How old should my infant be to sleep on her own?

Christina - posted on 05/13/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi everyone, I am new to circle of moms and wanted to ask some questions regarding my daughter. Her name is Caitlyn and she is 11 weeks old. I am breast feeding her and quickly realized one night that if she sleeps in the bed with me and my husband, she will sleep through the night. Prior to that she was sleeping in a bassinette and would wake up in the middle for a feeding. Well, it has come to the point now where there is no room in our bed. My back is aching from not sleeping properly as I am always making sure she is not in harm’s way. I have tried to put her into the bassinette again with a pacifier but she refuses it. She likes to use me as a pacifier. Basically I will put her in bed with me until she falls asleep and then I will put her into the bassinette. She usually wakes up from that and I will let her cry anywhere from 2 - 5 minutes. After each period i will go to her and check on her and put a pacifier back in her mouth. As soon as she sees me she stops crying. This will usually last 30 minutes until she falls asleep again. Oh and when she wakes up in the middle of the night, I usually am too tired to continue and end up by having her fall asleep in the bed with me after her feeding.

My question is, is she too young to be doing the cry it out method? Has anyone who breast feeds their kids had similar issues? How does anyone else suggest going about putting her back into her bassinette?


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Mel - posted on 05/13/2011




my daughter at that age wouldnt sleep literally awake 13 hours a day, slept while feeding I could only get to her sleep in the swing. She soon grew out of it which is good. For me personally I started teaching my daughter to put herself to sleep around 4-5 months she wasnt really ready before that, of course I always put her down by herself after a feed as reccomended, but as she got older she was more aware...and fed to sleep for a while. I dont really have any suggestions just thought Id tell you how my baby was, I think every babys really different

Kelly - posted on 05/13/2011




I breast fed but never had them in bed with me. They always slept in their own bed. At abut 7weeks or so with all three they started to get some 5 hours of uninterupted sleep and were down to abut 2 nig time feedinngs. By 4-5 mos. they were sleepin thru the night. Second half of their first year they slept 12 hour nights. whoo hooo! Yours is still a little young to cry it out. I did that with one of mine and there is a structure to it if you do do it but that was after he got sick and stopped sleeping thru the nighh even after he was well. I would start wih using the bed as much as possible. The more they get used to something the harder it is to break it. Alway think long term not short term. I started gettinng my kids used to the church nursery at 3 mos or so and not waitiing until they were older like some and pitched a fit. I left the toys out of the crib so they slept in it not played in it. etc. There are so many parents who have kids not sleeping thru the night even as toddlers! Yikes! Glad you are exploring that now.

User - posted on 05/13/2011




My son always used to wake up when I transferred him into his basket. Have you tried putting a hot water bottle in, so that it feels warm when you lay her in it and the shock of being put onto a cold sheet doesn't wake them up. (Obviously take the hot water bottle out before putting baby in!)

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