How should I react to someone who speaks without considering other feelings?


Emily - posted on 07/18/2012




More info maybe?

We all speak without thinking sometimes. I try to always remember this. No one is perfect. Maybe the other person is just having a bad day. Regardless, simplest way is to calmly tell them how their words affected you. Such as "I felt hurt when you..." They may not even realize how their words have hurt. They'll either apologize and try to make it right, or act immature. If the latter happens, their opinion probably has no bearing on you anyway, so best to just avoid them. You don't need people in your life that will verbally shit on you.


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Dove - posted on 07/18/2012




Do you know for a fact that they are really just not thinking of other people's feelings? Some people don't relate well to others and have NO idea that other people consider their actions/words as rude, selfish, and/or inconsiderate. Trust me... THAT I can relate to.

Have you kindly informed this person that their words are hurtful? If you have... then I have no clue what to say. If you haven't... I would recommend starting there.

Jaime - posted on 07/18/2012




Well, I'm guessing anger, frustration and hurt are the internal reactions you're feeling at the moment. Outwardly however, you're probably looking at some sort of confrontation. Sometimes people say and do things without thinking about the consequences of their actions. Maybe the person didn't mean any offense by what was said, or maybe they're used to walking all over people to say and do as they please. Bottom line, if you're pissed off then you need to say so.

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