How to cope in a new country with inlaws and a new baby.

Amanda - posted on 02/22/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hello every1! This is my first time posting anything online to ask for advise, but it's gotten to a point where I'm willing to try anything just to say sane. I'm new in a country that's compeletly different from mine in every aspect especially the language. But even that can be adapted to in time, on the other hand though I don't know how to handle a mother inlaw that proves difficult.. She can be rude, insensitive, and quick tempered without warning, and it's something that I personally cannot deal with especially now that I have an infant. Any1 has any advise as to how deal with this for the sake of my husband at least cos I'm at that point where I have just had enough.

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Michelle - posted on 02/22/2014

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As long as you don't have to put up with it 24/7. A few hours on a Sunday isn't too bad.
She's obviously used to treating others that way and doesn't know any different and unfortunately she's too old to change. You may just have to learn not to take what she says to heart. I know it can be hard but it's not worth getting upset over someone you know just can't be nice.

Michelle - posted on 02/22/2014

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The French can be very rude. What has your husband said about it? Are you living with her? If you are living in her house then it can be hard because you can't just tell her to butt out.

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Amanda - posted on 02/22/2014

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Oh thankfully I'm not living with her but there's this tradition to have launch with her every Sunday. My husband says I should just ignore her, and even tells her off sometimes as she's the same with him too. If I do though, I worry to be the cause of any differences btw mother and son.

Amanda - posted on 02/22/2014

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Hello Michelle. Thanks for your respons. I'm African and my MIL is French. The difference in cultures is definitely a reason to consider, but I am making a lot of efforts considering the circumstances and I just wish she would do do the same.

Michelle - posted on 02/22/2014

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It would help to know where you have moved to and from. Different cultures have different views on families/child rearing and it's hard for us to help without knowing what nationality your MIL is.

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