Christy - posted on 08/28/2013 ( 23 moms have responded )
My daughter, Kyra, is a college student and plays an online video game where she has made friends. We are close and she shares quite a bit with me. Recently, she told me that one of the guys in this group, Chris, is moving out here to California from Wisconsin to be with her. On the plus side, he is not planning to stay with her. However, he is married. He has told her that his wife started seeing her ex about 10 months ago and the marriage was failing. His new relationship with Kyra was the catalyst that precipitated their mutual decision, last weekend, to end the marriage. Kyra, who broke up with her boyfriend of 5 years over the summer, is very happy and excited. I'm not so happy. I'm concerned that she is jumping into something too soon; I was hoping she would make friends at school. But, this is not what I am really upset about. Chris and his wife had booked a trip to Japan a month from now and Chris wants Kyra to go in her place. I told Kyra that I don't think she should go on a trip like this with someone she hasn't even met in person. She says she has known him for 8 months. This leads to my subject: How 'real' are online relationships? Now, perhaps when she meets him, 10 days from now, the situation will change. And, perhaps when I meet him in 2 weeks, I will feel differently. But, right now, I feel anxious and scared. When she told me about the trip to Japan, she thought I was going to be happy for her. She is disappointed that I have reservations and she told me that it started her thinking. But, later, she told me she talked to Chris and he reassured her. Swell. By the way, Kyra is turning 21 soon and Chris is 30.