Lydia - posted on 03/01/2012 ( 38 moms have responded )
I was reading a bit about time out and found it a pretty common method used in English speaking countries, but very controversial for example in Germany, where it seems to be officially NOT recommended from pediatricians etc.
One of the arguments against time out is simply that they are against the aspect of isolation of the child... another point they made that it might actually teach the child "it's OK to behave bad, I just have to sit on the chair later for a while".
I don't think that these are really strong arguments against time out, because with any punishment or discipline the child might get the idea of "oh whatever I want to hit my brother, so I just do it and take the punishment for it..."
I actually like the thought of isolating the child (=taking it out of the situation where bad behavior occurred) to give him a chance to calm down and think of the behavior. When the German experts wrote about it, it sounded so bad "isolating the child" like you put him away in a closet for hours, but really come on it's just a few minutes in a quiet corner and than you follow up with him and talk about the issue.
I don't have any personal experience with time out yet. But I would like to know if and how you in your family use it (how long, where, what you do to follow up or if bad behavior is repeated), in which situations you found it most effective and helpful and in which situations it seemed useless?
Did anybody have a child where time out just upset the child more and was totally ineffective?