How to deal with all the tantrums and answering back from a 4 year old

Christine - posted on 08/11/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a daughter who is 4 but soon to be 5.but for the past 2 years we seem to be having a hard time dealing with tantrums,answering back,shouting at us,calling us name and even hitting me.i try doing time out with her,but she don't listen all I get is nasty words from her.im worried what the impact will be on my son who is 5 months old.i also feel she has no friends as when she started school this year,she only got invited to 2 birthdays party's.i feel it must be me I'm at breaking point as sometimes I don't want to be around her.no one seems they want to help.

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Cherish - posted on 08/11/2012

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lol don't we all want people to do what we say right now??
If she is being mean or having a tantrum I would ignore it,do not give her ANY attention for her bad behavior(yelling and arguing w/her IS attention).Try to "catch" her being good.Say things like "I like how you are sharing"(or whatever it is that she is doing good)
When she does talk back or hits you take her to time out,or to her room,DON'T say anything,just take her to time out...
She will hopefully learn that if she is going to be mean,she will get no attention.And if you catch her being good,hopefully she will seek positive attention more than negative attention.

The books "parenting with love and logic" and "the explosive child" might be helpful :)

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Christine - posted on 08/11/2012

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They don't seem to have any problems at school,considering she a late 5 year old.i haven't read the book.she don't seem moody just can be very demanding and always on the go and wanting to do do things when she says.if we don't that's when problems start.

Cherish - posted on 08/11/2012

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How does she behave in school?Does she have any developmental delays?
Have you read "The explosive child" or "parenting with love and logic"...also is she is "moody" the book "the out of sync child" might be helpful

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