any hair anywhere. I haven't really "shaved" my legs in years.

Christie - posted on 04/26/2011

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We just wen through this and I let my daughter start. She feels less insecure and happier when swimming (she does swim team) and only shaves when wearing shorts and swimsuits now that the novelty has worn off. Besides, with underarm hair growing, too, it must be uncomfortable and embarrasing to her ~ This is one of those where we moms need to be understanding and not panic about "what" it might lead to ~ we have authority for all choices at this point, this is one I wouldn't fight over :)

Mary - posted on 04/26/2011

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Yes, mom it's time to let her shave her legs and pits, so buy her a good razor. Dont' make your girl be a dork. Get with the program.

Louise - posted on 04/26/2011

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My daughter started shaving her legs at the age of 11. I was concerned that she was too young, but she was so distressed about her "hairy legs" that I allowed it. I have never looked back.( I only allow an electric shaver as I won't let her use a razor)

Jodi - posted on 04/26/2011

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At 13, if she wants to shave, I'd say let her shave. She's old enough, and the chances are she has hair under her arms and wants to get rid of those. If she's old enough for that, she's old enough to do her legs too. Just make sure she realises that once she starts shaving, she has to keep doing it regularly forever!!!

OhJessie - posted on 04/26/2011

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Oh, I know; of course it's up to the mom and the daughter to decide. It would just be nice if we could get over this whole need to be hairless to be acceptable people. So while I'd allow it if it's on the girl's mind, I just wouldn't insist on it and I'd always tell her she's beautiful with or without hair on her body, with or without some "extra" pounds, whatever she has that's different (especially since we're all different and we can't all fit one mold.) But I was no stranger to child cruelty and bullying and it wasn't even things I could do anything about.

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OhJessie I guess I assumed this was an American asking the question, one that does believe in shaving or the girl would not have been asking about it. I would not want the girl to be teased about it, kids are merciless to anyone or anything different.

OhJessie - posted on 04/26/2011

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I don't know as it's a great idea to insist on it - it's not something everyone in the world does; it's a Western hangup to be hairless. Many of us don't shave anything anymore and are comfortable in our skins, hair or not. I don't have a lot of dark hair, though.

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if she has hair in her armpits let her shave! It's a good sign that it's time, in fact insist upon it. They never believe when you tell them they'll be doing this for SO many years why the hurry. :) Talking is key.

OhJessie - posted on 04/26/2011

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Heh, my mother was hung up about it and didn't want me to start...until I took it on myself to just do it. She saw my first razor-cut and finally just gave in. It's not that big of a deal. Of course it's a lot harder when it comes time to buy them birth control, so if mere shaving is a problem, that's going to be a much bigger one.

Bonnie - posted on 04/26/2011

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I don't remember how old I was, but I know I was young. When it looks like there is a noticeable amount of hair than it should be done. She definitely shouldn't be left uncomfortable about it either.

Jenn - posted on 04/26/2011

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I don't understand why there would be an age to do this. When my daughters feel like they need to do it, they will.

OhJessie - posted on 04/26/2011

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Then again, this obsession with hairlessness in our country is pretty weird. I wish I were Mediterranean or what-have-you sometimes.

OhJessie - posted on 04/26/2011

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I never saw the problem with leg-shaving if she's got hairy legs and wants to. I'd advise my own daughter against pube-shaving, though - but then I just don't like it, period.

For a boy, whenever he's got the chin-pubes, he can start shaving ;) (I don't like those either.)

Constance - posted on 04/26/2011

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My mom let me start shaving after I started my monthly cycle. I was 12 at the time.

Medic - posted on 04/26/2011

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I started shaving my legs and what not at about 11, my now 12 year old neice started last year. Shoot by 13 I already looked 18 and hairy legs were just not going to work.

Talea - posted on 04/26/2011

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My mom was refusing to let me at a time when I was being called gorilla legs at school because of my leg hair, so at 12 I did it on my own when she wouldn't budge and I couldn't take the teasing anymore. (they weren't even really that hairy just dark) I cut myself up pretty bad that first time and then my mom showed me how. Prob a better idea to show her now and let her do it then to have to use half a box of band-aids and then get teased for that! lol

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