How old is too old?

S. - posted on 03/12/2012 ( 66 moms have responded )

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I was Just wondered as i was at my daughter's nursery and a mum turned up to pick her daughter up aged 3.5-4 years with a pram, If I turned up with a pram to pick up Sienna she would laugh and tell me she was a big girl as she's been out of a pram since she was 2. Just wondered what people think is too old to be in a pram, have a bottle, a dummy and be in Nappies? I got rid of that kind of stuff around the two years Mark.

I AM NOT JUDGING this mother !!!!!!!!!

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Sarah - posted on 03/13/2012

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Just trying to understand why it matters. It obviously works for this Mom. Decisions like this aren't for other people to pass judgement on.

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Sarah : “Decisions like this aren’t for other people to pass judgment on”..Really? I thought she was asking for comparison input.



Stacey “I’m not judging, I just wonder what other people thought were good ages”...See, that’s how I read it.



Niki and Dottie, same thing. Why do you assume that Stacey is being judgmental???



Wow, I just cannot believe the remarks from people about not judging...You’re all judging HER! Good grief! Just give your opinions. Respond to the question, not your “interpretation”. It’s not being nosy to ask for opinions. Being nosy is walking up to the other person and saying “wow, you’re certainly taking it easy, pushing a kid that age”



Yes, Melissa, your comment was rude. Perhaps you didn’t mean it to be that way, but that’s what typing gets us. Her daughter is NOT a brat, she made a comment about being a big girl. How was that bratty? How is that “controlling” her mother?



Laura, I’m glad to see that you admit that you judge other mothers. In most other threads you are adamant that you would NEVER judge another parent. Thank you for being honest with us



Most people, not just women or moms, will look at something another is doing and wonder "should I do it that way?" Or, "boy, I didn't do that, wonder if its working well for them"



Its called a comparison. Its not judging, it's comparing. She compared herself, and said "well, I got rid of that stuff around 2", NOT saying that she was "better" than the other mother, but that she had gotten rid of that stuff at a certain time.



My kids were both different. My older one wanted to walk everywhere, and hated the stroller/pram. My younger son wanted to be pulled in his wagon. I did that until he was 5, because, well, I didn’t mind doing it, it kept the kids close to me without me having to hang on to 2 little hands and try to juggle whatever else we had.

Traci - posted on 03/16/2012

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My gosh, I feel like I'm in junior high school again, waiting at the lockers for the snotty girls to pass by while trying to look better than they really were!! Can we just stick to being grown up and offer the woman a bit of help that I'm sure she'd love to receive? Who knew you'd need to wear combat gear just to ask advice from a group of fellow moms!



Stacey, in order to expand a bit on my memories for you, I think I adjusted the situation depending on how far the walk/commute was once I had the baby with me. If I knew she'd be tired we'd have the pram. If it was just a quick pick up from nursery school to the car to home, it would be a walk with her in my arms... etc... I'm sure you get the picture. Keep in mind that there are also people who are lazy as well as people who are health nuts and they choose to keep the baby in/out of the pram based on their moods at the time. I say choose whatever feels the best for the BABY. If you think the baby's in the midst of a growth stretch and she needs to walk a bit or toddle a bit to get better at it before she runs, then toddle away! Or if the baby is having a rough day, pram it is. You get the point. From reading your post it sounds to me like your Sienna may be a bit precocious and just might feel "too old" for a pram. That's fantastic as far as I'm concerned, (but then again, I'd keep it handy somewhere that would be a bit out of sight, just in case she's having a rough day and you're desperate to lay her down for a nap and can't manage to do that in your arms! Hey, you're only "so" strong, eventually the arms give out!)



Keep your chin up, kiddo, you sound like you're a fantastic mum well on your way to being the one that other mums ask advice from.

Stifler's - posted on 03/16/2012

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My son is still in nappies at 2. He refuses to toilet train. The dummy and bottle went a long time ago and now that he's tall enough to hold hands he walks into some places. If we go for a long walk he goes in the double stroller.

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I think it depends on the kid, how much walking you are gonna do, and what exactly you mean by pram.



See, when I hear pram I'm thinking more of the thing that looks like a baby bassinet on wheels. Which I would think would be out as soon as the baby was old enough to sit up.



But a stroller, especially what they call an umbrella stroller, I can see that being used even after the kid starts school if it's going to be a very long walk

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Amy - posted on 03/22/2012

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1. Pram. My DD is 2 1/2 and I rarely use it, except for places where she will get tired or needs personal space. Examples include: the airport (though we also use a harness system), going for a long walk outside when it's cold (she can bundle in her blanket), and super long walks



2. Dummy. My DD never had one, but I wish I could get her not to suck her thumb so much



3. Bottle. My DD gave it up herself at 10 1/2 mo.



4. Nappies. We are currently working on the PT (potty training). I do still use nappies when we are out and about. Our drive to the nearest town of any size is 30 minutes, so I am not sure when I will be giving those up.

Sarah - posted on 03/19/2012

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It's okay Lizz, I figured you didn't get a chance to read the original posting. It's hard to maybe see where people are coming from once things are edited. That's the problem with the Internet because you miss out on so many aspects of communication and I think it leads to a lot of misunderstandings. In this case, I misunderstood the OPs intent and thought she was being judgmental. As such I felt the need to point it out because something that really offends me as a mother is the comparison some people make about their children and it can leave others really offended. My intention was not to offend or start a debate on what a horrible person she is. I feel bad that my one little sentence could have cause such turmoil on here. I was happy that she edited her comment, and I realize her original intent was not to hurt anyone.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 03/19/2012

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Emma, my friend's daughter isn't fully toilet trained and she's almost 4. So don't worry it just takes time.

Claudia - posted on 03/19/2012

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My first son was out of the pram at 3 1/2, but the younger one at 2. Walking is good for them! Nappies it's really a physiological thing, you cannot force a child to learn to use the potty when they are not ready.

dummy and bottle I think the sooner you get rid of them the better.

At least that's my humble opinion

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Emma, don't worry about your son not being toilet trained. My son was not interested in toilet training. We showed him what the potty was and what it was for, but did not push him. We bought big boy pants and tried to encourage him to wear them. He refused. Every now and then I would offer him the big boy pants. Just after his third birthday, he wanted them and did not look back. With my daughter, I feel like we pushed her too early. She is an August baby and started nursery a few weeks after her third birthday. I wanted her to be toilet trained. She took to it and wore the underpants and was dry from the beginning, but 8 months later, she still refuses to poo on the toilet or potty. Sometimes, I think we push them to grow up too quickly because we think all children should be the same. They are not. They should be encouraged, but you as the mother know your child best. When he is ready, toilet training will be a breeze. If it is hard, he's not ready yet.

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It's hard to tell without knowing the full story. My daughter (who is 3 years 8 months) was weaned off the pushchair about 4 months ago. School broke up for Christmas and we didn't use it in January. In a way it is easier, but she still gets tired and needs to be carried, which then wears me out. It's 3/4 a mile to school so she does have a long walk (up a steep hill to school as well!). She has to do this twice a day because she is in nursery. I drop off both my children in the moring, pick her up at lunch and then she has to walk up and back for her brother in the afternoon. She usually can walk it okay, but not every day. Having to carry her has put a strain on my back and brought on sciatica. Fortunately it seems to have gotten better but I do worry about picking her up now. One day while the sciatica was bad, I put my daughter in the pushchair because I knew she was tired and I could not carry her. So, it is good to wean them off the pushchair, but a child that wants to be carried a lot can be a burden for the mother, especially if they have a long walk. Hope this helps.

S. - posted on 03/19/2012

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@Lizz I did add the "I'm not judging this mother" bit and I removed a exclamation Mark which lead people to read it as I was judging (my poor grammar) but it was meant just as a question and I was just curious, I'd like to thank everyone for there kind words thou, but seem's the "conversation" is on the right track now thank you everyone for your comments

Loretta - posted on 03/19/2012

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My 3 year old rides in a stroller whenever a)I want exercise and need to walk faster than she would, b)we need to walk farther than she has the energy to since she is too big for me to carry c)I need to keep her contained and don't wish to keep chasing her down every minute and a half--such as at the mall. As for the other questions, each of my 3 children have been different, but neither of the first 2 (who are adults now) did any of the things in question into adulthood--or even their grade school years, so none of it is worth worrying about.

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2012

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Lizz, as I have stated in a previous comment, the OP has EDITED her original posting. Please don't go slamming those who felt she was judgmental based on her original choice of words and punctuation. I can understand why you would think people are being cruel based on her wording now, but since you obviously didn't have an opportunity to read the original post, it's also not a fair comment to make. Cheers!

Merry - posted on 03/18/2012

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We went on a walk today, and my almost three year old rode in the stroller. It was 'nap' time and I'm trying to get him off naps so he sleeps more at. Igot so he was tired, and I'm sure it looked funny as my mil pushed him and I pushed my bab, but it worked and it wasn't time to get him to exercise on the rode side, he had just ran around outside all day and this was a relax trip.

So really, I see no big reason not to let a 2-4 yr old ride sometimes. You never know the situation.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 03/18/2012

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Lizz, my 1 year old won't take one either, never wanted it! My 7 year old though loved it and I needed to break her of the habit. She was also done with a stroller at 4 years.



Nadine, exactly! Given that every child developes differently and reaches their milestones at certain times it's unreasonable to place an age limit on everything.

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Nothing SHOULD be done at a certain time. Also I don't see the difference between a wagon or a stroller.

Lizz - posted on 03/18/2012

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I think it is kind of childish for some of you moms to be posting on here talking crap to this lady who is obviously just trying to get peoples opinions on a situation she was curious about. I mean for gods sake she specifically said "I AM NOT JUDGING this mother". Do yall know how to read? As far as your questions go @Stacey James- My daughter quit her bottle cold turkey when she was about 10 months old. One day she was just done with it for some reason, so as other people have said it totally depends on the child because I have some friends whos kids are much older than mind (she is 18 months) and they are still on the bottle for bedtime. The stroller, I would be LOST without it so we def still have that. She also never used a pacifier (dummy). Even as a newborn in the hospital she wouldnt take it. She is still in diapers though, just recently has started to be interested in the potty so we will see how that goes here soon. And I appologize to you having to take these rude and unnecessary comments.

Tracy - posted on 03/18/2012

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My oldest didn't give up a binky til she was 3 almost four. That being said, she quit the bottle and went to sippy cups at 9 months and quit diapers at 2. If she isn't a special needs kid, I see no reason to be in a stroller at 3-4yrs of age.But that might be because my kids weren't having it even if I had wanted them to. Not judging anyone, just my personal opinion.

Corinne - posted on 03/18/2012

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Riding in a stroller should be no big deal. If she was in a diaper and drinking a bottle or had a pacifier in her mouth while in the stroller, than that would be a bit weird. Hey! Some moother's still nurse at this age and co-sleep. To each his own. I am assuming this child does not have special needs.

Tonjula - posted on 03/18/2012

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I have 3 girls (12, 9 and 6). All of them were out of diapers, by 2yrs old. The bottles and pacifiers were done by 1 yrs old. As for the stroller, my youngest didn't come out til she was almost 3 but she is the "runt" of the group...lol.

Anna - posted on 03/18/2012

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we still use the stroller regularly. i will have my daughter walk if we are just going to the park or play school or the nearby shopping centre, but otherwise i always take the buggy with me. we dont have a car, so walk everywhere. if im in a hurry her pace is just not an option! lol

it has gotten to the point that i feel a bit stupid though. while she is 2.5yrs she is really tall for her age and looks a lot older. i often think it looks a bit rediculous having her in the stroller (with her feet nearly hanging on the ground), but i have no choice sometimes...she just gets too tired and needs a break.

we are working on the bottle, she does have one at night and one in the morning, but stopped daytime bottles stright to cups at around 15mnths.

she never wanted a dummy thankfully.

she still wears nappies to bed and if we leave the house for the day. but not for short outings and at home she knows where her potty is and will quite happily go do her business or if she feels like going on the toilet she will call me to help her jump up on the seat. she wont do poop yet, but does go get a nappy and say "mama kaka" and will then disappear into her room for a while with a nappy on. im in no rush. atleast we are not having accidents! lol

Merry - posted on 03/17/2012

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Shawn I said I don't judge moms for formula feeding, I never meant I don't judge :)

Everyone does. It's unavoidable.

But there's also a big difference between judging someone in your head vs yelling at them to their face.

The former I do often. The latter rarely to never and only if I'm close to the person and the situation directly affects me or my child.

Laura - posted on 03/16/2012

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Hi Stacey! I totally understand what you're trying to say! You were only asking what other moms thought was a good age to get rid of those things... I'm having trouble understanding why this has turned into an attack?? It was just a simple question. I love this site. It helps me not to feel so alone and I enjoy all of the interesting topics that everyone brings up. I guess everyone will just have to agree to disagree on this topic but please don't stop posting! :)

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2012

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Telling anyone to "shut up" is rude and very disrespectful. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and an opportunity to be heard equally. If you don't want to read comment on judging, stop reading them. After the OP clarified her comment, I agreed her intention was not to judge anyone. My response was in relation to a comment to me directly, to which I had every right to respond.

Stifler's - posted on 03/16/2012

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NO it isn't rude. I'm very sick of people going on about how everyone is judging everyone else. It's very annoying.

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2012

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Emma, that is very rude. I was clarifying something for Shawn and Tracy since they missed the original post. I have not been rude or disrespectful at all. All I ask is for the same courtesy.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 03/16/2012

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Did you try those floating targets? I don't know how to train boys I have girls and my oldest has been fully trained for almost 4 years. My husband says get dad to help. I don't know if that will work.

Stifler's - posted on 03/16/2012

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He just has no interest in the potty or toilet even though we try to make it fun

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 03/16/2012

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Emma, that's the same issue my neighbour has with her son. Toilet training/ end of diapers is a hard one to judge since every child is different. My older daughter wasn't fully potty trained until she was 4 other children take longer.

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2012

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For the record, the OP has edited her original comment from when she originally posted. Having read her response clarified her intent. As a result, my original comment (based on her original posting) is not relevant to this conversation anymore, (though my point is still valid). I believe Stacey and I are happy and have come to see each others point of view. Please don't chastise me for commenting on her original post if you did not get the chance to read it because to me it came across as judgmental. I realize now that wasn't her intent and have since posted an apology to her for misunderstanding her.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 03/16/2012

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Sometimes you might see a kid who looks a certain age in a stroller, but they're younger. That's usually how it is for me since my baby is one and there are 6 month old babies bigger than her. As tiny as she is, I could probably breast feed her until she was 3 and everyone would think she was 2. So I'm careful about judging age by size.



I still had my older daughter in a stroller at 3 when we went places like the State Fair and large malls and festivals because she would get too tired from walking. I was a single mom until last year so I didn't have a daddy to help me carry her. So it was either stroller or go home. 3 was also when she stopped using her pacifier. It was kind of by accident because I had gone to a friend's house and that friend lived on the other side of the state. I forgot my daughter's plugs (that's what I call them) I went and bought some, but my friend and I were so busy talking to another friend on the phone that I forgot them! She went without for the entire weekend so when we got home I told my daughter we were mailing her plugs to Santa since she didn't need them anymore. I feel IMHO that 3 is the right age to get rid of a plug.



Bottle vs sippy cup- well I feel that 2 is too old for a bottle, but it sometimes depends on the child. My 1 year old won't hold either! I believe it may be because she's breastfed though because my 7 year old held her bottle at 5 months.



Nappies/diapers. This is hard because every child ages differently. My neighbour's son is 3 today and still in diapers maybe training pants. It can be difficult to set an actual age for when diapers are no longer acceptable. I just know that in most states and provinces your child has to be toilet trained before they go to Pre-K. So maybe 4.



Really as long as your child is developing properly it's not harmful to allow them to have a delay in certain milestones. Or to ride around in a stroller out of necessity from time to time.

Traci - posted on 03/16/2012

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I very thoroughly agree with Bonnie on her response. I think Stacey was simply curious and trying to figure out her own parenting skills and what other's opinions are. I also feel very sad for Stacey for the beating she got just for asking a simple question. Aren't we all moms with different experience(s)? Shouldn't we be able to offer our own experience without our own guilt or issues clouding our response, blaming the initial poster instead?



Stacey, I hope you got your answer, or some answers that helped you and I'm sorry there are some people here that are completely insecure with themselves and feel the need to take it out on you. Feel free to post to me if I can help with anything else, as I'm happy to answer you simply as another mom.

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2012

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Thanks again for clarifying Stacy. I know we all face judgment from time to time. It's just one of those things that really upsets me. I wish as a community of mothers we could all learn that we would all be so much more confident about ourselves and competent as mothers if we supported each other. I understand your question better now and the intent behind it. I'm sorry if I caused a lot of backlash against you in return because that wasn't my intent either, I was just trying to point out the way we say things sometimes don't express our intent. Have a good afternoon!

Bonnie - posted on 03/16/2012

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To me Stacey seems curious to know what others do. It's just a question. I sometimes wonder why I see 3 year olds walking around with pacifiers and bottles. It doesn't mean I am judging. Just trying to figure out why and where they are coming from.



Stroller--both my boys were out of the stroller by 20-24 months. There was no way I could put them in one even if I tried.



Bottle--both my boys were off the bottle before 12 months.



dummy/pacifier--my first kicked out the pacifier at around 3 months and never wanted it again. My second child, used one until around 8 months.



Diapers/nappies--my first was daytime potty trained at 3.5 and my second was potty trained at 2 years and 10 months. They are still in diapers at night though.

S. - posted on 03/16/2012

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@Sarah I realised that i had offended you yesterday when I read your parents in competition question, I then have tried to explain that I never meant to offend anyone and I was not judging anyone, it was a question not a attack on anyone that's all. I did get rid of that kind of stuff around the two Mark if you think I was implying I'm better then anyone else well I wasn't and I feel I really can't explain myself anymore then I already have.



Amongst other stories i could tell you, My daughter aged 1 at the time had got hit on the hand by a firework and was all bandaged up, people would ask what ha happened i'd say she got hit by a firework there faces said it all (you must be a bad mum to let your child be hit by a firework) well my daughter was asleep on the sofa in side the house when the firework fell over missed all 15 people who was in the garden shot in the house and hit my poor baby! So I know how wrong judging people can be especially with out the facts, some people I would explain to and some I just couldn't careless what they thought I was i knew the facts i was just Thankful she was ok and it wasn't worse then it was.

Sherri - posted on 03/15/2012

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We still used a stroller at 4yrs old. They were all off the bottle between 10mo's-11mo's, all pacifiers were gone by 4mo's and they were all out of diapers before they were 3.



Though when we go to the grocery store my 5yr old still sits in the shopping cart.

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Thanks for clarifying Stacey. I made my original comment for three reasons. #1 - that exclamation point implied you were appalled or shocked by this. #2 - You hadn't stated you weren't judging, thanks for adding that later. AND #3 - Your statement that "I got rid of that kind of stuff around the two years Mark." Perhaps it wasn't your intention, but it implies that you must be a better Mom because you got rid of them earlier. I have seen so much competition between parents and it bothers me a lot. We don't know people's journeys and why they make the decisions they do. For example, at 19 months my daughter still uses a pacifier. Does this make me a lazy or poor parent? She also didn't begin to walk until a month ago. Does this mean I coddled her too much? Many might think so. BUT, if I went on to explain that she had a lot of medical problem resulting in growth delays and failure to thrive, and surgery a week before she turned one, would you still feel the same? Her pacifier is a coping mechanism for her, and while she's concentrating on getting passed her medical issues and catching up on her physical milestones I'm not willing to get rid of it (her pediatrician, speech therapist, and physiotherapist also agreed I shouldn't yet). The reason why questions like this drive me nuts are because to look at my daughter, one would never know the medical struggles she went through, but they might pass judgement on the fact she likes her pacifier or because I still put her in a stroller. I believe there needs to be more understanding that all children develop at different rates, simply looking at them for a moment doesn't provide anyone with enough insight into what is best for them - that's something their parents would know.

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I think it really depends on the child. I never really used a stroller with my son. He was always a good walker. As for a pacifier . My son stopped using his at six months and only at nap time . I think it's ridiculous when kids are walking and talking but still have those things stuck in there mouth. Potty training is different. It really depends on when they are ready . My son is three and he is completely trained . He was quite easy to train

Merry - posted on 03/15/2012

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Don't leave! There's a lot of crazies everywhere you go but really there's some wonderful and kind moms here. Once you start recognizing moms and remembering them and knowing their kids etc it is very fun and a good resource as a mom!

Check out groups labeled for support, those are nice

S. - posted on 03/15/2012

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Thank you Laura I understand how I have put a exclamation Mark at the end of that, that it could have been taken as you have said OMG but surely if that's what I meant I wouldnt have tried so hard to explain that's what I didn't mean. (I shall edit the ! Now )

I actually don't think I will be posting on here again, I'v had com for years now and only ever tried to be positive and helpful to people if I haven't had anything nice to say to someone I don't say it and I certainly don't attack people cos I don't agree with there question. I actually only wanted to start a conversation for a bit of fun as I never post anything on here. Thanks again Laura

Merry - posted on 03/15/2012

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Yes that was quite rude Melissa.

Stacey I think these of exclamation marks is what made me feel like you were judging, sort of like OMG what the heck!

I think you ment well Stacey, but you could have worded it better. As you post here more you pick up on how to word things to cover your butt so people don't get mad at you or misread how you ment to say something.

Yes, we all do little judging other moms for stuff like this, but then we dont say it to their faces out of respect, and go talk to our friends about it which is what I think you were trying to do!

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So you don't see things when your out and about that make you think of your own situation? I just wondered how old peoples children was when things like the pram got stopped. I do think your comment was rude And off hand, I realise people may have taken it wrong and i explained my self. I didn't slag the mum off I related to her in my conversation! I bet if I actually told the mum of my exact post she wouldn't be offended cos I was not being offensive.

I know when I am being judging or not, We are human we all judge for time to time and I can honestly say I was not judging this mother!!

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Guys, it was a reasonable question. Sure there was an element of applying judgement in it, but who among us can _honestly_ say that we've never judged other people in our lives? There was no malice in Stacey's post, so it should have been clear that she saw something that she found odd herself and posted about it in order to encourage a discussion and, thereby, perhaps enlighten herself and others.



There's really no need to go attacking anybody.

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You think my comment was rude but you see nothing wrong with your post and judging another mother? Yeah you say you weren't judging her but that's total bullshit or you wouldn't have posted about it. Those that live in glass houses shouldn't throw rocks.

S. - posted on 03/15/2012

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@ mellissa excuse me! I have a big issue that my daughter would laught and tell me she's a big girl!!! I Think you read that in the wrong context, my children are very well behaved actually!!! I think it would be quite normal to a 4 year old to laugh and announce there a big girl!!! After all don't we say all the time "well done your a big girl" it's a good thing!

And for the 3rd time I was not judging the mother, i almost wish i was then I would feel I deceived comments like yours! How very rude!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Maybe you shouldn't be so damn nosey and put more energy into your own child and life than worry about this mom and her child. And if you allow your daughter to talk to you that way and basically be the boss you have bigger issues than this woman and her stroller!

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I am sorry If I have offended anyone!!!

I actually don't get were all the "i'm judging" comments are coming from? I saw another mum doing something and it made me think about my own self and wondered what peoples thoughts were on the matter! Fair enough if I was calling her lazy or something but I wasn't!!!! I just related what I'd seem in to my post, Another mum turns up with a pram as her son run's off, i have a friend who's son is 5 and has a medical condition and he on off needs is pram so I KNOW people have there own reasons But that wasnt the conversation or what i was asking! If i over heard a mum say she put her kids to bed at 8 and i put mine to bed at 7 this would get me thinking and I could post a"conversation" on bed time and what you all though!

I very rearly post conversations on here and I'm remembering why now!

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First of all, you never know one's reasons for what they do until you walk in their shoes. Perhaps, like others' said, they had a long walk home. Or perhaps the child has a hip displagia and cannot walk for even slightly long distances. Maybe the child was simply sick lately and feeling weak...or maybe the child is weak often due to anemia or even cancer!



And for the other issues, some children may have kidney disease or bladder cancer and cannot hold their bladders and therefore have accidents. The child should not have to be embarrassed for such a thing; the child should be allowed to wear a diaper, even if 10 or 12 years old!! And its a crying shame the child AND their mother now would get ridiculed for the diaper itself. Or worse even yet, maybe a child has been sexually molested which also caused poor bladder control.



Other children may have been horribly psychologically traumatized by so many various reasons that at an unusually older age, they may seriously NEED the security of a "blanky" or even a pacifier...



My point is, for EVERYONE, please don't judge other parents or make spectacles of things you find unusual. You never know the reason. Perhaps it's just laziness, or perhaps it something serious, sad, & PERSONAL. Either way, raising our own children is challenging enough; we should all just stay focused.



I guess I would have been less aggravated by this question if you were uncomfortable allowing your own child to use a "babyish" device and was wondering if you were alone rather than judging.

Merry - posted on 03/14/2012

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If the walks will be long my son will ride in a stroller. He's almost 3.

Until they can keep up with you or walk as long as you then a stroller is a useful tool!

My son never had a bottle or a pacifier.

And he will be in diapers until his bladder is able to use a toilet, so far, not yet!

Every child is different and they all meet milestones at different ages.

Rushing them does no good.

And judging moms does no good either!

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