How to Cope when feeling overwhelmed. Single mom 2 under 2

Heather Lynn - posted on 04/16/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi My name is Heather and I'm a single mommy to 3 boys ages 6, 1, and one month. Do not get me wrong I love my boys to death, they are my world, they are my everything. But sometimes I just get so overwhelmed. I feel like my day is constant whirlwind of diaper changes, feedings, washing bottles, making bottles, getting one down for a nap while the other just wakes up, washing dishes, doing laundry, etc. and wake up and repeat.. I feel like I'm spreading myself more thin than I knew was possible trying to make sure all three of their needs are met the moment they need them. And the times they all simultaneously need me how on earth do I prioritize who I devote my attention to first? I feel like I've lost myself right now. I feel if I tell anyone "Hey I'm having a bad day" or vent or just cry, I appear weak or as if I'm failing. And it's lonely. It's lonely to not have that partner to share the ups and down of your day with. When you're child does something amazing there's no one to share in that joy and when you just need a shoulder to cry on there's no one there for that either. Ultimately I guess my question is how do other single moms, and mom's with two under two, or multiple children deal and cope when they feel so overwhelmed? And does any one else feel the same as me sometime?

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Chana - posted on 04/16/2015

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I am not a single mom but I am a stay at home mom and it can and is overwhelming at times. My girls are 4 and 2 1/2 so I know how difficult it can be. You have to decide what is most important to get done. When I first brought our youngest home there were days when laundry wouldn't get done and the dishes would pile up(that is when I started using the dishwasher! LOL). You tend to the one in greatest need; if the baby has a dirty diaper that is more important than the one who needs a drink. You just have to figure out what needs to be first regardless if it is a need being met or something being cleaned. I have a picture hanging in my kitchen that says "Good Moms have sticky floors, dirty ovens and happy kids!" It is true because you are one person and can't do everything. Do you have someone to help you a little bit? It is necessary for you to get a little bit of time for yourself because it will make you a better mom for your kids. I don't know if this helped but just know that you aren't alone and if you have a mom that tells you she has never felt overwhelmed she is probably lying.

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Heather Lynn - posted on 04/17/2015

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Thank you!! That really does help put things into perspective, to just prioritize who's need is the most important and should be dealt with first. I don't know if it's all moms or just me but I feel if I don't have everything done right then and done perfect I'm failing or not good enough. And yes I do have my dad who is amazingly supportive and helpful. After expressing my feelings even offered to watch the boys while I maybe just went to a movie. I struggle with feeling like "me time" is selfish but I guess we all really do need it to recharge our batteries to in turn be better moms.

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