How should I treat my 12 year old twins?

Poppie - posted on 10/19/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter is always using designer handbags and wearing makeup, and whenever I try to arrange a family event, her 'schedule' is always packed. My son disappears and then doesn't come back till late and then he wont tell us where he's been. Is this ok? How do I treat them?

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Dove - posted on 10/19/2015

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They are 12. Be a parent. The only reason they are like this is because you allowed it in the first place. YOU are the parent. How does your daughter afford these designer handbags? Does she have a job to pay for them? Who buys her make up? If you want family time... cancel whatever they have in their 'schedule' that conflicts w/ that. If your son is going out til all hours and not telling you where he is... ground his butt to his bedroom.

Now... if you have been spoiling them rotten for the past 12 years... making changes will likely make your life hell for quite a while, but you really only have two choices... start to set boundaries and be a real parent... or just give up and let them run wild (but don't be surprised if they end up pregnant and/or in jail very soon). I know what 'I' would choose....

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Michelle - posted on 10/19/2015

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I'm with the other ladies. There is no way my kids were allowed to act like that at 12! My 14yo son doesn't even act like that.
Dove said it all, you need to be a parent to them.

Jodi - posted on 10/19/2015

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Are you sure these children are 12? This is not how 12 year olds should be behaving......

Raye - posted on 10/19/2015

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I agree with Dove. You need to make the hard decisions and be a parent to your kids. The behavior you describe wouldn't be shocking if they were 21, but you say they're 12. They're children and need to learn how to behave.

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