Ria - posted on 09/24/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )
I'm a 35 year old mother of a 19 year old ,my daughter leila.Well I was a crazy 16 year old; Partying,Promiscuous,Disrespectful etc. I met my daughters father when he was 31 ,and I got pregnant no long after we had met. He took me to america ( I am a citizen of trinidad) for me to have our daughter there,he wasnt an american citizen either at the time and made sure that atleast his children where American citizen (going for that American dream lol). After I had Leila ,I basically left her with her father, I didn't feel like I was ready,and i didn't know what to do.
Her father and I made a deal that she would come every summer to vist me in Trinidad,and he did keep that promise. Now I am not some mother who just abandon her child,I love my daughter deeply. I cried and cried after giving birth to her because I know I wasn't going to be able to take her back with me,i've suffered from depression etc. I did not want to leave her but her dad convinced me it was the best decision.
Well as of today my daughter Leila and our relationship is somewhat okay,recently we had a fight ..and she was talking about how I abandon her ,that I do not care about her etc . When thats not the case at all. She travels alot with her husband from country to country, And has no time for anyone except her friends. So I feel it is hard for us to build a relationship. When she was a child ,she couldn't wait for summer to come around to come see me ,then as she got older it just seemed like she was mad at me and didn't consider me her mother but a stranger. Which hurts me to the core
I love my daughter with all my heart ,and know I may have not been the best mother but I tried & still try.
What can I do to help our relationship?
Please and Thankyou.