How to break pregnancy news to my mom

Jennifer - posted on 12/04/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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ok so I am 23 yrs old and just found out for sure at the Health Dept today that I am pregnant and have an appointment Monday morning to find out how far along I am cause I have no clue. Well my dad passed away when I was 18 and I know he would have been happy for me but my mom has already been on my case about being careful about preventing pregnancy and she will go CRAZY when I tell her I am pregnant. I'm so scared to tell her I almost don't want to say anything until I can block a TV screen and just avoid her all together. She told he I was stupid and was ruining my life when me and my husband announced our wedding arrangements for last year after we had been living together for 4 years at the time. She dramatized it bad enough she wouldn't even show interest when we went to get my wedding dress and didn't care. She is the type of person who is going to ask if I'm early enough for an abortion and shun me for life and she is all I have left parent wise so I am really scared....WHAT DO I DO????? :(

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/05/2013

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Good luck, hon! You'll do fine.

It sucks when your mom (the one who you would think would be closest to you and happiest for you) to act like that.

Don't beat yourself up about her, though. Honestly, I'm 43, and until 7 or 8 years ago, I continued to try to be the person that my mother wanted to see. Once I came to terms with I am ME, and I'm a good person, and a great mom, I felt much better about the whole situation.

I'm able to talk with my mom, and share, but I don't let her get close enough to hurt anymore. Don't get me wrong, I love her, always will, but I had to distance myself.

Keep your head up high. You're in a committed relationship. You've clearly planned for this, and are ready to be an awesome parent.

Jennifer - posted on 12/05/2013

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thanks that actually makes me feel a little better about telling her. I'll just have to let her know up front that there's nothing she can do about it other than be a good grandmother or not be involved. I'm sure she will come around some but will probably be like your situation where she isn't around much. Heck according to her me and my brother were accidents and mistakes lol but thank you so much. I'll keep all this in mind :)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/04/2013

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Tell her "welcome to the wonderful world of being a grandparent".

And then, BEFORE she can get negative, tell her that if she can't be supportive of you and your husband's decision to have a family, you won't bother her any longer.

My mom was same way. First, when we got married, it MUST have been because I was pregnant (WRONG) Then, when we did get pregnant, her response was "why did you do something so stupid". To which I replied "we PLANNED this, thank you." And I cordially invited her to step out of my business.

She came around after the baby was born, but she still doesn't spend a lot of time with them. Its really not that much of a loss.

If she can't be supportive, you surround yourself with people who can. But be honest with her and let her know up front. If she pisses you off, let her know! After all, you ARE pregnant...LOL...mood swings and all that...

Good luck. You'll do just fine

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