How OLD is TOO Old to have another baby?

Rayshoun - posted on 07/20/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My finance is 36 and he wants kids. We are planning to get married within the year. I am 43 and have a 3 year old from a prior relationship. Thoughts? Feedback? I love him and I love kids. With my first pregnancy I had high blood-pressure during the last trimester and delivered via 'push' 4 weeks early. My son is very happy and very healthy... just wondering what other moms think. How old is too old?

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Keri - posted on 07/24/2015

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I am 38 and 27 weeks pregnant, and it has been a tough pregnancy. On the other hand, I have a friend that had an easy pregnancy at 48. I would talk to your Doctor like someone else suggested. Also, you need to consider what YOU want most of all. Your gut will tell you if you listen. :)

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Rayshoun - posted on 07/26/2015

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I agree. We will talk more about it before we get married. I conceived my 2 yr old pretty easily. If IVF is needed we will . Do what we need to ... Thx for sharing ur info with me

Monique - posted on 07/26/2015

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I think that's really up to you and your fiancé. There are a lot of considerations to weigh but once you've done that you just have to decide what's best for your family. I had my first child via IVF at age 43. She's 2 months and I'm about to turn 44. I did think about the consequences of having a child at this age and decided it was good for us and I don't regret it at all.

Freda - posted on 07/24/2015

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I think if you feel up to it-have another baby. I had my third when I was 45. There is a 16 year difference between my eldest and youngest. Some things are easier to handle because as an older parent you are wiser but juggling all can be a challenge at times when you are a bit older. On one hand you will be tired - on the other you might work harder to stay youthful for your child since you will be in younger circles. Sometimes just doing things younger adults are doing makes you feel younger. My daughter, the one I had at 45, is an incredible person. Wouldn't have missed this for anything. Go for it!

Jacqueline - posted on 07/24/2015

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Am 43 and I had my baby via IVF. This is my 4th child but first for my current husband. My oldest is 18. Ill say go for it though at you age it might be difficult on your own. And if you are so worried about down syndrome and the likes, have a donor egg transfer. it'll be your fiancés sperm anyway and its as good as your child.
just work with your doctor to get what's best for you. Goodluck dear

Rayshoun - posted on 07/20/2015

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Hi there. I have not considered adopting. I am going to go to the Dr. and get a check-up to see how I am doing in terms of egg production. My 2 yr old was my first conception, no miscarriages and no abortions. Prior to him which of course I was 39; I was told I was quite the fertile factory. So I will be sure to check up on that again to see how healthy I am in that regard. I agree w/you about downs, so will also check for that along with way - should we move forward after our first yr of Marriage to try for our own lil one. I don't use oral contraceptives and have not since my early 30's. But we do use condoms.

Sarah - posted on 07/20/2015

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That is something only your doctor can tell you. Most women don't conceive easily at your age so you may need intervention. Also, the risk of Down's and other birth defects is much higher. Have you considered adopting?

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